I don't want anyone to hold my baby...

MRSVELA07

Is this normal? Obviously hubby is an exception but allowing other family members to hold him is out of the question. I know I have to get over this but I'm just not ready. Anyone else experiencing this? I'm a first time mom and refuse to have help unless I REALLY need it. I know many of you may suggest to take help when needed but I've never had that type of personality. I only fee comfortable with hubby's help...THAT'S IT! From time to time my mom's as well.

What's wrong with me?!?!? 

MrsT0514

Nothing is wrong with you! I felt (and still do sometimes!) the same exact way. With time (and sleep deprivation!!) it does get easier to accept help and even ask for it, from others. It still doesn't change the fact that no one will care of your LO the way you do.

this decaf life

It's good for you and it's really good for your baby to be comfortable with people besides just you. Nothing is wrong with you but if you're constantly refusing help people will stop offering... and then when you need help it might be harder to come by.

When my FIL was here [DD was about 2.5 weeks old then] I basically didn't hold her except to feed/change the whole 4 days he was in town! Similar when my mom was in town when DD was a day old for a week but she ate a lot more then so she was attached to me more than when FIL came. I'm willing to hand her off to anyone willing to hold her because I love having both hands free and since I'm EBF & she eats often I only get so many opportunities.

Do what makes you comfortable but at some point you'll probably want to find a way to be comfortable with others. 

jessalared

I am the exact opposite, I'll take all the help I can get! I love my little man so much but so does everyone else It's a blessing to have a lot of people that love you! 

jobiann

jessalared:

I am the exact opposite, I'll take all the help I can get! I love my little man so much but so does everyone else It's a blessing to have a lot of people that love you! 

This. I'm more than happy to hand DS off to one of our parents or our siblings...they are such amazing support and help. And I want our son to be socialized and not be afraid to go to members of our family. 

Brummy14

I was exactly this was for the week DD1 was home before DD2 followed from the NICU. Especially since I'm the craziest germophobe EVER, now. I could handle DD1 just fine on my own, and even with my parents around initially, found that stressed me out more. But, with both girls home, we take all the help my parents will offer! No one else can visit during the duration of flu season, but we are so thankful for the help they provide, so we can sleep, take care of a few basic chores, etc. It really helps us have the patience to be better parents when we are running the show solo with the girls.

hisnhers

Im the same as you.
There are only a select few people i allow to help out with the kids and the house. It gets exhausting at times, but mostly im happy things are done right and my kids got their health, safety, structure and boundaries.

CocoR04

I'm the same way. I was a germaphobe before having DS, but after a really emotional return visit to the hospital for a bad case of jaundice, I have gone a little crazy with the no visitors/no holding thing.  I'm so scared of DS getting a fever and having to go back to the hospital.  He's going to daycare part time at 3 months, so I'm obviously going to have to come to terms with my fears, but for now I'm being really overprotective.  

It also doesn't help that my family seems to think they can be around him with hacking coughs and colds.  If they were a little more respectful, it might be different.