Really?

SmittyPants

Just got an invitation, via email, to a bridal shower being held at a bar where there will be "food and drink specials", a wishing well, and a recipe collection.

So let me see if I have this right:

I'm to give up a Saturday to attend a bridal shower where I'm to bring a gift, a smaller gift for the wishing well, a recipe, and then pay for my own food and drinks? 

Really?

I counted 45 people on the invite. Here's an idea, if you can't afford to provide that many people with food and drink at your shower, DON'T INVITE THAT MANY PEOPLE, or, have it at someone's home where you can do sandwiches and wine.

WTF? 

/rant over. 

tarebear9891

I just had something similar happen to me. My cousin who is on her 4th kid (under 7) threw herself a baby shower and re-registered for everything.

Yeah, I didn't go. I already went to the first 3.

BeachBum73

That's pretty bad.  But if you're not willing to "give up a Saturday" then they probably aren't a very good friend (or maybe it's family?) and it will be an easy decision.

MrsWindyCity

Wow, that's awful.

ThePolishHammer

A wishing well? I've never heard of a wishing well for a party. Throw a quarter in and wish her luck?

Smootchy

I like going to showers and I'm getting pretty sick of them. I keep getting the bring a book and a pack of diapers along with a gift. Dude, diapers are like $20 plus a book, ok$5... You're going to get a cheap gift. Especially because we're hardly even friends and I wouldn't spend that much money on you. ($30 is my price for non-family/hardly friends showers) So yeah, if I had to buy my own food & drinks... I'd probably just tell DH I had to go then meet my other girlfriends up at a different bar for an afternoon cocktail.

 

 

MrsT0514

Yeah thats definitely a bit tacky IMO. But like a PP said, if this person is a good friend of yours, I'd probably just go.

MrsPteranodon

I would go, don't bring a gift. Just a card. Eat and drink and when you go to leave, Tell the waiter, it's on her tab, and point to the person that invited you

Dwinalsinlove

MrsPteranodon:

I would go, don't bring a gift. Just a card. Eat and drink and when you go to leave, Tell the waiter, it's on her tab, and point to the person that invited you

I'm a dirty lurker but I like this plan.

I'm kinda surprised there are so many people who don't know what a wishing well is. Maybe it is a regional thing. I don't think I have ever been to a bridal shower without one. For us it is just a place to stick little gifts like wooden spoons and measuring cups.

schnappycat

I've never heard of a wishing well either. 

missyishere

I Heart The 80s:

Ridiculous. And what is a wishing well?

Team hasn't ever heard of a wishing well. 

LuckyDad

Unless this is your BFF or your sister, skip it. I'm assuming if it was someone that close to you, you would have said this is a terrible plan.

Send a nice note and skip it. Set up a coffee or lunch date with the pregger woman in question and have your own two person shower.

mben1119

I Heart The 80s:

Ridiculous. And what is a wishing well?

It is a basket, sometimes even a smaller well, that people put small gifts and cards containing cash into. On top of the other gift they brought. They're so bad.

LuckyDad

mabenner1:

I Heart The 80s:

Ridiculous. And what is a wishing well?

It is a basket, sometimes even a smaller well, that people put small gifts and cards containing cash into. On top of the other gift they brought. They're so bad.

I would throw a penny in and make a wish. 

IUIBaby

What the heck.

Leonardsmama

chapski:

I like going to showers and I'm getting pretty sick of them. I keep getting the bring a book and a pack of diapers along with a gift. Dude, diapers are like 20 plus a book, ok5... You're going to get a cheap gift. Especially because we're hardly even friends and I wouldn't spend that much money on you. 30 is my price for nonfamily/hardly friends showers So yeah, if I had to buy my own food amp; drinks... I'd probably just tell DH I had to go then meet my other girlfriends up at a different bar for an afternoon cocktail.
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I like this plan. An afternoon with no kids, a good friend and a cocktail sounds perfect.