So I just emailed MIL, BIL, my mother and sister with the details for DD1's birthday party. MIL responded that she and FIL have plans for a concert that night and won't be able to come, and I kind of got the impression she was upset.
Should I have cleared the party with everyone before booking it? it's not really for family, we can still do a family party, but this is really just for her friends.
I feel horrible and of course the party deposit is nonrefundable.
Re: MIL oopsie...
I would feel bad too. I did ask my mom to have one of his birthday's but it is going to be at her house (they live 4 hours away and so this year he is have two first birthday's. i hopt it doesn't stick) But i didn't ask anyone else besides my husband about the party for where we live. It is a party for little man.
Also, if it in norefundable, then just explain to them that you still want to have a small family one and ask when would be a good day. tell her that it will be calmer and she can have more time with the baby and not sharing or overstimulating him. and make sure to take lots of photos from the other party
Eh -- as children get older, it's natural for the birthday party to become more about the birthday kid's friends and preferences, and less oriented around a family celebration.
Maybe the grandparents can join you for dinner on the night of DD's actual birthday, or something similar. That way they get DD all to themselves.