My name is Natalie and my husband and I are in the process of becoming foster/adoptive parents an I myself was adopted. My birth mom gave me up at birth in a closed adoption but I eventually found her information and contacted her, she was very cold and unwilling to have any sort of relationship or tell me anything about my birth family. I have an amazing adopted family and was not looking for a parent, but sadly she was unwilling to have a civil conversation with me.
My parents told me that I was adopted at a young age. They sat me down on the bed, explained what adoption was, and that they loved me very much and wanted a baby so badly and god answered their prayers. They gave me books about adoption and tried to make it feel ok and normal. I feel that I was too young and that their telling me negatively influenced my decisions and actions in childhood. I searched for love in the wrong places, felt like I didn't really belong and now that I am in my 20's and was looking for answers find myself hurt because of my birth mothers harshness. I almost wish that they didn't tell me. This is just my person experience and opinion.