12 weeks and still not excited...

vadamsv

I'm having a really hard time excepting the fact I am pregnant. I feel so guilty that everyone else is excited and I could not be further away from that feeling. I know how awful it sounds but I can't help how I feel. Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? Just need some advice.

XmasDivine

I was surprised, when I told some friends and family they were shockingly excited! I feel like I'm being more reserved than they are.. And it's not that I'm not excited .. Idk they are just SO excited and I just don't feel it yet. I hope it will come, as we see the ultrasound and as the belly starts and I start to feel more secure and that it's really real.. But right now I do seem to be the least excited person!!

Southerndancinmama

Personally with this pregnancy I'm trying not to get too excited before I know it's viable. I think with time and your body starting to really change it will become real for you. That will make it exciting. First trimester and even part of second is not as fun for me because of the possibility of miscarriage. Once I'm really showing I start to get excited ;

kdjudd

It'll happen just give it some time. The more you start to show and plan the more real all of this will feel. 

kakhmama

You're not alone. I'm trying to relax and get excited, but I'm just having a hard time.

Maybe because it is an unplanned PG? Maybe because I understand now the risks and how fragile the LO really is...dunno

vadamsv

I felt the same way watching the ultrasound. My BF was so mesmerized and I was just...there.

This was unplanned as well. Maybe I'm just way to selfish. But I keep thinking "There goes my body I busted my ass for" .." Oh summer is coming? Big deal" .. and the fact I am in 2 weddings , one being 4 days AFTER my due date is literally depressing! 

kendra223

Maybe you are more focused on the stressful things.. like money and schedule changes. But just realized you were blessed with a child. Raising one isn't easy but its also the most rewarding thing ever. And you won't understand til the baby comes. But when baby comes, you will feel the love.

I'm pregnant with my 2nd. When I told my Mom she was so happy. And I was still in shock, because this one wasn't 10000 planned like the 1st one was. But once I seen the ultrasound, I was so proud of my new little baby.

Bottomline. It may take time, but it will all come.

inthelost

It may just take some time is all. It's OK to not be completely excited at this point. And there's always a risk in the first trimester. My family was more excited than I was at first. Mine was an unplanned pregnancy and when the stick first turned positive...i cried and cried and cried on the bathroom floor. I had to have time to come to terms with it. Don't worry, you will get excited as time goes on. Don't try to push it.

Bluescarf

I feel the same. Actually, even upset. I feel guilty about that even but I did not want or plan this baby. We have a beautiful almost-2 year old son who we wanted very much and planned down to the minute. I'm not sure if that's why it is bothering me, or if my original plan of only one baby is being mourned. It's very hard and I am crying a lot about it. Everyone else seems so happy and my husband is even okay with it, even though he had originally wanted only one child also. I have contacted someone about counseling for it, since I think it'll feel better to say what I want about it to someone I don't know. I think in time we will accept it and maybe even get excited, who knows?