Getting fed up with day care

aml+japan

Hi guys! Just popping my head in...so little time to Bump these days with my 6day work week, but I love seeing everyone's pics on Instagram.

Today I'm home with L because her day care told me she couldn't come in. This is the fourth time she's stayed home in 2 weeks. The first time she had a fever during the night so I opted to stay home with her because she obviously wasn't well. By noon she was fine again so we put it down to teething, but her DCP told me should stay home another day. Fine, I took another day off. A week passed and she had one diarrhea diaper while at day care. They called my school to say I should come pick her up because she might have something contagious. I couldn't run out and leave my class but luckily my MIL was available and went to get her. L was all smiles and full of energy, and a trip to the pedi confirmed she had a stomach bug but it wasn't Rota or Noro. The next day I took her back to day care with medicine from the doctor and a note.

According to their reports in her notebook she's been full of energy all week, but yesterday when I went to get her the director took me aside and told me L definitely has Noro or Rotavirus because the diarrhea has continued over 3 days, the doctor has given me the wrong medicine, other parents ie. good parents? would keep their sick child home...a whole big guilt trip. So today we went back to the pedi with stool samples and she again confirmed that L has a noncontagious stubborn upset tummy and she thought one big slightly watery poop a day was totally forgivable...her exact words. My principal was NOT happy that I called in for the third time, and now I'm worried that the next time L is really sick I'll have trouble getting time off.

Would you be pissed at the DCP? I'm feeling half indignance and half guilt over the things they said to me.

Sammy-Mae

I would be pissed.  Pissed beyond belief.  The DCP is not a doctor and has no right to tell you that you aren't a good parent.  You have been to a doctor, teething can easily cause and upset stomach and the DCP should know that.  A wet poop doesn't mean illness, that's just dumb. 

cantalopes24

They're being douches about it but from what I've heard it's common to send kids home if they have symptoms of being sick and to require them to be symptom free for 24 hours.

Nita2603

canadiansciencegeek:

Sammy-Mae:

I would be pissed.  Pissed beyond belief.  The DCP is not a doctor and has no right to tell you that you aren't a good parent.  You have been to a doctor, teething can easily cause and upset stomach and the DCP should know that.  A wet poop doesn't mean illness, that's just dumb. 

This.  If you have a doctor's note saying it's not contagious, and your kid can keep up with daily activities, there's no reason she should have to stay home. 

Same. And what's with the guilt trip?! What an audecity!

emunbalanced

I'd be piised for sure. I get this crap all the time from our daycare center. Everything is either pink eye or the flu. All it's ever been is a teething fever of 100 degrees tops and an ear infection. But they make me come get her every.single.time. and then lay a big guilt trip on me. Ugh. I feel for you.

Scramblersmom

I get mad at DS's daycare for having stupid rules that don't make any sense such as...He can come in with snot billowing out of his nose but if he is on antibiotics for an ear infection he has to stay home for 24 hours. It sounds like your daycare has gone to the other extreme where any signs of anything is cause for sending a kid home. Your LO's slightly watery poop could be caused by absolutely anything including something she ate. Don't let daycare give you Mommy guilt! I would be mad at them too.

aliciaroset

Chickypoo2468:

cantalopes24:

They're being douches about it but from what I've heard it's common to send kids home if they have symptoms of being sick and to require them to be symptom free for 24 hours.

This. They're trying to keep other kids from getting sick.

This, (and the teachers, too!) and our provider's rules are exactly the same as those of the school district in an effort to be fair. 

 Do you have some other kind of backup you could arrange? Taking time off is so hard. We had to cover three full days this week and it was a lot of juggling.