Confused

Hollie soane

Hi all... I'm 20 years old and 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby. The father left me shortly after finding out about the pregnancy and we have agreed that we do not want to be in a relationship together. He has said that he wants to be in babies life so that is great!! Since being single I have met someone who is completely fine with my situation and wants to support me and baby, I like him and think we would work well together but I've got a niggling in my head asking why anyone would want me now that I am a single pregnant girl!! X

livleen3

Its great you have met someone that makes you feel good! We all need and DESERVE it.. So this is a good thing.. here comes the BUT, but you have to still proceed with caution not just with him but everything in life. You have a baby you are responsibile for and your actions will always effect your child. So what I mean is take things slow with him. Get to know him, be friends with him. If you ever doubt anything dont ignore those feelings. Also if your family or friends can meet him and you guys all hang out together that may also be a good idea. Enjoy this relationship but be guarded. Also it may not be a good idea to tell your ex everything about your new relationship. Like dont put it in his face b/c that could push him away and you dont want that b/c hes the father and the love he will feel for his own child is very hard for someone else to feel. Take things SLOW...

Im not trying to scare you and the man you are with could truly be a wonderful person but here is a story of my friend. My friend met a guy while she was pregnant and they were together the entire time she was pregnant but as soon as she had the baby he kicked her out of the house. B/c I guess he realized that a crying baby is not somthing he wanted. Later on he confessed to her that he just wanted her b/c he knew she wouldnt get pregnant with his child since she was already pregnant. He told her he never truly had plans to be with her. Im sharing this with you only b/c there are F'd up ppl out there.. So take things SLOW and be guarded. Dont make tons of future plans etc with him. Try tobe as independent as you can.

Good Luck! Be happy : )

mel1987

Go super slow with this guy. Honestly, I think it's weird that you are dating right now. There are a lot of other things you should be focusing on. BUT, maybe he is mr. right and in your case it's not weird and will be great for you. Just don't jump in with both feet. GL!

lilhockeygurlMOM

Girl you have met a truly amazing guy. Not that many men are like that. My friend met her fiance when she was pregnant with another man's child that disappeared and things are amazing for them. She gave birth and then had another child with his amazing man. Not many guys are like that. You need to keep men like that around.

Hollie soane

That's what I thought, and we've known each other for a while before I fell pregnant. I'm just worried to bring another man into babies life and in case babies dad doesn't like it.. It's hard to take things slow when you're pregnant!!