Community› The Bump Message Boards› Parenting
Parenting
New Discussion

Can I pout for a minute?

PD0323PD0323
in Parenting
My DH's brother just came home to visit from NC. He forgot to mention he was bringing his girlfriend, dog, and two other friends as well.  AND he is staying for 2-3 weeks.  I want to move out. Crying
Image and video hosting by TinyPic Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
Report Reply to Post

Re: Can I pout for a minute?

  • Mrs.adambabycakesMrs.adambabycakes member
    Saywhatnow? They expect you to to have room for all of them, and they didn't tell you? Direct them to the nearest Best Western.

    image

    Report Reply
  • LuckyDadLuckyDad member

    I would cut slack for a +1 SO. He should have told you she was coming, but one person sharing his room/bed isn't a huge extra hassle.

    But a dog and two extra friends??? Holy crap.

    https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BhqjipgCIAAOz7H.jpg
    -My son was born in April 2012. He pretty much rules.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • 30HelensAgree30HelensAgree
    Hell to the nawww! Send them packing.
    Report Reply
  • 2beMommyOf22beMommyOf2 member
    image30HelensAgree:
    Hell to the nawww! Send them packing.


    What she said!! I would have flipped!
    Report Reply
  • PD0323PD0323

    Unfortunately, not ONE of them has a job, so the Best Western is out. But I did tell DH if he doesn't figure something out soon, I'm not going to be responsible for anything that comes out of my mouth.  Holy crap, It just occurred to me that I have to feed them.

    Maybe I can just stay at work for a week or so....

    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Lilypie Kids Birthday tickers Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • keags5496keags5496 member
    imagePD0323:
    Unfortunately, not ONE of them has a job, so the Best Western is out. But I did tell DH if he doesn't figure something out soon, I'm not going to be responsible for anything that comes out of my mouth.nbsp; Holy crap, It just occurred to me that I have to feed them.
    Maybe I can just stay at work for a week or so....

    Feeding them would be out! Maybe make them one dinner then have them find some money and go grocery shopping.
    Report Reply
  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    No. You can say no. "No" is a full sentence.

    Or you could say that they can only stay three days. Or that your brother and SO can stay but not the other friends.

    What does your DH think of this?

    Your BIL and his friends are being incredibly rude. It isn't rude to say no, especially when they are being this rude. It doesn't matter that he is family. He doesn't get to move himself and three other people into YOUR house without asking. And bringing a dog?

    If your DH told them that they could stay that long and all come, he deserves some outrage as well. He can go back and say, "I really shouldn't have said we could host so many people for so long. We don't have the space or money, and we have family obligations. You can only stay three days."


    image image
    Report Reply
  • klondikebarklondikebar member
    Pretend to have a stomach virus. They'll leave quickly;)
    https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/1e/60/2a/1e602a4261a90b9c761ebe748b780318.jpg    https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/47/2c/07/472c076006afed606241716dd0db828a.jpg 
    Report Reply
  • taggiecbtaggiecb member
    You deserve more than a minute of pouting. 
            image image  image 
    To be loved, and to be in love
    Report Reply
  • littlestjerrylittlestjerry member

    Holy crap. I'd probably hide in my bedroom until they took the hint and left.




    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
                                         DS is 1DAF

    "I realize I say the word fuck a lot, and I'd like to apologize but I don't give a shit." -Lewis Black
    Report Reply
  • RockyTopVolsRockyTopVols member

    I think you are being taken advantage of tbh. It is your house. You have the right to refuse these folks.

    Did your husband know they were all coming or did he just think it was your brother? You said "he" forgot to mention, but I wasn't sure which he you were referencing.

    Either way- your BIL should have known better as a functioning adult.  

    Plus, you have to feed these people? Nope. I would make dinner for you, your husband, and kids. We used to do this to my BIL when we were trying to get him to move out last year. He would ask "Whats for dinner?" we would answer, "Well, DH/DW and I are having ________." He moved out shortly after. 

    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • MrsT0514MrsT0514 member

    imagelaceyjean1:
    You deserve more than a minute of pouting. 

    This. The door would be swinging the other way quicker than they could say, "good to see you".

    Honestly speaking though...I'd be having a serious word with said visitor that decided to bring the whole kit n caboodle.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • MrsGoodkatMrsGoodkat member

    imageEllaHella:
    Oh hells no.  To the curb with them.

    This. No effing way would I let 3 unexpected guests and a dog stay in my house for 2-3 weeks. I wouldn't be thrilled if I knew ahead of time, either, but at least I could have prepared. Uh-uh, hell no. 

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Mrs.adambabycakesMrs.adambabycakes member
    We will also need an update on this.

    image

    Report Reply
  • RondackHikerRondackHiker member
    imageMrs.adambabycakes:
    We will also need an update on this.

    Yup. I also need details on if your H knew ahead of time, and exactly how you didn't say, "oh hell no," the moment you were told how long they'd stay and who was there.

    How did this conversation happen? "Yo, SIL, this is my GF and my dog and two friends. We'll be here for 2 to 3 weeks. What's for dinner?"


    image image
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"