If you ever thought about maybe just one more kid...

stgn01

So right after I had my son, I said that I still might want one more.  Even though DH and I said we only would want 2 kids, there is something inside of me that says "maybe just one more."  DH said he would if I really, really wanted to, but I think he's done having kids.  We'll see in a year or two.  

If you had that thought and then never had any more, do you regret it?  I think 2 is our limit, but I don't want to always wonder what if... 

rosesandpeonies

both of us wanted four and then we had 2 under 2 and well we are NOT ready for 3 or even 4.  Beyond the fact that we just had a major marital issue and are working on things, we just are enjoying our girls.

To be honest I want more, but I would be totally fine with my girls.  I would give it some time and see what time shows.  I have noticed that as the girls get older my husband is getting the itch to have more kids again.  Like I said we have to work on our marriage right now, but he definitely has talked about it, when a year ago he was done

I am 32 right now and I know from my parents you could all of a sudden decide ten years down the road to have more kids.  that is why we arent going to get any permanent birth control done. 

mbgreenwalt

I always envisioned having 2, we have 2, but I think about a 3rd from time-to-time.  I didn't do anything permanent because I wasn't 100% sure we were done.  DH says I can make the decision, he'll be happy either way.  I think I really just want to be pg again and have a newborn.  I loved being pg and the itty bitty newborns are my favorite. 

I am going to give myself until 32 (I'm 30 now) to decide.  I don't want a bigger age gap than that and we'll hopefully be in a better financial state to determine what we want for sure.

candr09

We're not sure if we're done having kids or not. DD is 27 months and DS is 2 months. DH is happy with just them but something inside me is telling me we should have more. We decided we'll wait until DS is at least 2 years old and then we'll revisit the issue and discuss it then.

Even though we have our hands full right now, I just can't imagine never being pregnant again, never feeling a baby kick from the inside, never hearing that first cry and that feeling you get the first time you lay eyes on your LO.... I want to experience all of that again. We'll see.

WestCoastMommy

DH use to always tell people he wanted 4 kids. When we actually started having kids we debated between one and done after having DS.  Then we later decided that we def wanted DS to have a sibling and not to far spaced out from him and we got pregnant with DD. We LOVE having 2 and they are perfectly spaced (2.5 years) and we have a boy & a girl. Not to mention they absolutely love each other and are best friends and life is just so easy now that our kids are 2 and 4.5.

We both agree we are done. It just feels right but we haven't done permanent BC yet. DH just turned 30 and I'm 28 so we didn't feel the need to rush into a permanent decision. We never talk about having more but I know if it happened we would be fine with it but prefer not to. We may be nuts to think this way but we kind of feel like we don't want to bring any more babies into this crazy world that it is today and we feel comfortable in knowing we can protect the two children we have now.

smiling76

candr09:

We're not sure if we're done having kids or not. DD is 27 months and DS is 2 months. DH is happy with just them but something inside me is telling me we should have more. We decided we'll wait until DS is at least 2 years old and then we'll revisit the issue and discuss it then. Even though we have our hands full right now, I just can't imagine never being pregnant again, never feeling a baby kick from the inside, never hearing that first cry and that feeling you get the first time you lay eyes on your LO.... I want to experience all of that again. We'll see.

This is kind of how I feel---the whole "never feeling that again" thing.  I pretty much liked being pregnant minus a couple issues like pre-term labor.  The big thing for me would be a 3rd c-section, which would suck since the first two did.  And of course more risk with that as well. 

I feel we are complete, but then again sometimes feel that having another one would be ok too--BUT I'm 99% sure we're done.  Age is a factor (I'll be 37 next month), as well as marital happiness right now.  It would not be fair to bring a third in to this and then the other factor is that the kids are now getting older and honestly, they are more independent which is awesome too. 

 

PunkyBooster

Yes.

I try to think of big decisions being like, "if I'm on my death bed at 100 years old, what would I regret?"

I think if I even thought I might want a 3rd child, I would have it. Because on my death bed, I would regret not having that 3rd, whereas no one says, "Damn, I really wish I didn't have little Johnny."