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I've been invited to two different showers, both FTMs. I think their registries are ridiculous, with a lot of unnecessary/expensive items, and due to having a kid 6 months ago and making a recent move, money is a little tighter than usual. I don't want to go buy clothes or blankets, because they'll get plenty of those, I don't know if they're using sposies or cloth, and I don't have a clue what they want as far as bath stuff, so I'm sort of at a loss. I know both ladies are planning on breastfeeding, so I thought about putting together a gift package that included my favorite nipple butter, a couple of boxes of disposable nipple pads, some homemade lactation cookies with the recipe included, and a few burp clothes made from cute receiving blankets. I don't want to come across as cheap or like I don't care or whatever, does this sound like a good gift idea? Do y'all think I should add anything else to sort of "finish" the package, or does it seem fine as is? I'm probably way over-thinking this, but I always agonize over gifts!
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Re: Not buying off the registry
True. Didn't think of it that way. I just know those cookies were delicious, and I ate them like no other in the early days. Maybe I'll just save that for after the babies arrive and I bring over a casserole or something?
I think it's fine to not buy off the registry.
I do think the lactation cookies might be a tad off. Won't they go bad by the time the MTB needs to eat them? Or do you eat them while you are still pregnant?
Enlighten me, please.
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Seriously, you know that saying that girls steal all your beauty? Well, DD also sucked up half my brains. I really didn't think the cookie thing through. lol
Nah, wasn't expecting them to keep the cookies long, more of a just try 'em and make more later if they liked them. I just didn't consider the weird factor.
Maybe I'll chip in a $10 card, too.
Agreed, but I'm usually typing 1 handed, and use shortcuts where I can and still be understood while not completely looking like an illiterate boob. Especially when I'm typing out a tl;dr post.
Ok, I'm a cookie monster & now I want the recipe!
Anyway, I love your girt idea! The personal stuff is always the best. My favorite gifts from my 1st born were a cheap onsie my 11yr old sister had pick out (he wore it home form the hospital), a blanket my grandma knitted, and a rocking chair that my dad had stained (it matched the one my mother had). Only one of those was a big thing & none were on my registry.
Too long; didn't read. I got way wordier than I wanted to. Not sure how I managed it, considering how lazy I am when typing one handed!
And to the pp who said include non-perishable ingredients with the recipe, that's a cute idea! But I think I'll just include it with a batch of cookies plus a casserole to give after the babies get here.
And the here's the recipe! I loved them!
I know I'm late to the party but I wanted to chime in.
One of my favorite shower gifts was pretty much exactly what you described. It included nipple cream, fenugreek tea, cooling breast pads and the rice thingys that you would put in the microwave and warm up and put on your breasts when they were sore.
I used every single item in that basket. I think your idea is great!
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He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Buy what you want. Its your money. I would include the recipe for your lactation cookies and maybe some others. Maybe a little booklet of recipes that are easy for the new mom?
Also, when in doubt I found grocery store gift certificates are great. They can use it for whatever they'd like. Also, think a gift certificate for a spa day, hair appointment or massage. You are right that the MTB will get plenty for baby (usually, unless all her guests feel the same as you lol). Get her something for her.
Good luck!
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I didn't read the responses, but to me registry is just a suggestion and you don't have to buy from that store and the same exact item. When I was on a tight budget few years ago, I bought stuff (clothing, blanket, ...) on clearance rack from Kohl's or Taget and spend less than $10-$20 for nice gifts.
I actually LOVE your gift idea! I would be happy if I received something like that!
off topic but do you think you could send me the recipe for those cookies? I plan on breastfeeding as well and those could come in handy!