Second guessing...

cschoenegge · February 2013

My husband and I are trying to figure out names for our LO (didn't find out the gender) and have been struggling. We had a girl and boy name picked out before we conceived and are now second guessing what we picked. We told only one friend the girl name and it wasn't received well. We like names that are uncommon, but not too strange where they can't be pronounced or spelled. We liked Contessa (Tessa) Rose for a girl and Jackson David (JD) for a boy (I know Jackson is pretty common, but we are looking to keep JD). I am really looking for open and honest feedback on the names as well as suggestions on other options.

CeCe8579 · February 2013

I like Contessa Rose! Jackson is NMS but not a bad name! If you love the names, use them! Second guess is normal!

Ridgebackmom · February 2013

I actually like just Tessa Rose instead of Contessa but both are nice.

Jackson David sounds really nice together (jd).

Ladiebug710 · February 2013

I like both. My advice it not to tell anyone the names. Everyone will have an opinion and just make it clear that you are not open to suggestions.

plunderb · February 2013

Is the second guessing based on you falling out of love with the names, or are you just worried about reactions to Contessa?

If you still love it, just use it. I don't really like title names (Duke, King, Princess, etc.), but Contessa sounds pretty. And Tessa is nice. If you are getting nervous, you might consider just using Tessa or using a more conventional name like Teresa/Theresa. That's still way less popular than Jackson, but will be more familiar than Contessa.

I can't imagine many people having a big problem with Jackson David, other than, as you say, it's a bit on the popular side.

Jcraul · February 2013

Ladiebug710:
I like both. My advice it not to tell anyone the names. Everyone will have an opinion and just make it clear that you are not open to suggestions.

Agreed and prepare for side eyes from some people no matter what you name your child. You can't please everyone so trust what you and your DH go with and stick to your guns. It is your baby.

526SadieSadie · February 2013

I don't like title names. What about Theresa Rose nn. Tessa.

Jackson David is fine.

cschoenegge · February 2013

We still love the name Contessa, just got a bad reaction to it because it is a title name. We also have a distant friend that named her daughter Tess just over a year ago, so that has brought some doubt, too (don't want to look like we are copying them). I think I'm just struggling because it's so permanent and I don't want my child to not like their name (like I do).

526SadieSadie · February 2013

cschoenegge:
We still love the name Contessa, just got a bad reaction to it because it is a title name. We also have a distant friend that named her daughter Tess just over a year ago, so that has brought some doubt, too (don't want to look like we are copying them). I think I'm just struggling because it's so permanent and I don't want my child to not like their name (like I do).

I hear you. DH and I don't care how common Olivia's name is but I hope it doesn't bother her as she grows up. So far, we haven't met any other Olivias in our area, so we'll see.

I have an unusual name that my parents loved and I hated it growing up because no one could ever spell or pronounce it. I love it now. Kids go through stages. Name yours a name you love and hope LO loves it too.

Helenahhandbasket · February 2013

I don't love Contessa, but I like that it's different, and I do adore the NN Tessa.

Jackson is really popular now, so if you are looking for something uncommon, this would not be the name to pick.

What about

Jameson

Jasper

Jonas

Jared

Jonah

Jude

Jeremiah

GL!

CaliMcKenzie · February 2013

cschoenegge:
I don't want my child to not like their name (like I do).

Don't let that keep you from choosing the name you like. I hated my name until I was a teenager. As an adult, I love it. Like someone else had said, kids go through stages.

Contessa isn't my style, but I think Tessa Rose has an adorable ring to it.