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MrsPteranodon
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I am so hung over...
MrsPteranodon
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in Parenting
This is gonna be a long whiney story of how my family basically ruined Tiny's birthday party.
Yesterday was Tiny's birthday party. My parents and brother came up early because they were giving me a TV cabinet for the living room. I text my mom in the morning asking her to swing by trader joes and get me a 4$ bouquet of daisies for the table, I knew I wouldn't have time because I had a bunch of sh!t to clean so the cabinet could come in. It was on there way. She texted me back "no". Okay. So I texted my friend B and asked him if he'd mind swinging by the one by his house since my flowers had died and I wouldn't have time. He did it no problem.
My family shows up at 12 (party starts at 2) as soon as they got here my brother started complaining how he wanted to leave. Then he had a screaming fit over the fact that Tiny's party wasn't until 2. Like DH could hear him screaming and he was upstairs in the opposite end of the house. I'm like today is not about you. My mom of course starts coddling him and telling him to calm down. He then storms out of my house slamming the front door. My mom then just sat on her iphone for another hour and a half. My daddy was totally awesome as always playing with his boys and snuggling them and gets down and plays. He took both boys upstairs to Tiny's room so they wouldn't make a mess in the living room.
B showed up early cause he hadn't seen the boys since the super bowl and he missed his little buddies. (B is like DH and my best friend, we pretty much spend every weekend with him)
Only a couple other people came with their daughters. My mom proceeded to turn every conversation around, and berated my pregnant friend about why she quit surfing while pregnant. (erm duh she's pregnant!) then my very new friend mentioned her daughter has had an ear ache off and on for 6 weeks and they are thinking she might need tubes. My mom proceeds to tell her that tubes are the devil and she just needs mullen and garlic drops for her daughters ears, and that if she isn't giving her probiotics her daughters stomach is definitely churning from all the devil drugs she's feeding her.
At this point I'm just like, hiding in my kitchen. When Tiny was doing his cake smash and everyone was eating cupcakes my mom kept saying how gross he was and couldn't believe I wasn't washing him.
My brother didn't talk to my kids for more than 5 minutes. He wouldn't play with Buddy when Buddy asked him to. My mom sat on her phone. I have tons of pictures of B and the kids, and my other mom friends playing with them, and my dad playing, and B was great and grabbed my camera and was taking pictures of me with the kids cause he knows I never get my picture taken unless Buddy grabs my phone or what ever.
By 330 I put Tiny to bed and my family split pretty. It was very telling, Buddy was sitting with B, and he goes "Bye papa" as my dad, mom and brother left.
After all my friends left, B hung out till almost 1130pm watching tv and playing with Buddy. We got pretty drunk. I think I had 4-5 margaritas and 1/2 bottle of wine.
I have got to keep perspective. Family is not always who you are related too, its who you choose to have in your life.
Oh yeah and my mom complained of how gross my house was. Gee thanks.
If you read this far...I'm sorry its so rambly and weird.
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Re: I am so hung over...
That completely sucks hun! I hope you had fun afterwards though!
I know what you mean about family. I had a fun party experience last night too.
Thanks girl. It felt good to get it all out too. I did have a really fun time after my family left. I was glad B stuck around and drank with me. LOL. DH and B have been really good friends for like 10 years and B and I have been friends for like, 7 years now. He is more of an uncle to my boys than my own brother.
Thats good! I'm glad you found a way to have fun anyways. I may convince DH to let me go buy a bottle of wine or sumshit.
Had I kept liquor in my kitchen and not in the liquor cabinet in the living room. I'd have been sneaky drinking with my sweet tea yesterday.
Buddy had a great time with his Papa and his B. Buddy asked my brother to play football with him. My brother flat out told him no. Buddy asked B to play and B took him out to the back yard and threw the football around for him.
Haha wine was to tame for me last night
I went straight to the liquor
After being a non drinker for a year and a half wine is right up my alley. Plus we've had this strict no alcohol in house rule that DH has taken away. Since he's decided we're adults and I can drink if I want to.
LOLWUT? No alcohol in your house? He DECIDED ya'll were all grown ups. What is this nonsense.
It was a house rule that since we had kids in the house we weren't allowed to keep alcohol in it. It's how he grew up. However, I kept telling him I would rather the kids grow up in a house where people drink responsibly. Plus if I don't go out then being able to leisurely drink at home is ideal. So essentially I reversed his mommies crazy brainwashing.
How old is your brother?
And your mom sounds miserable
He's 19. Huge age gap. But still some of this crap is his age and some is just the fact that he's a spoiled twit.
As B put it last night. My mothers personality is "unfortunate"
Haha. Crazy. Just gotta put alcohol up and keep it out of reach of the kids. I almost always have a glass of wine with dinner. I think its far healthier for kids to see their parents drinking responsibly than to never see them drink and be like "how do I conduct myself" like yeah I drank a ton yesterday (in front of Buddy) but I wasn't falling down. I was hanging out, watching netflix and just enjoying the evening.
Exactly. Plus bathtub and a bottle of wine. Sounds amazing.
He's 19 and his only "issue" is entitled douchebaggery
Anyone that read that entire thing deserves a drink. At least its not a giant wall of text.
He's 19 and this is pretty normal behavior for him.
This is fairly normal behavior for my mom. But this was bad even for her. I told DH and B last night something had to have crawled up her snatch cause she was mad at me before they even got here.
I can say this with 100% certainty. If I was to junk punch my brother, or even playfully punch him. He'd knock me out cold.
I am really sorry your family acted like that. I can relate to mom issues. She has a tendency to talk down to me and my sister. Also, everything is a debate with her. She would argue with me if I said the sky was blue. It's ridiculous.
At any rate, I completely agree that family isn't always who you are actually related to. At this point, I am closer to my in laws than I am with my own mother. I think the fact we live a lot closer to them just adds to my mom's issues.
My mom has made little to no effort to see us or my sister and my niece in the last year. She cares more about going out and hooking up with random guys. The fact we lost my dad in September makes the entire situation even more sad.
I am glad the after party was fun!
My poor dad. If it wasn't for him, I'd probably have nothing to do with my mom or brother. I am really freaking PO'd that my mom did this to my friends. I think we'll have to start doing family dinners and parties for our friends soon because that was redonk. Or just tell my parents that my brother is not allowed to come.
I don't think there is anything wrong with saying your brother isn't welcome.
Your parents probably won't like it but sometimes you just have to do what is best for your kids, ya know.
My mom won't like it. It just really sucks because my brother lives with them, and I love my dad. Like a lot. He's probably one of my favorite people ever. We're really similar.
My mom likes to think of him as this amazing Uncle. So she forces the issue a lot.
Have to agree with lurker. I personally have not experienced this sh't but 2 of my very close friends have.
They most likely won't change.
Don't let it get to you. That is very distructive to you.
Your dad and your friend are wonderful, concentrate on that.
Also, I am very sorry they are such sh'ts.
Feel better, and glad you eventually had a great time.
Thats a good way of putting it. I love my family, but I really only like my dad. When my brother isn't around my mom is a LOT better. Not always great, but definitely better
Thats a good way of putting it. I love my family, but I really only like my dad. When my brother isn't around my mom is a LOT better. Not always great, but definitely better
Oh she just won't let him come. They live about 2.5 hours away so she'd just tell him he can't go. She's extremely controlling and mean to my dad.
Thanks ladies.
It felt good to get it out. I've been ranting since last night to DH and there is no winning in this situation. I either piss off my mom and won't be able to see my dad, or I just deep breath and let it go.
OH! Also...
Happy Birthday Tiny!
Thanks. Over all minus them, it was a really nice day. Sunshine, kids playing in our yard. Had it just been my dad it would have been great. He played with the boys and was awesome.
Oh and get this...My brother isn't here 5 minutes before he asks what we have to drink. I list off, coke, sweet tea and water. He immediately started b!tching that those were sh!tty choices and asked if we had any beer/liquor.
Well of course we do, but dude you are 19 years old. Mom and dad might serve you, but I'm not going to.
yeah. I'm always amazed my parents just freely give him booze. I'm waiting for him to get in trouble with the law and have my mom freak the eff out that the police are being "unfair" to her "preshus"
I was thinking about this some more. It really stinks if this is going to be regular behavior from them at all future parties. It's not fair to you, your H or the kids. Would having the party in a pubic setting deter their behavior like if it was held at a zoo or a bowling party? I just know how the drama mllamas in the family can try to ruin gatherings. (((hugs)))