New Here

mrsbnlmel

I've been lurking here for quite awhile and keep hesitating to introduce myself. I keep thinking maybe this will be the month, hate to be the one who intros and then disappears with a BFP a week later! Sadly, I'm pretty sure I belong here since that has yet to happen.

My info is in my siggy but basically typical PCOS with me (ovulation issues, early m/c, etc). We recently discovered DH has low morph which may be contributing to the IF.

We have one son who turned 3 in November. So much for having our kiddos 2 years apart! Now we are looking at a 4 year gap at best. He's started asking for a sibling...so hard! We had always planned on three kids but that's looking less and less likely these days. I had a complicated first pregnancy and delivered early. I struggled a lot with PPD after his birth. This IF thing has brought back a lot of those feelings of failure I had back then. I think maybe talking with some other people who can relate might help lift my mood a bit. I look forward to getting to know you all.

HairStylinWifey

I just replied to you in the "waiting to cycle" thread. I waited a long time to join this board too, for the same reasons. But, I'm so glad I finally came out of the woodwork. The ladies here are great

I'm from KC though live in Joplin now. We have loads of family in the area. I was wondering if maybe we go to the same office. That'd be a small world!

jeannaqueena

My mom used to tease me that I would have 3 boys. I now have 2 boys in heaven and one here in my arms.  So many times i have questioned if these are it, if this is all i can have. We haven't had an easy road getting pg any of the 4 times now.  I have come to the conclusion that if we get a second child here in our arms then we would stop trying...it's so hard that part of the IF struggles are the realizations that the family we dreamed about aren't going to happen that way...that the path there is so much harder than we ever imagined.  I have always dreamed of three kids, but this IF journey is so hard.

LadyDouce

Hi I'm very new as well and always lurked these pages for hope and support. I'm sorry about your losses. I've bed ttc 3 for 3 years now. My boys are just under 2 years apart and I was hoping to keep the pattern going. Not in the plans though. My youngest will be nearly 8 by time the next one arrives. But hey we can't give up. I'm learning more and more to throw my plans out if the window. I have to remember that things won't happen on my time but it will be perfect timing when they do.

rcnavywife

Welcome!

mrsbnlmel

Thanks for the warm welcome ladies! So many of the comments you make I can already relate to. It's just so hard to find people IRL who understand that having a child already doesn't make IF any less devastating. I'm so glad to have found this group! 

Jeanna I have noticed your siggy in particular before and I'm so sorry for the loss of your boys. I have no idea why people who struggle with getting pregnant also have to be plagued with traumatic losses as well. Life is so unfair sometimes. I'm so glad you have your Owen! My guy is Owen as well!

ceebeetee

Welcome!  I also completely relate to your situation - my little guy (also an Owen!) turns three next week, and I never imagined that his birthday would come around again and he would still be an only child.  I wanted kiddos around 2-2.5 year apart, when that didn't happen I thought I would at least be pregnant by the time he turns three....well, nope, not happening either.  It is so frustrating.  While I also would love three kids, I have also had to change my expectations and would be thrilled right now with just having one more.   Good luck to you - being on this board is so supportive and definitely helps deal with all the emotion that surrounds secondary IF.