Some people make it all "seem" so easy

MiaMichelle

Maybe it's just me, but do you have other new mamas in your life that make it seem like they have NO issues at all with their DC?  I know one sweet gal in particular, who never talks about any of the issues she is going through with her DD. Nothing about lack of sleep.  Nothing about fussy periods.  Nothing about hormone swings pp.  Nothing at all about the struggles or life changes she's going through.

Of course, some people have an easier time adjusting, or a kid who is really a good baby.  For the most part, mine is really a good one too.  But as moms, we have to support one another and share what we are going through.  There is just no way a new mom doesn't have struggles of some sort.  This isn't about selling your life as carefree as possible.

Just wanted to share that

brisell23

That is why I'm so glad that we have this place to share our frustrations, vent and to share all the great things too!

Laustique

I know what you mean.  It seems that some people feel that discussing the difficulties is tantamount to admitting failure.  For me, it's either vent or drink.  I'd rather vent.   

(Kidding about the drinking...maybe.)

847Christine

Luckily, I don't have any of those "super moms" around me.  I have an extremely easy baby.  So easy that we're afraid to have another one b/c we'd never be this lucky twice.  Even saying that, it hasn't been all rainbows & butterflies.  BFing was definitely a struggle at first & we've had plenty of other stresses besides that.

neen01

Definitely have heard that and people were shocked when they asked how it was going the first month and I would reply with really how it was going - she was crazy and crying all the time.   We had a really rough first month just getting used to everything I guess but everyone seemed like they wanted to hear - oh this is so wonderful and fun.  We just kept saying - wow this is really hard. 

After that first month she got a lot better and then we could really say - everything is great! She started sleeping 6+hrs a night and being more normal during the day although never napping and we just got more used to everything about our new life. 

Just like when I was pg and people said oh congrats you must be loving it and I would reply with - I am just trying not to throw up on you right now.  I think maybe I'm too honest but I think it helped me not to have to put on a happy face and pretend everything was fine both in person and on here.

 

Mrs.Mclstar48

I completely agree! Drives me insane when my crazy SIL talks about how easy her first DS was right after I talk about Haileys fussiness and reflux struggles. Thanks for rubbing it in.