The more I think the more ticked I get

charmedgrl517

So DDs 6 month appt was yesterday and i left there irritated because I feel the doctor said I didn't listen to her! I really liked her doctor and the office and it was recommended by a few different friends. DD has been constipated since beginning of January with a few times of normal good bowel movements, most of the time they are very thick like play doh and the doc said that's too thick so at her 4 month appt she said to skip cereal and vegetables and stick with fruit for now like prunes and pears and give her up to 4oz prune juice or up to 3 tsp of karo syrup in her bottles a day. I stuck with prune juice. Everyone including the doc and nurses who you talk to when you call the office says that this is very common at this age and works itself out soon. Well Monday night before her appt DD actually cried because she was trying to poop. Of course I called the doc office and talked To a nurse and she told me things I could which we already do like warm baths/rectal temp and bicycle movement her. So at her appt yesterday the doctor said I should be giving her cereal and trying a lot of new food with her!!!!!!! What the hell! That is the exact opposite she told me at her 4 month appt and the nurses never said that! I knew we couldn't give her water and we got the ok to give her water now which she loves and im hoping it helps loosen her bowel movements. Her lower abdomen is soft and no knots or anything like anything is blocked. So am I crazy or is my doc an idiot!? I'm sure alot of it is trial and error but I do value the doctors opinion and for her to pretty much say I didn't listen to her infuriates me! Advice please and thanks for ready my long rant!!! I'm on my phone so I'm sure there are typos!

Ladiebug710

I know you can definitely expect two different answers from two different docs, but for the same doc to tell you two totally different things is kind of crazy.  I hope LO feels better, and the rest of the appointment went well.

orangegoggles

Ugh , I think in general doctors are so rushed and out the door before the appointment starts. She probably said the wrong thing the first time or doesn't remember why she said it and is now changing her tune. I'd be ticked too. Don't beat yourself up, you listened to her advice and made a decision based on what the doctor told you. I'm sorry that she mislead you then or now. Not surf what the recommendation is for constipation.

erinlovesdavid

I don't think this is worth getting worked up over. It sounds like she had you try something, and since that doesn't seem to be helping, she is having you try something different. Keep in mind that two months is a long time, developmentally. It is quite possible that her recommendation changed based on your DD's age.

Izabella22

erinlovesdavid:

I don't think this is worth getting worked up over. It sounds like she had you try something, and since that doesn't seem to be helping, she is having you try something different. Keep in mind that two months is a long time, developmentally. It is quite possible that her recommendation changed based on your DD's age.

This. Food at 4 months is discouraged by some docs. Ours preferred we wait till 6 months, but at that age to try a wide range of foods.  

charmedgrl517

Thank you. I guess I didn't word it right but what is said was that I was confused in a round about way and said that what she said at the 4 month appt about skipping cereal and vegetables and stick with fruit wasn't she meant and that I should have been trying a lot of food with DD by now. I know between 4 and 6 months is optional so that's part of what pisses me off is that she is making it seem like I'm doing sumthin wrong by bit starting yet even tho she told me to wait! I'm just in the moment of bring irritated and hope this is just a one time situation and doesn't happen again in the future or I will be finding DD a new doc that doesn't say one thing and then say she didn't say that!

orangegoggles

I took it as she was annoyed and upset that the doctor implied that she didn't listen to her.

charmedgrl517

pangnl79:

I took it as she was annoyed and upset that the doctor implied that she didn't listen to her.

That's it exactly! I just ranted and on and on a lil too much!

orangegoggles

charmedgrl517:

pangnl79:

I took it as she was annoyed and upset that the doctor implied that she didn't listen to her.

That's it exactly! I just ranted and on and on a lil too much!

Haha I totally got it. I would be mad too if someone thought I *chose* not to do something for my LO, even though they had never told me in the first place!  

Junebug060609

WTF is up with your doc giving you conflicting info?  (I get saying she can have different foods at 6m than at 4, but it sounds like she implied you were in the wrong for doing what you did in the interim of the two appts)

FWIW, in my experience, you're doing it right.  Cereal (which is usally iron fortified) backs them up.  Fruit loosens things (except bananas, those can back things up as well).  Prunes are the best looseners I've found, with pears in a distant second place.  The thermometer trick and baths work well with my guy (bath works a little too well, unfortunately). 

charmedgrl517

Ok I'm beginning to feel much better about being upset haha I'm gonna try to let it go and see what happens at the next couple appts and hope this was a one time weird thing! Thanks again ladies!!

luvmyducks

Did you remind her of what she told you at 4m?  I'd be irritated also.  Plus the AAP actually suggests waiting until 6m to feed any sort of solids.....so yeah, I would be side-eying her.  And many suggest not even feeding rice cereal bc of constipation issues and the fact that it doesn't have much nutrition.  My Pedi was okay with me skipping cereal all together except oatmeal if I wanted.

jertie

Yeah - I'd be irritated.  I think pp was right - doc was rushed the first time and told you the wrong thing.  I hate it when a person in authority is condescending - especially when they're the ones that screwed up - ugh!