UO

katester42

mytinc:

I'm sitting in an airport waiting for my connecting flight to take me back to Columbus, Ohio. While looking around at my soon to be fellow passengers I'm reminded that the Arnold Classic is this weekend... Which brings me to my UO. I think exercise and eating right is great and healthy. I think bulked up muscles for the sake of huge muscles and bodybuilding is gross.

I agree with this! My BIL builds into the stereotype and gets the supplements, goes to the gym to build up definition etc. One day he we telling my husband (who actively works out and is a fitness person) about all the supplements and such that he could use to bulk up etc. and that it would make him look good. My husband looked him deadpan in the face and said I don't need to look big, I work out to be stronger. The look on my BIL's face was priceless. My husband said to me once, I don't need to look big and tough in hopes of deterring someone from picking on me, I just need to know I have the muscle and strength to defend myself and anyone around me if it ever came to blows.

My husband isn't a violent man by any means but it does make me feel better knowing he works out so he's strong not so he slather himself in oil and pose in a banana hammock while trying to win Mr. Universe!

 

rsage53

PetraStonegirl:

My UO is kind of a vent, but in the end I guess it's an UO too, because I see it so damn often.

I believe that if you hurt someone (or a group of people) even unintentionally and they call you on it, you need to apologize and suck it up and listen to them tell you how you hurt them. You don't get to apologize AND defend yourself at the same time. The two are mutually exclusive. Doing the second cancels out having done the first. Truth IRL and truth on the Bump, too. 

Sorry, sometimes being a mod sucks, and this isn't about this board at all. I'm just tired of beating my head against the wall trying to explain this concept right now. 

Oh, and I love pixie cuts, I despise people who think it's a bad thing for someone to be mistaken as gay, I don't plan on spanking but wouldn't be surprised if it happens at least once in my child's life, and I won't be piercing my baby's ears early, but only because I want to have the experience of taking her when she's older and chooses it, because that was an awesome time I had with my mom when I was 12. 

Jumping on the bump crush bandwagon today!  Bump crushin' on you for this post!  All of it!!! 

Blueyed228

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72193285.aspx

MotherMayEye

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

 

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72193285.aspx

If I am not mistaken, I think the OP is actually EHoughton using an AE. At least I think I read where she wrote that somewhere else on this board.

botanicalbliss

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

Yes please - I missed this! 

Skk1977

PetraStonegirl:

My UO is kind of a vent, but in the end I guess it's an UO too, because I see it so damn often.

I believe that if you hurt someone (or a group of people) even unintentionally and they call you on it, you need to apologize and suck it up and listen to them tell you how you hurt them. You don't get to apologize AND defend yourself at the same time. The two are mutually exclusive. Doing the second cancels out having done the first. Truth IRL and truth on the Bump, too. 

Sorry, sometimes being a mod sucks, and this isn't about this board at all. I'm just tired of beating my head against the wall trying to explain this concept right now. 

Oh, and I love pixie cuts, I despise people who think it's a bad thing for someone to be mistaken as gay, I don't plan on spanking but wouldn't be surprised if it happens at least once in my child's life, and I won't be piercing my baby's ears early, but only because I want to have the experience of taking her when she's older and chooses it, because that was an awesome time I had with my mom when I was 12. 

My DH also has this apology opinion. He thinks you don't get to say i'm sorry "i did this bc of that" because it invalidates the apology. I like the justification bc then I can't say oh but u did this annoying thing and that's why it's not totally my fault and also bc sometimes I think it's too easy for people to say i'm sorry without explaining why they are.

I'm leaning toward ending my own apology followed by justification method bc it's probably pretty immature. 

rsage53

botanicalbliss:

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

Yes please - I missed this! 

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/72193285.aspx

Blueyed228

MotherMayEye:

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

If I am not mistaken, I think the OP is actually EHoughton using an AE. At least I think I read where she wrote that somewhere else on this board.

Yes it is.  She said so herself.

MotherMayEye

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

If I am not mistaken, I think the OP is actually EHoughton using an AE. At least I think I read where she wrote that somewhere else on this board.

Yes it is.  She said so herself.

 

FWIW, I think we all may have gone a little easier on her if she had just used her regular s/n.

It was still a stupid complaint though.

burkems

nola78:

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

janapettus:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

My very popular opinion is that I would like to throat punch that heifer who resurrected that stupid mushroom post and called us all fat lazy betches.

Link?

If I am not mistaken, I think the OP is actually EHoughton using an AE. At least I think I read where she wrote that somewhere else on this board.

Yes it is.  She said so herself.

Why is she using an AE?   

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

MotherMayEye

nola78:

Why is she using an AE?   

 

I can't remember what reason she gave. I think she confessed to it in last week's UO or FFFC.

Blueyed228

 Why is she using an AE?   

 

Something about him stalking and harrassing her?

I dont know, her whole situation is fishy to me.

MotherMayEye

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

Blueyed228

MotherMayEye:

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

No you didnt girl.  She outted herself a few times.  Dont worry about it.

burkems

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

No you didnt girl.  She outted herself a few times.  Dont worry about it.

Truth. Don't feel bad.

MotherMayEye

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

No you didnt girl.  She outted herself a few times.  Dont worry about it.

 

I'm not, I can't keep up with all that drama. 

Joyfullnoise

I'm part of MOPS, which has a Christian affiliation, and that's fine because I, usually, consider myself Catholic. In group the other day another Mommy wanted to pray for all the nonChristians that they "see the light." I freaked out: world peace? An end to school shootings? My UO: I don't and won't pray for other people to be just like me.

katester42

MotherMayEye:

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

No you didnt girl.  She outted herself a few times.  Dont worry about it.

 

I'm not, I can't keep up with all that drama. 

Agreed 

Blueyed228

nola78:

Blueyed228:

MotherMayEye:

burkems:

She made a new SN after people recommended it since her baby daddy was stalking her on here and contacting her after every post she made.

 

Oh, great. Now I just outted her. 

Why on earth did she out the new s/n she was using to hide???

No you didnt girl.  She outted herself a few times.  Dont worry about it.

WTF.  What's the point of changing a SN because someone is harassing you if you are going to tell everyone what your new SN is?  Doesn't that defeat the purpose?   

Lol, Ill refrain from responding to because I already have enough opinions about her situation

slweaver0626

Skk1977:

PetraStonegirl:

My UO is kind of a vent, but in the end I guess it's an UO too, because I see it so damn often.

I believe that if you hurt someone (or a group of people) even unintentionally and they call you on it, you need to apologize and suck it up and listen to them tell you how you hurt them. You don't get to apologize AND defend yourself at the same time. The two are mutually exclusive. Doing the second cancels out having done the first. Truth IRL and truth on the Bump, too. 

Sorry, sometimes being a mod sucks, and this isn't about this board at all. I'm just tired of beating my head against the wall trying to explain this concept right now. 

Oh, and I love pixie cuts, I despise people who think it's a bad thing for someone to be mistaken as gay, I don't plan on spanking but wouldn't be surprised if it happens at least once in my child's life, and I won't be piercing my baby's ears early, but only because I want to have the experience of taking her when she's older and chooses it, because that was an awesome time I had with my mom when I was 12. 

My DH also has this apology opinion. He thinks you don't get to say i'm sorry "i did this bc of that" because it invalidates the apology. I like the justification bc then I can't say oh but u did this annoying thing and that's why it's not totally my fault and also bc sometimes I think it's too easy for people to say i'm sorry without explaining why they are.

I'm leaning toward ending my own apology followed by justification method bc it's probably pretty immature. 

I think it's unfair for the person apologizing to say "I'm sorry you feel... "

I had a family member verbally attack me and then apologize a year later (because I refused to speak to her) and said "I'm sorry if you felt I was attacking you." No, you were and your apology sucks.

MrsJ723

botanicalbliss:

Blueyed228:

botanicalbliss:

MrsJ723:

My UO: I think the pregnancy advice to sleep now while you can is stupid. You can't bank sleep, so while it is nice to enjoy your sleep, it isn't going to make a difference when the baby arrives.

Piggy-backing on this, I really dislike random drive-bys of already mommies giving "advice".  I can see where they are coming from, but I really don't need more unsolicited advice.  Also, we have lots of already mommies here who tell it like it is and are very helpful! 

Lol, I was gonna save this for tomorrow!

I totally agree.  Like their almost 1 whole year of being a parent has made them an expert who feels the need to bless us all with thier magical advice.

If I want to ask a mom advice about something, Ill ask the moms here.  SInce, you know, I know them, they know me, etc.

I was really surprised how many people reacted positively (sns I didn't recognize, of course)! I wanted to get snarky, but it was past my bedtime.

When I read the post last night, I immediately wanted to respond with an eyeroll gif, but then I read the responses and thought perhaps I was being too bitchy.  Glad to see I wasn't the only one annoyed by the drive-by, "I've been a parent for a minute listen to me" post.

burkems

PetraStonegirl:

Joyfullnoise:

I'm part of MOPS, which has a Christian affiliation, and that's fine because I, usually, consider myself Catholic. In group the other day another Mommy wanted to pray for all the nonChristians that they "see the light." I freaked out: world peace? An end to school shootings? My UO: I don't and won't pray for other people to be just like me.

Word. 

Here, here. Or is it hear, hear? Maybe I should look it up. Or just say "Word." because that's what I would say in real life.

MotherMayEye

MrsJ723:

botanicalbliss:

Blueyed228:

botanicalbliss:

MrsJ723:

My UO: I think the pregnancy advice to sleep now while you can is stupid. You can't bank sleep, so while it is nice to enjoy your sleep, it isn't going to make a difference when the baby arrives.

Piggy-backing on this, I really dislike random drive-bys of already mommies giving "advice".  I can see where they are coming from, but I really don't need more unsolicited advice.  Also, we have lots of already mommies here who tell it like it is and are very helpful! 

Lol, I was gonna save this for tomorrow!

I totally agree.  Like their almost 1 whole year of being a parent has made them an expert who feels the need to bless us all with thier magical advice.

If I want to ask a mom advice about something, Ill ask the moms here.  SInce, you know, I know them, they know me, etc.

I was really surprised how many people reacted positively (sns I didn't recognize, of course)! I wanted to get snarky, but it was past my bedtime.

When I read the post last night, I immediately wanted to respond with an eyeroll gif, but then I read the responses and thought perhaps I was being too bitchy.  Glad to see I wasn't the only one annoyed by the drive-by, "I've been a parent for a minute listen to me" post.

I read it, too, then I closed it w/out commenting because the comments were as bad as the OP.

And I was a little irritated that I had stumbled onto that Kumbayah moment. I thought we were better than that here.

MrsJ723

MotherMayEye:

MrsJ723:

When I read the post last night, I immediately wanted to respond with an eyeroll gif, but then I read the responses and thought perhaps I was being too bitchy.  Glad to see I wasn't the only one annoyed by the drive-by, "I've been a parent for a minute listen to me" post.

I read it, too, then I closed it w/out commenting because the comments were as bad as the OP.

And I was a little irritated that I had stumbled onto that Kumbayah moment. I thought we were better than that here.

Bwhahaha! I having a feeling we would be friends IRL...said in a non-Kumbayah way.

botanicalbliss

nola78:

MotherMayEye:

MrsJ723:

botanicalbliss:

Blueyed228:

botanicalbliss:

MrsJ723:

My UO: I think the pregnancy advice to sleep now while you can is stupid. You can't bank sleep, so while it is nice to enjoy your sleep, it isn't going to make a difference when the baby arrives.

Piggy-backing on this, I really dislike random drive-bys of already mommies giving "advice".  I can see where they are coming from, but I really don't need more unsolicited advice.  Also, we have lots of already mommies here who tell it like it is and are very helpful! 

Lol, I was gonna save this for tomorrow!

I totally agree.  Like their almost 1 whole year of being a parent has made them an expert who feels the need to bless us all with thier magical advice.

If I want to ask a mom advice about something, Ill ask the moms here.  SInce, you know, I know them, they know me, etc.

I was really surprised how many people reacted positively (sns I didn't recognize, of course)! I wanted to get snarky, but it was past my bedtime.

When I read the post last night, I immediately wanted to respond with an eyeroll gif, but then I read the responses and thought perhaps I was being too bitchy.  Glad to see I wasn't the only one annoyed by the drive-by, "I've been a parent for a minute listen to me" post.

I read it, too, then I closed it w/out commenting because the comments were as bad as the OP.

And I was a little irritated that I had stumbled onto that Kumbayah moment. I thought we were better than that here.

This brings me to another vent (not really an UO) -- there is some seriously ridiculous P&R on this board sometimes.  That thread was a good example.  I just roll my eyes and move on.  It always seems to be from people that I don't recognize at all.   

YES!  It was like they came out of the woodwork! 

LN1024

MrsJ723:

MotherMayEye:

MrsJ723:

When I read the post last night, I immediately wanted to respond with an eyeroll gif, but then I read the responses and thought perhaps I was being too bitchy.  Glad to see I wasn't the only one annoyed by the drive-by, "I've been a parent for a minute listen to me" post.

I read it, too, then I closed it w/out commenting because the comments were as bad as the OP.

And I was a little irritated that I had stumbled onto that Kumbayah moment. I thought we were better than that here.

Bwhahaha! I having a feeling we would be friends IRL...said in a non-Kumbayah way.

Thank goodness! I felt like I must have been in a bitchy mood last night, because I wanted to make a snarky response. Does she really think that we are that ignorant to the fact that our lives are going to change drastically? Or that we are all FTMs that have never experienced having a child before? I would much rather ask this board a question in regards to parenting information, then receive unsolicited advice from a drive-by.

Skk1977

PetraStonegirl:

Skk1977:

I love vegan turkey deli meat.

We can no longer be friends. Think of the poor soy bean that DIED for your meal!!!

Actually, I had an unnatural affinity for vegan turkey sausages until I married my DH. He grew up in a town downwind of one of the major TVP plants in the midwest. Ick. 

But, I never got the hang of turkey bacon. It's kind of like Beggin' Strips. 

I love vegan food though I'm not a vegan. I worked in food policy for about 8 years so I have an appreciation for food quality, safety, nutrition and all that good stuff. I'm just really happy that DH has gotten into it. We do vegan sausage, meatballs, deli meat, chicken strips, etc.

I think it's also a little safer bc I'm constantly concerned about cross contamination when cooking while pregnant. 

Skk1977

Blueyed228:

OldGlory:

Blueyed228:

Im just gonna bite you all and see who spanks me first

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pezss6Splks

And after the spankings, Oral Sex!

You didnt get the memo?  We are buttsex only on this board.  No blowies and hand whammys allowed.

This makes me happy. 

smrtalec33

PetraStonegirl:

slweaver0626:

I think it's unfair for the person apologizing to say "I'm sorry you feel... "

I had a family member verbally attack me and then apologize a year later (because I refused to speak to her) and said "I'm sorry if you felt I was attacking you." No, you were and your apology sucks.

Agreed. 

I believe an apology should always start with "I'm sorry that I..." That it may include "It was not my intention to make you feel..." And, it should never include "But, the reason I..."

If it violates that, then it isn't a proper apology. 

Go back and do it again. 

I'm also not a fan of the corollary, favored especially by pro athletes, that goes, "I'm sorry if I offended anyone by doing/saying such-and-such." It's such a cop-out. It makes it sound like it's your fault for being offended instead of the offender's fault for doing whatever it is that is offensive. If you're going to apologize, own up to the idea that what you said or did was offensive.

Carefully climbing off of soapbox now. I have complete placenta previa, so I'm not supposed to exercise. Otherwise, I'd hop off.

 

GoMaltby18

I'm late but wow this thread took off.  I will say this about spanking: I was spanked, MH was spanked, and theoretically we are both ok with it.  That said, I never spanked until DS1 became a runner and would take off with no hesitation all the time.  I was about 8 months pregnant with DS2 and slow moving, so when he would make a dash from the car to the street or we would be at the beach and he would just start running as fast as he could toward the parking lot it became a big issue.  He wouldn't listen, if you chased him he thought it was a game and would laugh and run faster.  I have spanked him twice, ever, and both times were for running away.  Was I frustrated?  Hell yes.  Was I scared?  Absolutely.  Was I out of other ideas and just trying to scare him?  You bet.  But it worked.  He would cry and get put in time out and then I would explain why I had spanked him: because running away from Mama is dangerous and I could lose him and it is not a game.  Twice was all it took and he got the message and stopped running away.

He is a super sweet boy and while he does do some of the crazy boy swinging arms and playing rough he does not hit, or bite, and is the farthest thing from a bully.  I'm not saying he will never change that, but I do think spanking can be an effective tool without making your kid a sociopath or something.