STMs with colic experience

MeaganG11

DS is very colicky, very demanding needs-wise (usually screams if I even make a motion like I'm going to put him down, and will scream if I'm holding him in a position he doesn't like, which he changes his preference of about every 10 minutes). This goes on from when he wakes up in the morning until he goes to sleep at night. I do 95% of the care taking, as I am home with him during the day while DH is at work (I'm going back to work next week), and I'm usually emotionally exhausted from listening to an unhappy baby all day and physically exhausted from bouncing him all day to stop the screaming. I originally wanted four kids but I'm not sure I can do this three more times!

If your first baby had colic, did your subsequent ones have colic too? (apologies for any formatting issues, posting from cell phone)

AnnaRedhead

I am not a STM but I do want to say that my older sister had colic and I did not...so I don't think you are necessarily doomed to have nothing but colicky children. I really think every baby is different!

Hang in there momma!

kleigh926

I'm not a STM either, but I was a very colicky baby. My mom almost didn't want to have another because of me. My younger brother was the complete opposite. All he did was sleep and eat, my mom says he was the best baby. So I don't think you're doomed!

JulySpark05

DD1 was a colicky baby and it was really tough. I prayed so hard that DD2 would be an easy baby and she is. It has been amazing to be able to experience having a baby that doesn't have colic. There is hope!

chop2428

DD1 was a colicky baby. She would let no one but me hold her for months, screamed for hours at night, and would scream in her car seat whenever we drove. I cried and felt like there was no way I could ever do that again. I can assure you, you will forget how bad it was quickly. I know that when you are in it you feel like you can't do another minute, but it will end soon. DD2 is amazing compared to DD1. Sure she's fussy, but when you have a colicky baby, fussy is nothing.

NicoleWI

This wasn't your question, but I heard that the probiotic drops (BioGaia) are worth a shot if you aren't already trying them.

momofmanyinthemitten

My doc said that 1/5 babies is colicky, so our chances of having a second one are pretty low. I will say that it was worth all the sweat and tears, as DD is an amazing toddler. Your bag of tricks for dealing with baby 2 is much bigger, so even if you do get another colicky baby, you will be better suited to handle him/her.

preciousbabyD

I'm sorry you're having a hard time right now but know that it won't last forever (I know it's hard to imagine).  Our first was colicky and I remember thinking I will never have another child b/c it is emotionally and physically draining.  We found that DS1 liked sleeping in the swing and used it whenever we could to catch a break.  He would be calm for about 30 min-1 hour and start up again but it was a good break to have to eat, nap, clean myself up, or just calm myself down.  Luckily, our second baby is the total opposite.  I do remember being nervous while I was pregnant with DS2 that he would be colicky as well but he's been so wonderful.  Now that DS1 is grown, it's like a distant memory of the colicky period we went through.  Hang in there!  It will get better! =D

3litttlebirds

MeaganG11:

DS is very colicky, very demanding needs-wise (usually screams if I even make a motion like I'm going to put him down, and will scream if I'm holding him in a position he doesn't like, which he changes his preference of about every 10 minutes). This goes on from when he wakes up in the morning until he goes to sleep at night. I do 95% of the care taking, as I am home with him during the day while DH is at work (I'm going back to work next week), and I'm usually emotionally exhausted from listening to an unhappy baby all day and physically exhausted from bouncing him all day to stop the screaming. I originally wanted four kids but I'm not sure I can do this three more times!

If your first baby had colic, did your subsequent ones have colic too? (apologies for any formatting issues, posting from cell phone)

I am a FTM, so no answer for what you are asking. But I wanted to say that I am in the same boat. My DS is 3 months old (adjusted age...he was a preemie) and I am so exhausted by the end of the day. Same things you said...he has to be held pretty much all the time. That would be fine if we could sit..he wants to be held, but I also have to be walking, bouncing, changing positions frequently or he gets fussy and squirmy. It is very exhausting physically and mentally. When he has a day here and there when he is in longer stretches of a good mood, I actually worry that something is wrong because that's not his normal self. Haha. I guess hang in there...that's what I'm trying to do. It's got to get better at some point.... 

nothing101

I am a STM and both my babies where Colicky.  My first, a son, was a fussy colic, just fussed non stop from 4 o'clock on, it was stressful, but I forgot about it.  Then I just recently had my daughter and she screams from 4 o'clock on.  And for both of them I know the colic is caused from gas, the doctors agree as it has been witnessed by them as well.  Family who have watched my babies when in the evenings agree and it's hard to find willing participants to watch them sometimes.  Nothing has helped.  But I can say with my son it was better after 3 months, and so my daughter is 10weeks and i'm counting down to the 3 month mark.  It makes me sad I'm wishing away her baby weeks but the constant screaming in the evenings and nights is exhausting.  But it was just my luck of the draw, but you do forget and do it again if you want another.  You forget it all until it happens again then you think...oh yeah I remember this part being awful why did I do this again, you do it b/c you love your children.  It gets better promise, 3mths will have changes and then 6mths and 9mths, you'll see. Hang in there. 

Wild_flower25

Ds had colic and so far it seems that dd doesn't. Knock on wood!

MeaganG11

Thank you ladies! Your experiences are very encouraging!