FFFCs

KTdidit

I'l start:

DS went to BD's last night. FH said he mentioned BD's name to DS as they were playing before I got home from work and DS got upset, so when we left I didn't mention to DS where we were going in order to avoid a half hour screaming fit on the way. Usually when that happens and he sees his dad he's fine so I didn't think anything of it. Plus we've had the same meeting spot for a while DS knows where he's going after a certain point. DS was fine all the way there. We get to the meeting spot and soon as DS sees BD he flips $h!t. Screaming bloody murder like someone was hurting him. I try to calm him down, BD tries to calm him down. All DS wants is FH. "I want say byebye. I want say nightnight. I want DEEEEE". FH stayed in the car but was trying to tell DS that it's fine, he will see him Sunday, it's ok you'll have fun with your Dad. Nothing worked. DS threw a fir the whole time DB was trying to get him in his carseat and apparently a whole ten minutes after they left.

My FFFCs:

1) I could tell that BD's feelings were hurt that DS wanted FH and not him. And I'm glad. He makes no effort with DS except for his EOWE and even then he will cancel and postpone for stupid reasons. 

2) I'm glad that DB has to experience DS's shrieking at least once. No kind or amount of discipline makes him calm down and stop. And it will bring BD down a couple notches, since he's convinced that he's a better parent than I am. Good luck buddy.

 

What's yours?

FutureMrsWittig

SDs mom bailed on visitation twice last week.  The second time I picked SD up and took her sledding.  While we were out on the hill SD looked me square in the face and said "You're more like my mom than my real mom is.  And I don't even care any more."

What I said back was "I love you, let's go again."  What I wanted to say was "I know, and I'm sorry, but I love you so much."  I wish I could slap her mother.

coopsbaby

I've got one. DD is a freshman in high school and will be playing for the soccer team this spring. She brought home a player info sheet yesterday and under parents wrote in my fiance's name as her dad. She said her dad doesn't know anything about her so why put him down. 

 

I won't, but I would LOVE to show that to BD. He's always worked up about how he's their real dad. Well, then come see them, talk to them, be there for them. They know who the REAL dad is. 

mccall0113

I cannot wait for my 2 week honeymoon in June.  I literally have to go out of the country to get a break.  BD still doesn't have suitable housing for overnights.  Wish I could have them stay with him.  Pretty sad I trust my teenage babysitters more than BD to handle my bipolar son.  Ireland, here we come!!

bratty44

For the newbie- what is a FFFCs?

HisChamaoleGirl

I'm a little torn with mine. DH just returned from six weeks of training Wednesday night and tomorrow he works from 6 to 6 and I leave for 3 weeks of training on Sunday morning. I would love to spend time with him right now, but he's been on the phone with SS for the last hour. I want to spend time with DH, but the rational side of me is trying to brush it off since him and SS are having such a good time. Hearing them laugh and joke makes me wonder if the "I dont want to talk to my dad" stage was just a phase. I hope so and I'm glad its over.

FutureMrsWittig

piffle42:

BF has said he's going to let DH adopt DS. After it's final he doesn't plan on ever talking to DS again. I need to post an update on all that. Our parent coordinator asked if BF and his wife plan on having kids and BF said yes all excitedly. I'm super judging him for that.

I'm super judging him too.