Late Term and Child Loss


Hi Ladies -

I've been doing a bit of lurking over the past week or so, and have finally decided to join. My name is Brittany, and our son Nathan was born at 23.5 weeks due to Incompetent Cervix. This was our first pregnancy, and my husband and I were/are shocked as everything up until 23 weeks couldn't have been more perfect. At 23 weeks exactly I started having some bleeding, and within a few hours was admitted to the hospital, on bedrest, and hoping for a few more weeks to give our son a chance. After 4 days on bedrest my water broke, and our son was born 24 hours later. He lived for about an hour in the NICU.

This experience has been, and continues to be, the most up and down experience - more than I could have even imagined. We alternate from being so thankful to have had our son, and only wanting to remember him, my pregnancy and his birth in a positive light, to being so sad at the memories, and trying to figure out where to go from here. I am a planner, and am finding it extremely difficult to be in a place that feels like I'm stuck and out of control, and hope that I'll be able to find some help from this group! 


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  • I'm so sorry that Nathan is no longer here with you. Grieving the loss of a baby is a crazy Roller coaster ride. I'm glad you posted here. 
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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Nathan. I lost my son, Devon, back in August at 34 weeks, and it was the most up and down experience for me, too. Even after almost six months, it still continues to be a roller coaster. I'm also a planner, and I spent weeks just trying to figure out where my life would go after losing my son. 

    Please be gentle on yourself, and take care of yourself. We are here as support, a shoulder to cry on and a place to vent. I hate to welcome you here, but this board has helped me so much since I lost Devon. I hope we can be the same for you. *hugs* 


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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious son. I think everyone here will echo the feelings of not having control. I am also a planner and so am struggling with my life being so out off from my plan. Welcome.
    TTC since May 2011
    Provera x3 late 2011, no natural response. (Previous BCP for 12 years).
     Dx PCOS April 2012. 
    Clomid x 4 - no response.
    First FSH/Ovidrel cycle early Aug 2012 - 18 days of injections, slow growth, erratic estrogen levels, triggered Aug 21st. 
    BFP Sept 4th and Sept 7th! 
     7wk US Sept 28th - triplets! 
    Perfect triplets lost at 20 weeks due to incompetent cervix. Allison Grace, James Alexander and Colin Gregory forever in our hearts!  
    IVF #1 10/11/13 -  canceled before retrieval.  
    IVF# 2 11/28/13 - retrieval on Turkey Day! Hyperstim - no transfer
    FET #1 2/4/14 - miscarriage @ 9 weeks (Trisomy 6) 
    FET #2 6/8/14 - healthy normal baby! Due date 2/25/15
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  • I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your son Nathan. I hope you find as much comfort here as I have. The ladies here are so wonderful.
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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your Nathan.  I think we can all empathize here with what you're going through.  


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  • Brittany,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your precious son Nathan. This is such a roller coaster ride of emotions. Please be gentle with yourself. You have come to the right place for help and support.


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  • I'm so sorry for you loss of baby Nathan. Big hugs to you in this super difficult time <3

    I lost my babies due to IC as well, please pm me if you ever want to chat. 

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    4/11 Off BCPs -- Cycle 1-3 (6months) - No ovulation, Provera
    Cycle 4-6 - Provera, Clomid 50mg, CD23BW - All BFN (HSG-all clear)
    Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
    TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
    IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
    IVF ICSI #2-  (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
    ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Nathan, and I'm sorry you're here, but welcome. I'm also a planner, and that was one of the hardest things for me...having absolutely no control over anything. I hope you find comfort here.
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    BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
    BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
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  • Thanks everyone - I'm glad I found this board!
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  • So sorry to hear about your son.
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  • So sorry for your loss.  I don't have much advice to offer you since my loss was only about 10 days ago.  I can definitely agree that feeling so out of control is making everything so difficult.  I hope this board gives you a place to feel less alone and find some support, that is what it is doing for me so far.
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    IVF #2- BFP!!! Beautiful baby girl became an angel on 2/6/13 at 17.5 weeks due to PPROM/IC
    IVF #3- New RE... February March 2014! 8r/6m/6f. Transferred one and have one frostie! BFP! EDD 12/7/14
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  • I'm so sorry for the loss of your sweet Nathan. We are all here for you. Hugs!
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  • I am so sorry for the loss of your son Nathan ((HUGS))
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