semi-vent: trying names out

PepVeroni

Per the advice of some helpful ladies on here, my husband and I have been trying out our top 6 names for a few days each - using it when referring or talking to the baby (I think poor DS is getting a little confused!).  This has been very helpful, but now I'm finding that names I thought were favorites for months and months aren't feeling as "right" as names that I had almost discounted.  Now I'm wondering if we should bring back a bunch of the older names we had eliminated to try them out too.  ARGH!

 I'm not really that frustrated, but I'm still feeling very unsure.  Not that I doubted this, but it seems that her name will definitely be a game day decision! 

Has anyone else found that their opinions shifted a lot when trying names out? 

Helenahhandbasket

DH and I sort of did this. 

We had 3 names in the running for DD, and while I was pregnant, we wound up referring to her as Josie, and it just sort of stuck.  We still went to the hospital with all 3 names, and once she was born and DH asked me "which name?" it was almost a no-brainer and we went with Josephine.

I don't think there is anything with either starting from scratch at this point, OR going to the hospital undecided.

GL!

 

 

+ASH+

My opinion shifted a few times with this one because it just didn't "feel" like her name. Then I remember we've had it picked out for five years and I absolutely adore it and I'm so excited to actually be able to use it, so I get over it .

PepVeroni

It's weird about names "feeling" right or wrong.  How could a name I've loved for months or years feel wrong?  And another one I almost disregarded feels right?  Very odd!  But I guess we'll keep them all on the list for now.

starshineamator

PepVeroni:

It's weird about names "feeling" right or wrong.  How could a name I've loved for months or years feel wrong?  And another one I almost disregarded feels right?  Very odd!  But I guess we'll keep them all on the list for now.

I think (and this is totally speculation on my part!) it has to do with the actual child itself, as an individual. Just because you've loved a name doesn't mean that it fits THIS child, and just because you haven't seen or met them yet doesn't mean that you can't feel that discrepancy. I know I've said this to you before, but I'm totally a proponent of having it feel right. Some part of you already knows your child, at least to the extent to which something fits and something else doesn't. I had a whole bunch of names that I loved and were on my "future baby names" list, but when I actually got pregnant and we talked about names, the names that we went with for both sexes (before we found out) were names that neither of us had ever even considered. And when tossing around names that were on that list, I felt, like you, that it just wasn't right. And some of these names I've wanted to use since I was a child myself! But it isn't HER name, so they won't be used on her. That isn't to say that they won't feel right for another child in the future, but not this child. 

I really hope that you update us once she's born! (and ps- our EDDs are just a couple of days apart!)

kayjay10

Yep, this was us for sure.  We had been TTC to for 2 years, so we had played around with names for a long time.  DD is now named one of our original front runners, but in the mean time, I decided I wanted to try some more trendier names.  It didn't take me long to realize those just weren't me.  I'm so glad we called her a few of them in order to rule them out.  She arrived early at 29 weeks and we didn't have a definite choice, but ended up with the very first name we both liked and had almost ruled out.

Fianschneid

Kind of DH and I thought we had found the name, tried it for a few days and it didn't feel right. We went back to the drawing board, found a name we had never considered, tried it out and it stuck.

alohamora

I definitely think this...there are a lot of names I love, but when I started to actually imagine them on MY child and being used in our day-to-day life, I realized that they just weren't right.  

PepVeroni

starshineamator:

PepVeroni:

It's weird about names "feeling" right or wrong.  How could a name I've loved for months or years feel wrong?  And another one I almost disregarded feels right?  Very odd!  But I guess we'll keep them all on the list for now.

I think (and this is totally speculation on my part!) it has to do with the actual child itself, as an individual. Just because you've loved a name doesn't mean that it fits THIS child, and just because you haven't seen or met them yet doesn't mean that you can't feel that discrepancy. I know I've said this to you before, but I'm totally a proponent of having it feel right. Some part of you already knows your child, at least to the extent to which something fits and something else doesn't. I had a whole bunch of names that I loved and were on my "future baby names" list, but when I actually got pregnant and we talked about names, the names that we went with for both sexes (before we found out) were names that neither of us had ever even considered. And when tossing around names that were on that list, I felt, like you, that it just wasn't right. And some of these names I've wanted to use since I was a child myself! But it isn't HER name, so they won't be used on her. That isn't to say that they won't feel right for another child in the future, but not this child. 

I really hope that you update us once she's born! (and ps- our EDDs are just a couple of days apart!)

Thanks for the advice!  I hear what you're saying - somehow, maybe because of others we know with the names or impressions we have of particular names, even favorites might not seem right for how we imagine our children to be.  

I'll definitely update once we decide!  I'll probably also post another poll or ask for opinions on our final choices once we get really close.  Do you already have a name chosen this time around?  I haven't been checking the board much lately.