Somewhere between thurs and fri... UO/FFFC time!

thatoneredhead

Since it's hella slow on the bump and Im in a bad mood, I'll spill my guts

I was really hoping it was PPD- I think my marriage is just in the shitter. I feel like the biggest POS on the planet. My husband has mild Asperger's. I love him deeply, and know he loves me and I feel like that should be enough... but it's not. Im so starved for any sort of emotional connection Im beginning to scare myself. It's not going well.

Im really bitter that millions of people had sex today and Im not one of them.

 

Sigir

I'm sorry. It's really hard to feel emotionally unsupported when you have a baby... Candidly that is the reason my first marriage ended. Even in the best marriages, post baby is a time of high stress. Can you and he go to a therapist? If so, I'd recommend it sooner than later... It can help a lot. But if you wait too long you can get so resentful that there is no coming back... That's what happened to me.

Gnadtkins

I would second other posts about going to a therapist. I don't know if the aspergers is contributing, but it would probably be worth it to discuss things with someone there to help you through it.
For the no sex thing... you are not alone, but after no sleep... who really wants to?

EMOmamma

You're not alone.  My marriage is in serious trouble too.  We're currently trying to find a councilor to work with our odd schedule.  

I highly suggest not making any permanent decisions (unless it's an issue of someone's safety) until after your baby is 1.  Things really do get easier and more fun  

H and I were doing way better between the time DS turned 1 and DD was born but now we're in the bad place again.  It's really hard to connect when we only have about an hour per day and we're both so exhausted we just want to veg.

I've been bitter too - I know I've made some snarky posts on here that I usually wouldn't make but I'm just grouchy.  When someone complains that their H didn't get them enough flowers for V-day I just want to yell at then and say "really?!, well my marriage might be ending so STFU" 

alizabethanne

OP and the other girls who posted. I am really sorry. I hope everything gets better soon. Hugs.

Today at the grocery store parking lot I screamed loudly at an old man. I was putting DD in her carseat, my cart was next to me cause I had just pulled her out of it. As I was buckling her in an old man flew into the space next to me, slammed into my cart (which was inches from me to begin with) and it grazed me and almost hit the car door. Then he motioned for me to get out of his way. This mama bear lost her SH#$%^. I yelled at him, a lot. I dont even feel bad.

I park at the back to avoid this crap!

thatoneredhead

alizabethanne:

OP and the other girls who posted. I am really sorry. I hope everything gets better soon. Hugs.

Today at the grocery store parking lot I screamed loudly at an old man. I was putting DD in her carseat, my cart was next to me cause I had just pulled her out of it. As I was buckling her in an old man flew into the space next to me, slammed into my cart (which was inches from me to begin with) and it grazed me and almost hit the car door. Then he motioned for me to get out of his way. This mama bear lost her SH#$%^. I yelled at him, a lot. I dont even feel bad.

I park at the back to avoid this crap!

Thanks for all the support, June Mamas. It sucks and good luck to those that are struggling as well. There was a post on 3rd tri about parenthood being "that"hard a few weeks back. No, it's not. It's the whole not having time for anybody or anything but your baby that sucks.

(Thank God) Part of my work benefits include free counselling to my immediate family. Looking into that ASAP.

 oh and I totally screamed at an old man that turned too close to us in a crosswalk. Im pretty sure I would be in jail if his car had touched my stroller. 

Also, my house is always messy. I dont understand how people keep their house immaculate. 

topaz7777

FFFC: Some mornings when DD is screaming the entire time I'm getting ready for work I tell her that I'm going to give her away to the lady who watches her at Daycare.

I'm secretly bitter about people who have an easy time getting pregnant.  I'm pretty down about my IF and TTC #2.

mamayo26

FFFC: The woman that lives "behind" us uses baby gates as a fence for her yard. I want to put in a complaint to the township about it, but I don't want to make it an uncomfortable living situation for us.

1. The "fence" doesn't even work, the kids she watches or whatever she does with them (I heard home schooling) sneak around the fence.

2. It is tacky

3. It makes the neighborhood look trashy.

I can't decide what I want to do about this, it is so aggravating!!!! 

acbfreire

I secretly envy people with babies that nurse every 3 h and STTN, but I wouldn't change a thing about LO and will not sleep train (yet).

OP and PPs having a baby does put a lot of stress on a couple. DH and I had some big fights. We never fought before. He seems to have a lot of new insecurities after DD was born. We finally got to the bottom of it, but it took a whole month of weirdness.

Meery82

topaz7777:

FFFC: Some mornings when DD is screaming the entire time I'm getting ready for work I tell her that I'm going to give her away to the lady who watches her at Daycare.

LOL. That's too funny. My FFFC: I let my son watch the baby channel on TV way more often than I should. He freakin loves it.  

thatoneredhead

DisneyPeanut:

Meery82:

topaz7777:

FFFC: Some mornings when DD is screaming the entire time I'm getting ready for work I tell her that I'm going to give her away to the lady who watches her at Daycare.

LOL. That's too funny. My FFFC: I let my son watch the baby channel on TV way more often than I should. He freakin loves it.  

 

I'm totally guilty of this. At first I was trying to keep the TV watching to a minimum, but she likes it too much. Plus, my DH doesn't care about it and will ALWAYS have TV/movie in the background. I gave up. If you can't beat them, join them I guess.

He loves the pajanimals on Netflix. He falls asleep to it sometimes!  

thatoneredhead

topaz7777:

FFFC: Some mornings when DD is screaming the entire time I'm getting ready for work I tell her that I'm going to give her away to the lady who watches her at Daycare.

I'm secretly bitter about people who have an easy time getting pregnant.  I'm pretty down about my IF and TTC #2.

Good luck trying for bebe #2 

Meery82

thatoneredhead:

DisneyPeanut:

Meery82:

topaz7777:

FFFC: Some mornings when DD is screaming the entire time I'm getting ready for work I tell her that I'm going to give her away to the lady who watches her at Daycare.

LOL. That's too funny. My FFFC: I let my son watch the baby channel on TV way more often than I should. He freakin loves it.  

 

I'm totally guilty of this. At first I was trying to keep the TV watching to a minimum, but she likes it too much. Plus, my DH doesn't care about it and will ALWAYS have TV/movie in the background. I gave up. If you can't beat them, join them I guess.

He loves the pajanimals on Netflix. He falls asleep to it sometimes!  

OK, I don't feel quite as bad now!  

violajack

DH and I are in counselling now too, so all you ladies are so not alone. I swore I would never scream or yell in front of the baby but I have more times than I'd care to admit. 

I live in an urban area and walk everywhere. So many cars have come close to me so many times and I have yelled at many of them. Heaven help them if one should actually touch the stroller.

On a related note, the city recently axed a lot of street parking to extend the dedicated bike lanes on our street. It's a great area to bike in and there are tons of people who commute by bike. However, some idiots still insist on biking on the sidewalk. I am soooooo tempted to just knock them over. SOOOOO tempted. Every Single Time. I mean, there's a bike lane RIGHT THERE!  Grrrrrr. 

Okay, I feel better now.