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So my fianc and I were together for about a year and half. At the end of November we found out we were having a baby. We were excited yet scared. I'm only 19 and he is 20. He has always been immature but it seemed when we found out we were pregnant he was trying to grow up. Well on Christmas I was put on bed rest, he then seemed to kinda go away. He started to stay out with friends and not come home at night. So we would fight and he said he would stop. The one night he did it again and I said if he couldn't come home then leave. I said it of anger just wanting him home. So he packed
His stuff and he was supposed to come back the next day, yet it didnt happen. We kept arguing, I told
Him he was worthless and a pathetic excuse of a man. And he says that me telling him that made him not want our relationship and that I ripped his heart out.... But he was the one not coming home, then got a new girlfriend not even 2 weeks later. To me that is just disrespectful to me and our baby. I know I said mean things, but did I really deserve for
Him to leave, not come
Back, and to get a new girlfriend???? He says he will be there for his kid, but literally hasn't gone to an appontment since he left, hasn't went baby shopping, hasn't learned what makes baby kick, hasn't done anything! He says he is saving money, but a father does more than that. Oh he also pulled the i want a dna test. more than likely because his friends said to say itHe hasn't been a father yet, and only disrespected his child to me. Why should I let him be apart of its life when he has done so many hurtful things and not been concerned. All I want is my
Baby to have its mom and dad raise it together, not this. Everyone is telling me
His new girl is just a replacement and when I stop talking to
Him and he realizes he lost me
And he baby is when he'll want to fix
Things. Is this true? What should i do? Did I really deserve all this? All I wanted was him to be home:'
His stuff and he was supposed to come back the next day, yet it didnt happen. We kept arguing, I told
Him he was worthless and a pathetic excuse of a man. And he says that me telling him that made him not want our relationship and that I ripped his heart out.... But he was the one not coming home, then got a new girlfriend not even 2 weeks later. To me that is just disrespectful to me and our baby. I know I said mean things, but did I really deserve for
Him to leave, not come
Back, and to get a new girlfriend???? He says he will be there for his kid, but literally hasn't gone to an appontment since he left, hasn't went baby shopping, hasn't learned what makes baby kick, hasn't done anything! He says he is saving money, but a father does more than that. Oh he also pulled the i want a dna test. more than likely because his friends said to say itHe hasn't been a father yet, and only disrespected his child to me. Why should I let him be apart of its life when he has done so many hurtful things and not been concerned. All I want is my
Baby to have its mom and dad raise it together, not this. Everyone is telling me
His new girl is just a replacement and when I stop talking to
Him and he realizes he lost me
And he baby is when he'll want to fix
Things. Is this true? What should i do? Did I really deserve all this? All I wanted was him to be home:'
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Re: Need advice or help!?
Good Luck. You have to be strong for you and your baby. Do not allow him to walk on you. It does not sound like he is ready to be a parent or even married.
All I can say is I have been there and I am so glad I am done with that part of my life. I got 2 great kids out of it. Life will go on and having a kid or kids does not mean you have to be with someone who does not love and respect you. There are people out there that will cherish you and your baby.