Baby #2 timing

potbellypig

Background: DD was born in January 2012. I didn't really enjoy pregnancy (I was super tired and sore) or the first 6 months of babydom, mostly because I didn't know what I was doing and found that very overwhelming. I'm thinking it'll be better the second time around because I'll be more confident with my choices and will be more relaxed about things. We plan on keeping DD in daycare 2-3 days a week. We want two kids. We are moving to a new house in June. Finances are not an issue. I've heard the argument that it's nice to "get the baby stuff over with". I'm wondering if that's a good enough reason to get pregnant with #2 sooner rather than later. Would it really be easier to have them closer together? Or do you just end up with two kids at equality irritating stages at the same time (i.e. a tantruming toddler and a newborn) vs. a three year old and a newborn? Before I got pregnant with DD I figured I wanted two kids two years apart, and we are coming to the time when I would be coming off my pill to make it possible for the two-year mark to happen. I'm just not looking forward to doing it again, but I'm wondering if I should just bite the bullet and do it. Thoughts?

bugandbibs

If you are not sure, it doesn't hurt to wait a bit more. I would suggest waiting until after to move to start ttc. Focus on preparing to move and getting settled.

Brooke81

Unfortunatly baby #2 is overwhelming because you have a #1 as well. You do know what you are doing more so the baby part is a bit easier and you are deffinitly more laid back. That said each child is different so there is still a learning curve as to what works for this child. Oh and preganancy is a bit mroe challenging when you have a toddler runing around than when it is your 1st.

That all being said I like the 2 year spacing that we have between #1 and #2. There will be about 2.5 years between #2 and #3. I like that they are able to play together and are interested in similar things. I hope it will help them to be close later in childhood/life. Ultimatly yor are going to have to choose what you think works for you and yor family.

JordynLeighx3

We planned to have ours 5 years apart in age so one would be in school and we wouldn't have two in diapers and two daycare expenses.

We got pregnant with twins. Plans shot. Haha.
This is now our plans for baby number 3.

PunkyBooster

I plan on ds and 2 being 3 to 4 years apart.

designer303

Sorry I lurk, but since this actually hit pretty close to home I decided to chime in... I actually have some of the same feelings, but mine are more related to the high risk pregnancy that I had and feeling terrified that I won't be able to take of DS if I end up in the same boat that I did last time.  I know that there are no answers for me and I could easily end up in the same high risk/ bed rest situation or things could be fine, but it has kept me from ttc so far.  I wonder if it wouldnt all just be ok and I should jsut do it, but I agree that it is much harder to decide to go for #2 when you know what might be ahead and for me I want to make sure that DS doesn't suffer because I decided to have another baby.  Right now DH and I have decided to start ttc in the fall.  I guess my point is that you aren't alone... I'm starting to think it would be best if I just got KU by accident and then I know we just be happy about it