My host doesn't want to send invites

TX-Bride

She told my, so this is the date and time that we agreed on, just let your guests know!! Is it bad if I print the invites on my host's behalf?

 

526SadieSadie

::headdesk::

Part of being a hostess of a party is to invite the guests...even if she wasn't mailing invitations, it's her responsibility to invite people - she needs to do it.  I can't imagine how people offer to host a baby shower and don't have the first idea of what it entails.  Good Grief.

mben1119

526SadieSadie:

::headdesk::

Part of being a hostess of a party is to invite the guests...even if she wasn't mailing invitations, it's her responsibility to invite people - she needs to do it.  I can't imagine how people offer to host a baby shower and don't have the first idea of what it entails.  Good Grief.

This. Your hostess needs to man up and do what she's supposed to, or you can "fire" her.

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rhubarb123

mabenner1:

526SadieSadie:

::headdesk::

Part of being a hostess of a party is to invite the guests...even if she wasn't mailing invitations, it's her responsibility to invite people - she needs to do it.  I can't imagine how people offer to host a baby shower and don't have the first idea of what it entails.  Good Grief.

This. Your hostess needs to man up and do what she's supposed to, or you can "fire" her.

Good grief...what is she 16?  Maybe you can speak to someone close to you and her that can give her a few points (as in:  what the duties of a hostess of a baby shower does).  It involves much more then picking a date.  If you don't have anyone that can talk to her then you need to yourself.  Explain that SHE needs to set HER budget to host the shower.  If she didn't realize it involves finding a place to hold the shower, picking a time and approrpriate food for the time she picks, decide if she wants to have games or not, if so buy some prizes, and decorations.  She needs to make sure everyone invited has a seat.  If she cannot or is unwilling to do all of these things then she should not have offered to host and you need to "let her go" gently.  Maybe she really IS clueless.

Disneygeek77

This does not bode well for your shower.  Why in the world would she not want to send invites? 

EastCoastBride

stw_77:

This does not bode well for your shower.  Why in the world would she not want to send invites? 

Yeah, this was my thought too.  Makes me worry about the rest of your shower if she doesn't feel that invitations need to actually be sent out!

FakeFinn

EastCoastBride:

stw_77:

This does not bode well for your shower.  Why in the world would she not want to send invites? 

Yeah, this was my thought too.  Makes me worry about the rest of your shower if she doesn't feel that invitations need to actually be sent out!

Yes, I'm worried that she won't make the necessary arrangements and/or will pay for them. Does the hostess know anything about hosting a shower? 

526SadieSadie

mrsgerman:

I'm so confused as to how shes planning on getting people to know about the shower. Is she going to try telepathically telling them and hope they show?

Oh god she isn't going to do a mass FB invite is she? 

It appears that the hostess expects OP to call/e-mail people and give them the details.  A FB invite would almost be preferable to the guest of honor doing all the inviting.

1026pumpkin

I would let your hostess know that you don't feel comfortable inviting people to a party held in your honor.  If she's short on time or is having an issue, I guess you could offer to send out the invites, with her contact info clearly listed for RSVPs.  I would do that as a last resort, though.

EmJ&B

1026pumpkin:

I would let your hostess know that you don't feel comfortable inviting people to a party held in your honor.  If she's short on time or is having an issue, I guess you could offer to send out the invites, with her contact info clearly listed for RSVPs.  I would do that as a last resort, though.

This.

 I'm worried about how the rest of the party will go if the invitations are holding her up.

TX-Bride

The shower is hosted at her house and she does great parties as far as food, but usually does evites for her own parties.

I keep telling her if the shower is an inconvenience she doesn't need to host, but she keeps insisting, she is family ( I think I would offend her if I tell her let's not throw my shower!!) and the shower is going to be a very small intimate shower, guest list is 11-12 poeple. I think maybe she thinks because is small, it's informal and no invite is necessary!?! I don't know. 

I am going to talk to her this evening and let her know that if she can's take of the invites, I would do the invites and ask my guest to RSVP to her.

 

BeckyTheEngineer

I know that a lot of people don't like evites, but if I read it right that she is having about 12 close family and friends at her house, I would encourage her to go with evites. I think that sounds better that you having to invite your own guests.

ehnasto

She wants you to use your mad ESP and telekinesis skills, silly MTB.