How old CIO/Self Soothe???

futuremrsstrickland

So I am wanting to move DD to her crib. She has had a pretty rough first couple of months but she is doing much better and I don't want her to get use to sleeping in our room. And personally I think it is going to be harder for me to move her to her crib.... I just love having her right there but I don't want to end up with a child that won't sleep in their room. Sooo....

How old was DC when you let them CIO or Self Soothe? I put DD in her crib for a nap the other day she was awake when I laid her down and 30 mins later of screaming and crying I finally picked her up and rocked her to sleep. She is almost 3 months old and I really want to get her in her crib but I feel so mean for letting her cry??? What do you all think??? TIA

CameraPerson

I am so sorry but you are about to get majorly flamed and ripped a new one. (Hugs to you)

Stacyc625

CIO - six months at the very earliest.

jamira

She's way to young to CIO. Even though I don't believe in CIO, they say you can't do it unitll 6 months old.

pinksweetpea2

::Sigh:: She is way to young to self soothing. ?Also, she cannot manipulate you at this point, so when she cries it means she need something. ?

These first 6 months are important for building trust between you and her- all you are doing by letting her CIO is telling her that you will not be there for her.

We moved DD to her crib at about 1 month old and have never let her CIO. ?IMO, CIO has nothing to do with moving them to their crib. ?

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futuremrsstrickland

Thanks... I know this is a hot topic and sorry if it is a repost I haven't had a computer for like 2 weeks now.... I know people think CIO is mean or cruel and it breaks my heart to hear her cry but .....? My mom let me CIO she said it lasted 3 nights...... my question is just how old do you think is old enough? I have read that for the first 3 months you can't really spoil your child.

smfinallymg

How old is dd? You let her scream and cry for 30 minutes?

crackerjackprinter

Try reading the No Cry Sleep Solution.  It worked for me to get DD from co sleeping to her crib most of the time (we choose to cosleep some of the night).  CIO is not the only way, you just have to work at it, be patient, and be sensitive to your baby.

futuremrsstrickland

Thank you ladies... I didn't know when they said it was ok to let them CIO... I will just continue rocking her then putting her in her crib.

pinksweetpea2

futuremrsstrickland:

my question is just how old do you think is old enough? I have read that for the first 3 months you can't really spoil your child.

It's 6 months, not 3 months.?

mrs_breakfast

30 minutes is too long to let your baby scream and 3 months is WAY too young.

futuremrsstrickland

Oh and yes she cried for almost 30 mins but I was standing there with her she was laying in the crib she would be fine for a min or two then she would start crying again and I would pick up her passy and give it to her again. I didn't just shut the door and leave my screaming baby in there to cry. I patted her and talked to her etc...

Joes_love

1.  CIO has nothing to do with being in a crib.  my son has been in his crib since day 1 and has never CIO.

2.  i'm strongly against it, but if you choose to go that method, 6 months is the earliest recommendation.

3.  ds learned to self soothe around 5 months and that's when we started laying him down drowsy but awake.

4.  your baby is too young to cry for 30 minutes.  i don't know how you managed to stand next to her and watch her cry for that long.  it doesn't matter if you left the room or not, you still didn't pick her up and meet her NEEDS.  i can't let DS cry for 3 minutes, let alone 30.

policebride

Babies are not typically able to self-soothe until between 4-6 months, sometimes even later. Anytime before that, she's not learning to soothe herself, she's learning to give up on her mommy coming to help her.

lvisser

CameraPerson:

I am so sorry but you are about to get majorly flamed and ripped a new one. (Hugs to you)

 

LMFAO!

Stacyc625

i was just about to say what joe said-

what does her being in her crib have anything to do with crying it out??? i moved DD to her crib at three months- transition was fine. i would feed her, rock her, sing to her, and put her to sleep.

Amy Schramm

I've always been told by pediatricians I've talked to that you can let a baby CIO at four months because they have the ability to self-soothe at that point.  Of course, every baby is different so you have to evaluate how your own child is progressing.  I do know that Ferber says you can use his "progressive waiting" approach (let baby cry for five minutes then sooth, then leave for 10 minutes, etc.) at four months. 

d.f

My understanding is 4-6months is the earliest for CIO.  I may be the only one but I don't consider what you described as CIO.  You were patting,talking, etc. DC would stop crying from this so I would consider that soothing.

*Bre*

Too early yet. Give it time, it will get better on its own. I swear!

ridesbuttons

My DS (now 17 months old) co-slept with us (something I never thought I would do) for about 8 weeks.  From 8-12 weeks we transitioned to the crib.  We had a 10 minute rule.  We'd put him down and walk away for 10 minutes.  9 times out of 10 he'd be asleep in that 10 minutes.  If he was still awake, we'd pick him up and give him a cuddle and a pat and lay him back down for 5 minutes.  If he still didn't go to sleep on his own, we'd pick him up and hold him, or rock him until he went to sleep.

 

At 16 weeks, he was consistently sleeping 9 hours in a row (8pm - 5amish) then get up to nurse, then sleep for another 3 hours.  We used the 10 minute rule for many months. 

 

I don't think it is cruel to help your child learn it is ok to fall asleep by themselves.  One thing that I read when my DS was an infant is that bedtime is strictly business.  Get into a routine and work with it.

ABMcKinney

Here's the thing... you've been around for a while, so you know that this is a taboo subject. If you're that bored, find something else.

Next... are you completely unable to figure out how to get your child to sleep in her crib without CIO??? Let's sit down and use our critical thinking skills. Come up with a plan and a method of carrying that plan out. Set goals. Figure out what works and what doesn't. Quit looking for the easy way out.

Erin Mary Ackerman

Here's a novel idea...do some reasearch...look at some books.  Don't just make shit up and let your DD cry on her back for 30 minutes. 

American is the one of the only countries in the world where a majority think it's normal for a child under 2 to sleep in their own room so they won't be "spoiled."  I think it's whack.