Bf and working

lyndsihutson

So I think I just need reassurance... I haven't gone back to work yet and I'm so afraid to! My dd takes a bm bottle every night so I know she will eat, but sometimes when she's gassy or cranky my breast is the only thing that will make her calm down! I'm so afraid that when I'm at work she will be inconsolable for my mom or dad when they have her and I won't be there and nothing will calm her down. Any tips?? She will rarely take a pacifier so I don't think that'll be an option. I know with my mom, she will figure it out but with my dad I'm just worried he won't know what to do. Everything will be okay right?

rjeller32

Those fears are totally normal, and in all honestly they only go away when the moment comes that you do have to leave LO. Remember that your mom and dad were parents of a tiny baby too, and so while it may take a week or two for everyone to adjust, they'll all get in the swing of things. It's hard, but it'll help teach your LO how to calm down with something besides your breast, which will help you out too! But there is a huge chance she won't be very happy for a little while with your parents all day, but they do get used to it, and you will too! I remember the first day I left my FB at daycare, she was 2 mths old, and I cried almost all day, worried sick that no one would know how to soothe her So, yeah, everything will be okay!

lyndsihutson

I went to a show with my dad and left dd with my dh and he totally knows how to care for her but I still cried!! I was gone for over 9 hours! When I do go back I rarely work over 6 to 7 hours a night.. However the thought alone makes me want to cry. Trying to imagine her not being able to be comforted and me not there to help..... Omg.

rjeller32

Yeah, It's so hard not to have every worst possible senario going through your mind, but I promise that feeling goes away! To me, I look at it like this: I may not be able to be around my girls 24/7 like I have been, but it makes the time I am with them more special. Plus when your LO starts to get older, they also light up when you come to get them, which can make a long day ten times better with that simple look. So, although you are losing out on time, you are also getting some very special moments (: I hope it all goes well for you!

FairyDuster003

DD is ebf and she'll take a bottle of BM from her dad if I'm not at home. I started working at a restaurant and sometimes I get home really late... Well that's when she gets fussiest. SO calls me asking when ill be home if it gets late because she gets almost inconsolable when she's over the bottle.... But, she is getting better every day. She's with someone who loves her dearly and will do anything to make her happy. Yeah, I'm hurt when I think she's really unhappy and wants mommy, but I know that daddy can make her feel loved and comforted while she waits for me!