Why are people always shocked?

Luckbeababy · March 2013

CLECyclist:
OP since you're really not getting it...
I took your post as making fun of/making light of people who describe themselves as shocked when they got their BFP. Just because you have it completely figured out how you'll feel on things when you get your + does not mean it's a bad thing for someone to be shocked.
I feel like your post was a passive-aggressive attempt and calling on those who have recently said they were shocked. Just because you don't understand something doesn't mean you should (or that it's okay to) make fun of it.

I have a nice thought out response to this but I am afraid to post because I can't figure out paragraphs and don't want to be biitched at by others for lack of spacing

so I will just say I think everyone is reading way to much into her post and is trying to find a correlation between a regs post and this one and make it look like a call out. There is no denying the fact that shocked is commonly used in BFP posts! Thanks for your response on my other post, I agree, maybe not the best idea to compare the two.

Luckbeababy · March 2013

ColeRose:
Luckbeababy:
I must be the biggest biitch ever then because right after seeing a not so cute baby on this board it made me think of other not so cute babies and what people think about commenting on them so I created a post about it. I think a lot of posts are created after something is said on here don't you think? Is that really a bad thing? It does not mean she never thought that before, just that seeing it made her think of it. You girls really do need some big girl panties around here. At least this is a real post that encourages conversation, not one of your mocking posts about how interesting you are. But I guess if that is the direction you want the board to go in then right on.
Apples to oranges it ain't the same thing. There are tons of posts and s/o posts generated but saying how someone should or shouldn't feel after receiving probably the best news of their life doesn't make sense. The fact that it was posted after an active member posted her BFP just seemed tacky.
I'm not sure why I'm responding because all you do it is put shiit out there that no one will agree with so *shrug.*

Not true. GermanGirl said the other day in a BOAB thread that she agrees with me 3/4 of time. So looks like not everyone disagrees with me all of the time. You participated in that post, naturally, so you should've known that. Get your facts straight

curlylocks3 · March 2013

::insert eyeroll::

madasm0530 · March 2013

jefa621:
I'm shocked that this thread is still going on. SHOCKED!

DONT USE THAT WORD!!!!

bumpuser1282882 · March 2013

ColeRose:
MeatandBandP:
bornmommy:
adunkin:
I just think it's a strange thing to say. Especially when they've done so much to make it happen that month. The board has been boring. I thought I'd post something. With over 800 views so far, at least it's making things a bit more lively.
So you posted this to start drama?
You posted this right after someone posted their BFP and said they were shocked. Why try and call someone out like that over such nonsense.
This. I didn't like that it was posted after someone's BFP announcement. I thought it was in poor taste. Is the board pretty dead now? Sure, but I didn't think insulting her word choice was necessary.
AFM when I got my BFP I was shocked because we had been trying for a short amount of time and just seeing those lines is surprising. If I get another BFP I am sure I will be shocked and surprised. I don't know how else to explain it to you.

All of this. I also thought it was interesting that this was posted shortly after a BFP thread.

When I got my BFP, it wasn't long after I had just had a "period". So yeah, I was pretty flucking shocked at that one.

I just don't see the point of OP's post.

Luckbeababy · March 2013

CLECyclist:
Luckbeababy:
I have a nice thought out response to this but I am afraid to post because I can't figure out paragraphs and don't want to be biitched at by others for lack of spacing so I will just say I think everyone is reading way to much into her post and is trying to find a correlation between a regs post and this one and make it look like a call out. There is no denying the fact that shocked is commonly used in BFP posts! Thanks for your response on my other post, I agree, maybe not the best idea to compare the two.
I can see what you mean about reading into the post, but if you were one of the people who used "shocked" in your BFP post I bet it'd be hard not to take it personally.
OP sounded like she was being condescending, and she's fairly unapologetic about all of that. It's fine if she thinks it's weird to say you're "shocked" but eh...What did she want? A bunch of replies that went, "I know, right!?!?" or public outrage and disgust? Just not sure what her point was of making this post.

This is how I think of it. It may or may not be how the OP intended it but whatev. when someone is actively TTC and they list all of the things they did that cycle to achieve it and still say they are shocked they got a BFP I think to myself, no shiit you got a BFP, look at all that you did to achieve it. A BFP is exactly what you were trying for, so why so shocked? Of course they are surprised, happy, excited but why shocked? Now if you are not tryimg at all and using protection or say have a 1% chance of conceiving on your own and you get a BFP then yes shocked is definitely the right word because it was not a goal you were trying to achieve. Does that make any sense? Probably not, but that is how I view it.