Rethinking one and done?

Izabella22

Anyone else there or been there? I think its just a phase so I'm keeping my trap shut to DH, but just wondered if anyone here had rethought one and done? My rational brain tells me DS should be an only child and that I just need to pull the trigger on some permanent BC but I find myself thinking "Not yet". It doesn't help DH has brought it up about DS having a sibling and told me he had a dream about a little girl the other night... ugh.

Sonadora

I have pretty much not had a waver in wanting only one, ever. Now if I could just get my H on board.

I'd say that if you are wavering, now is not the time to mkae permanent BC decisions. Pick a time to reevaluate and see where your thoughts are then.

hopefulmom81

I'm there.

I am 95% sure we are one and done, but there is that nagging 5%.  The, "could I?"

I guess the way I look at it is that it will always be a hankering, but we know that emotionally, financially, and everything else-wise, our family will be best as a family of 3.

We are also discussing permanent BC, but will probably not pull the trigger on it for another year or so. 

martinimomma

Sonadora:

I'd say that if you are wavering, now is not the time to mkae permanent BC decisions. Pick a time to reevaluate and see where your thoughts are then.

Agree with Sona on the above.  But as one who found herself quite expectedly KU after being fully comfortable with being one and done, I'd say make sure you've got the "nonpermanent" BC under solid control, too, until you know for sure. 

sonshine0609

I have never been a one & done person, however have a DH who is but wavers. My advice along the lines of PP's. Hold off on permanent BC if you are having doubts. It's an awful big step to make if might change your mind.

Izabella22

Yeah I have an appt w/ my Ob in a couple weeks... I think we'll talk Mirena and see where it goes. Its tough b/c financially we could swing another child and I think if I had time I'd seriously consider it. But DH is much older than me so even DS was squeezing the end of his timeframe of when he wanted to be done. Plus there are parts I could easily do again but others I just don't know if I could handle... TTC sucked and being pregnant wasn't easy by any stretch. Then there's the thought of trying to do it all again but w/ a toddler that makes me cringe. Yeah... I think part of me is romanticizing the real history of it all.