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SaltyDonut · February 2013

I've been lurking on this site for quite a while... but now after my loss I've decided to come out of the shadows & introduce myself.. My son, Scottie Abrahams-Lal was born on 1/12/13 at 21wks 3days due to a placental abruption as a result of a blood clot that separated him from me. This was my first pregnancy & he was my little fighter as I know his heart was beating til the very end.... I was told at 12wks that I was suffering from a miscarriage because my hormone levels had dropped and i had suffered 2 MAJOR bleeds in a 5 day span.... but when I went in for the follow-up US two weeks later to "see what was left" (as my first Dr. put it) there was my baby, healthy looking back at us on the screen in the office... what a moment that was, realizing I was still pregnant (even though I was bleeding) and I had a healthy baby in there. We weren't out of the woods though as I was still bleeding and they could see a clot between uterus & the placenta that we hoped would be reabsorbed as Scottie (& the placenta) grew larger and would take up more surface area... alas the clot was too massive & the damage was done.

I'm usually the one in my family who gets described as stoic, as I never really complain or display too much negative emotion... my pregnancy wasn't planned and my friends often would joke at how I would casually refer to my growing bump (and placental issues) as calm as I did... I was never prepared on how such a little man could leave such a gaping hole in my soul. I'm here trying to pick up the pieces of my life and when I look in the mirror i don't even recognize myself...

I look forward to sharing, giving & getting the support of you ladies... the only ppl who really understand what WE go through...

jebretz · February 2013

So sorry you have to be here! T&P's are with you as you struggle through this difficult time.

Noethola · February 2013

I am so sorry that Scottie is not still growing with you. It is true that know one knows quite like another loss mother. T &P's your way.

jess123456 · February 2013

I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you have come to a very understanding and supportive place.

tuscanbride2007 · February 2013

I am so very sorry for the loss of your sweet baby boy, Scottie. I hope that you will find comfort here among these amazing women. We all are at different points in our grief journey, but we all understand what it is like to lose a child(ren).

((HUGS))

OSUWifey09 · February 2013

I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy Scottie. We are here for you as a support system, shoulder to cry on or place to vent. I'm sorry to welcome you here, but we are absolutely here for you. *hugs*

meli1025 · February 2013

I am so sorry for the loss of your baby boy, Scottie. I wish you didn't have to be here but this is a great place for support. ((HUGS))

Heatherhah · February 2013

I am so sorry that you have to be joining us on this board but I am glad that you have found us. Hugs and I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy Scottie!!

Heather

Xath · February 2013

I'm so sorry to hear about your sweet Scottie, and hope that you can find some comfort and companionship here with us.

Williamandshawnna · February 2013

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son. You will find so much support and understanding from the amazing women here. Please be gentle on yourself.