I just want to cry (mini-vent/pity party)

VeilSdeGTO

ETA: Sorry this got so long.

DD's daycare is closed today and I asked DH if he could take a half day since I only teach the last three periods of the day. Unfortunately, he said he could go in late but not come home early. That was no help so I filled out a request form yesterday to take the day off. I also got my classes covered, which is really just one since the last two is an elective that I teach with another person.

I ended up feeling pretty sick last night and today, both DD and I have been really under the weather, both with fevers and no appetite. DH ended up getting called into work early because of a series of bad luck events and didn't get home til I was putting DD to bed. 

I am exhausted, feeling like crap, and both of our moms are coming to visit tomorrow. That normally would be fine except the only time they can make it is from 11:30 til 2 for lunch. DD naps from 12-1:30. Looks like her schedule will be going out the window tomorrow.

The kicker is that work emailed saying how chaotic it was today without me, how it was such a strain on my co-workers to cover my classes and left everyone feeling "frustrated and disgruntled." They said that I should have given more advanced noticed and that I need to remember that my priority should be my classes and duties when I'm at work.

I just want to cry. I am feeling defeated today and I am missing out on so much of DD's life because of a job that I obviously am not giving 100% at.

adoxyinherear

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time! I would argue with your work, though, that your first priority ALWAYS should be yourself and your family. And all places of employment should be prepared for last minute call outs, especially where children are involved. You made the effort to get your classes covered! Many people wouldn't even do that. *hugs*

mork

::hugs::

bmv1980

I'm in the "work to live" camp. NOT "live to work". I've always been very up front with my employer about my family always coming first. Work should never be anyone's FIRST priority. I still feel guilty for taking time off. I work with kids, so it's super important that everyone works as scheduled to maintain licensing ratios. It seems like everyone else calls in sick on a whim though! I think I'm rambling...I've had a rough week too, I'm sick, feverish and have been crying about everything. I'm a mess. The point I was trying to get at is that you had every right to call into work! You made sure your classes were covered, and everyone made it through the day. Shame on them for making the comments that they did. They were totally unnecessary and unproductive!

orangegoggles

I would definitely not worry about it. The person who sent you that email was unprofessional. At my school you just put it into the sub system and don't worry about it again. If they can't get a sub or it's done last minute, it's the schools responsibility to find coverage. Since you took the time to find your own coverage, I think it shows that you are a dedicated employee. You are right that family always come first, shame on them. FWIW the people who you asked to cover for you did agree to it and shouldn't be complaining afterwards, poor taste on their part.

ellebelle2384

RusalkaSings:

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time! I would argue with your work, though, that your first priority ALWAYS should be yourself and your family. And all places of employment should be prepared for last minute call outs, especially where children are involved. You made the effort to get your classes covered! Many people wouldn't even do that. *hugs*

This.  Big hugs! 

melly918

RachaelA:

Your priority is your family and I'd be talking to someone higher up about the ridiculous email. What if you had just called out in the morning for being sick? It would have been actually last minute. Enough time to arrange a sub is not last minute.

This. Can you go to HR and express your feelings about this? Or your supervisor? I am not a teacher but I work as a counselor in the schools and if someone said this to me while covering my kids during my maternity leave I would have been pissed! I hope you and DD feel better soon!

Oatoa

I agree with PP.  The email your work sent you was uncalled for and unprofessional.  Its not like you call out every friday or because you were hanging out with your friends.  You didn't have child care and your baby takes precedence over everything else.  Hugs to you and I hope your weekend goes well.

ewilliams1127

Oatoa:

I agree with PP.  The email your work sent you was uncalled for and unprofessional.  Its not like you call out every friday or because you were hanging out with your friends.  You didn't have child care and your baby takes precedence over everything else.  Hugs to you and I hope your weekend goes well.

Agreed. I find that ridiculous that they are chastizing you for being responsible and finding coverage!  

FmrAFBrat

ewilliams1127:

Oatoa:

I agree with PP.  The email your work sent you was uncalled for and unprofessional.  Its not like you call out every friday or because you were hanging out with your friends.  You didn't have child care and your baby takes precedence over everything else.  Hugs to you and I hope your weekend goes well.

Agreed. I find that ridiculous that they are chastizing you for being responsible and finding coverage!  

This.  I just left a job in December because of a similar situation....even though I always made up the time. I started a new one where they do get it....they even hired me pregnant.  Make sure you take care of you and the baby.  They can get coverage-they are just being jerks about it. FWIW I would watch them over the next few months & see what happens.  Document any other nastiness & I'd keep the email.

LoveOfMikesLife

Wow... That's a rough day. And your first priority is your DD, I don't care where you are psychically.

Maybe your moms can keep an eye on DD while you sneak in a little nap. Sounds like you need a break. 

VeilSdeGTO

Thanks, ladies! You guys always have of way of making me feel better. I know the email was uncalled for and that there was nothing else I could have done.

The email was sent by the vice principal, someone I actually do like and respect. I think that is why it stung so bad.

I recognize that I haven't given my all to my work since DD and we're TTC 2 which will make it all that much harder for me to be there without missing a lot of days. I'm just wondering if its even worth it to work.

JulyMomma2U2

RusalkaSings:

I am so sorry you are having such a hard time! I would argue with your work, though, that your first priority ALWAYS should be yourself and your family. And all places of employment should be prepared for last minute call outs, especially where children are involved. You made the effort to get your classes covered! Many people wouldn't even do that. *hugs*

This, 100%.  I'm sorry they handled this so poorly.. priority should always be you and your family.  Always.

I hope you guys are feeling better, soon!

spincat9

I'm so sorry you are not feeling well and dealing with such garbage. <<hugs>>