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Jontue
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Wow!
Jontue
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Greetings,
Honestly I am not a stickler in baby shower etiquette. My husband is excited about partying in celebration of our first and I am letting him have his way! We will have a full party! So to each their own in celebrating their blessing.
But there is a general common sense that people are losing in recent times. I just saw a baby shower invite posted on Facebook that says "gifts required"... Really?! Come on!
Honestly I am not a stickler in baby shower etiquette. My husband is excited about partying in celebration of our first and I am letting him have his way! We will have a full party! So to each their own in celebrating their blessing.
But there is a general common sense that people are losing in recent times. I just saw a baby shower invite posted on Facebook that says "gifts required"... Really?! Come on!
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So it's o.k. for you all to throw a party for yourself where people will feel they need to bring a gift, but how dare someone say "gifts required"?
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So are you the pot or the kettle? I mean, you did say "to each their own," right? I don't think you really have a leg to stand on in judging your FB friend, considering you are throwing your own shower. Also, FWIW, I don't know any men that would be excited about going to a baby shower, regardless of whether it was a "full party."
and this grand plan is in place already at 9 weeks pregnant. Yep. I call MUD.
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Agreed.
YWIA.
Not that i owe an explanation neither does the person requiring gifts on her invite. But I have time for some pointless entertainment, so my husband's decision to have a party to celebrate his first born has been his plan since our wedding reception almost seven years ago. So yes there is at least one guy who is excited to have his family come together and celebrate. So glad I married him and didn't get stuck with the guy who doesn't give a d...
Like I said to each his own. However, I am quite firm in my stance of taking care of my own, never requiring anyone to do what is my responsibility. If you had to send out an invite that says gifts required it says something about the people you are inviting or at least your low thought of them.
Our baby is our responsibility. So we don't require a shower or gifts. However, we have always been blessed and excited to serve as blessing to others, so gifts will come, we know this and are thankful in advance. But we just want to celebrate with people that love us and our baby. I have turned down side stepped two showers since bfp, for this reason.
1. Not my fb friend the invite was a photo with the invitees tagged one of my friends was tagged
2. Requiring gifts is a bit much, my opinion, and good for me
3. This board is going to be fun over the next 7 months.
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My point wasn't to be better. This is a discussion board about baby showers so I discussed a baby shower invite. I am not having a baby shower I am having a party but gifts are not required and that instruction will not be on the invites.
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Happy for me! We do know many! My family has never had a celebration, baby shower or other wise that the men did not happily attend or inquire about in advance. Oh yes, We had one for my god daughter's birth in 2006 and the men were insulted and crashed. Event ended up being much more fun with them!
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If this is MUD this board must be boring...I'd hope people have enough experience to know and create better drama then the wording on an invite?
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....Ok, seriously though guys.....does anyone else understand this? I can't be the only person reading and re-reading this trying to follow it.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Mobile bumping. Replied to most responses in one post. In summary not that serious. I still don't plan to have a baby shower, I hate that stupid bow hat, guessing stomach size, just women...ugh. Hubby will have our party and we will dance the night away. I don't agree with having a gift requirement listed on the invite for a baby shower. This won't be a DD and I still look forward to interacting on this board. Nothings changed.
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Wait, if you have to wear a bow hat and guess stomach size to have a shower, wth did I have?
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I depends on your hostess...I had friend who was adamant before she was pregnant that she did not like this and her hostesses did it anyway.
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Then your friend has a$sh0le friends. My hostess said "Hey---what kind of things do you want to do/not want to do for your shower?" I replied, "I'm really not that picky, but I really don't like x,y,z." She answered "I agree, they are lame. We'll stay away from x, y, z."
Shower day arrived and alas---No X,Y,Z in sight!
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
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A hostess should be a close friend/family member of the guest of honor....a close friend/family member is that because of a respectful relationship between myself and that person....I would never associate with someone (that isn't respectful of other people) long enough to be a "close friend" of someone that isn't respectful of their friends/family members and if I wasn't, they wouldn't be hosting my shower.
Circular reasoning at it's finest. I am friends with good people, good people respect others, my hostess is a friend, my hostess is a good person, my hostess respects my answer when she asked my opinion.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I agree. Although I have hosted, cohosted, and funded a number of showers I also not comfortable with someone putting that type of money into an event for me. I am grateful from the gesture but very uncomfortable. I am the last of my friends close family to have a baby and I wouldn't want them to take money from their responsibilities to have a shower.
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OP...I'm glad your DH is excited about your first LO. My DH was also excited (for all 3 of mine) but he would not go to a baby shower because he is not interested in all the chit-chat that goes on. In my family and friend circle the women usually share stories about pregnancy, labor, and delivery (although we have a rule...no negative comments! lol). Most men are not into that and aren't interested in hearing about other women's experience. I was very interested to hear and I actually learned a lot - much more then I did at any of the classes I took at the hospital! If your family doesn't do that then that is fine. Have your party and invite the guys...I'm sure many people have a party pre-birth (kind of like a last fling before baby). It is not a shower so no problem hosting it yourselves. You don't expect gifts and that is OK too.
As for the facebook invite - tacky with a capital "T" but I do feel sorry for the person since she felt it necessary to tell her guests that "gifts are required"...like they don't know that gifts ARE required for showers (baby or bridal).