FB vent (long)

ilenegrace

Today while I was on fb I noticed the place I got my 3D ultrasounds, posted an article from Dr. Sears on Fear of Miscarriage. This was not the issue but what they wrote when they posted it:

Miscarriages happen more often than we think. Dr Sears shares some advise on what we can do to avoid a miscarriage.

Here is the article: https://www.askdrsears.com/topics/pregnancy-childbirth/third-month/fear-miscarriage

I read it and there is no "advise on how to avoid a miscarriage". In fact he says "In most cases there is nothing you can do to prevent miscarriage, as most are caused by factors out of your control. There are, however, a few things you can do for your baby: give baby a healthy womb environment, refraining especially from smoking and harmful drugs, excessive alcohol, and avoiding exposure to environmental toxins."

This pissed me off that they would #1 misrepresent the article and #2 word it the way they did. Normally I let these things go but today it just rubbed me the wrong way. And people wonder why there is still such a stigma around miscarriage, its because of idiots like this implying we must have done something wrong to have caused a miscarriage by telling people they are avoidable!

Anyways this was my response:  If you read this article it is not advise on how to "avoid" miscarriage because they are out of our control. It is information educating women about miscarriage. There is no such thing as advise on how to avoid miscarriage because that would imply it was within our control. The only sure way to avoid miscarriage is to avoid getting pregnant.

I just felt I had to write something to counteract their ignorant statement. Was I wrong to have posted that?

Junebug060609

You had the right idea. As a place that does ultrasounds, they need to be educated on the subject since, unfortunately, they may be the ones to discover a loss.

Advice on avoiding a miscarriage ...geez, maybe if I'd read the article I'd have not had either of mine ::eyeroll::

JuddandJessica

You weren't wrong at all. I feel the same way. I can't even count how many pieces of advice I got while pregnant the third time on how to avoid miscarriage. I wanted to scream each time. Don't lose your temper though, " your stress probably causes it. "

FmrAFBrat

No you weren't.  I actually wish I had spoke up after my loss.  When I was being released from the hospital they made me sign a release about smoking & pregnancy.  I wrote on all of the forms "I am not a smoker". I was highly offended. They also made judgments about me (basically accused me of having a STD-that I NEVER have had in my life) while I was there.

They sent me home with this:

https://centralbap.adam.com/content.aspx?productId=14&pid=14&gid=000216

 

I get so mad when they try to act like all losses can be prevented, when I know plenty of non smoking, non drug people that have had them.  Then there are people like my cousins who have twins-they do everything wrong & still manage to have healthy babies.

psumel13

Way to go! They certainly need to know that they could hurt someone with that statement and you allowed them to see it! Good work!

ellebelle2384

Not wrong at all. Very poorly worded and misleading. 

erinlovesdavid

I'd be interested to hear what their response is (if any).

sonshine0609

I'd love to hear the response too! People just don't know how to deal with the loss of a pregnancy or a child in our society & it's articles like this that are part of the problem.