Extended solo time away from home

melissa0726

Mama Ha's post about the husband and father taking a two week trip to China got me thinking...

What is the norm (frequency and length of time) for your DH/SO to have "guy time" away from home?  I'm wondering more about stuff like overnights and/or weekends away from you and the kid(s),  but also curious about time during the week that he is spending on "fun" (non work and non school) activities that are for him. 

Likewise, how often do you mamas get out on your own for extended periods of time?

NotSharknado

None at all. Since our relationship has hit a bump recently, I made it very clear that I need more time out. He gets plenty. He goes out at least once a month, goes to watch football on some Sundays and has a mancation every year. I think away, two days is good.

fancefpp

I really don't get any time away either but DH would be ok with it. My friends have young kids too so it makes it really hard to coordinate

DH has been away overnight, here and there. Nothing major. I think two nights would be my max, unless it was really important. He's been away for three weeks for work but that doesn't count. It was tough though.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

DH and his friends have one annual D&D "retreat", that goes on from Friday after work until Sunday evening.

That's pretty much his one weekend away a year - or if he has others, they're not a regular thing.

As for me, humm... well... yeah I got nothing.  

ETA: The boys also have a D&D night maybe once every 3 weeks or so. 

BnchaNums

Dh rarely goes out by himself or with friends.   He maybe goes camping once a year.  I'd be fine with a guys night or something but he's not into it.  He's a homebody, works late a lot and would rather spend a night in by himself.  I probably take a night out every other week. He's cool with that.

ladybugpjb

Basic, really none for either of us, except for DH's work. I did a quilting class in the fall - DH put DS to bed those few nights.I think there were a few other times...I really can't remember because it doesn't happen much.

Girl time for me usually includes DS.

We both get our solo time at home - I take DS with me on errands so DH can watch his sports games in peace, DH sometimes watches him when I run an errand...we're pretty boring homebodies.

When my friend came to visit me in Hawaii, she and I did a day-trip to Maui. It would have been too hard to take DS, and DH wasn't ready for an overnight, so we left early morning and came back late that night. I think that's the biggest solo-trip either of us has done.

BabyQuizzle

DH gets to hunt for three days every year. Openig day is September 1 so he flies out the day before, has some guy time at the bars, hubts all day the next day, parties that night, hunts the next day half the day, spends time with his bro and then flies home the next day. He also goes to whatever bachelor party arises which seems like 1 a year.

Then he goes out with the guys at least once a month for drinks or dinner or shooting. They are LEOs, work really hard, and keep odd hours so these "dinners" are usually around 10pm after M and I go to bed.

I see friends without kids about once every 6 weeks for happy hour. Gotta be back before the night shift begins so DH can get to work most of the time. I also took an 8 day cross country road trip with my dad and brother last month.

Rachey1082

My H has been out of town twice, both for 2 nights. One time it was a manly family trip and the other was to visit his friend who lives 5 hours away.

Psh, I probably won't get to leave the kids with H until they're like 6, 8, and 10.

mgarza1231

When I have this baby in a few weeks it will be the first time that I will spend the night away from Ella. DH tries to get a guys night at least once a month, but doesn't take overnight man-cations or anything like that. I haven't had a night with girls in forever and since this LO is coming soon, I probably won't for a LONG time..

amywalt1684

DH has at least one evening a week "out", he plays basketball in the winter and on a golf league in the warmer months. He does 3 fishing tournaments during the summer, I am welcome to go with him but it is pretty boring for me and I would rather stay home 2 or the 3 weekends.

I rarely have a solo evening. I probably see my girlfriends once a month and I usually bring DD (prior to DS).

DH would be happy for me to have more evenings out, it just doesn't happen regularly. I would prefer to be home alone than go out anyways, but that NEVER happens. Now that I am home all day everyday, I am going to have to make a better effort to get out, to keep my sanity.

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha

amywalt1684:

I would prefer to be home alone than go out anyways, but that NEVER happens. 

Word. I can't even imagine what it'd be like to be home all by myself for a few hours during the day.

ohyeahdollface

Me: 

Grocery shopping after bedtime. My favorite alone time! 

Saturday mornings, Jimmy and P go to Little Gym and then snag a few extras at the store if we need them. That is three hours that I get to shower (ALONE!) and then start my yarn dyeing for the weekend. 

DH:

Friday he is off all day for work. So I try to let him have a few uninterrupted hours in the spare room for him to work on his music. Lately it has not happened, since my dye orders are at an insane high. 

Occasionally he goes to work functions. Ie: Christmas party, random dinners, etc. 

melissa0726

Monsieur_et_Madame_Ha:

amywalt1684:

I would prefer to be home alone than go out anyways, but that NEVER happens. 

Word. I can't even imagine what it'd be like to be home all by myself for a few hours during the day.

OMG, this.  I don't think this has ever happened.  Ever.  Nor do I see it happening anytime in the next five years.  LOL.