DS is ridiculous with separation at schools and I am going crazy.
He is almost 3 (end of March). I worked from when he was 4 months to when he was 17 months. DH worked 3 day weeks during that time and we had a nanny those 3 days. We didn't have any great daycare options around and he didn't do well at the one we tried. So when DH had to get back to work full week, I quit my job to study for a board exam (changing careers).
We have done a bunch of Mommy & Me programs since then. I'm done with my test and looking to go back to work but he has serious separation anxiety. We have tried 3 different separation programs and he is so upset when we tried them, he cries uncontrollably and often throws up. At the last one we tried which was a gradual separation, I was there with him and he still cried - probably because he knows I'll eventually leave.
I know he just needs a little pushing because it takes him time to get used to new places and people, especially in the school setting. But I can't find a program willing to put up with him. First one couldn't deal with the vomiting, the next two were concerned about the other kids getting upset from all his crying.
I'm at my wits end. His doctor says it's just a phase I have to wait out - no other suggestions offered. But I need to get back to work.
Anyone have any suggestions? Desperate!