Wow

csharpe27

I am so frustrated. We had our first sonogram this morning everything looked good. Baby's heartbeat was 153 bpm. So we told all the close family members. When my husband called his older brother he said "Your a nut for telling this early."  Not congratulations not even I am happy for you. His older brother is married but has no kids. I am so surprised and upset about how he replied.

CutieBean79

What a butt. At the same time, we don't always find people are as excited for us as we are to tell them the good news. 

Cleo421

That's tacky as hell and not true. I wonder if he's jealous, or if he and his wife have suffered early losses.

 I called my "best friend" after hearing the HBs. Her very first words were, "Wow I guess you had IVF then, huh?" (I didn't). No congrats, no I'm so happy for you. Ugh. I chalk it up to her being mid thirties and having a deadbeat bf that has called off their wedding multiple times.  

aml8979

So sorry! This is your news to share and you get to decide when you are ready! It's never too soon to tell family.

LCass

I'm sorry you didn't get the response you were hoping for.  I would guess that maybe they've experienced some losses, that you might not even be aware of?  And for some they don't see a difference between telling your nearest and dearest and shouting it from the rooftops for every stranger to know.  I'm sure he is/will be happy for you guys.  For now, focus on the good results you got this morning and the positive responses you got from other family members.

happybride 276

Don't let his jerkyness take away from your special news. Before I had kids I thought anyone was crazy to share before 12 weeks, but I had enough sense to keep it to myself. We have seen the heartbeat and everything looks aok and DH still wants to wait for 12 weeks to share with everyone. Just chalk his response to never having been in your position.

mmdd20

While I am sorry that he didn't give you the response you were looking for, I would be inclined to think that perhaps they have experienced a loss and are sensitive about this. 

Unfortunately, not everyone is going to be as excited as you are about your pregnancy and I hope this doesn't take away from you and your husbands joy during this time.

Also, as someone who had a loss at 8 weeks before I tend to side-eye others who tell early, but mostly because I am jealous that they are able to feel so excited at a point in pregnancy when I, myself was terrified. I would not, however, let anyone know that if they were to tell me early. 

ilovetolaugh

Forget it and move on.  There is no point dwelling on it.  I'm sure there are other family members who were really excited!

csharpe27

Thanks everyone for the kind words..it means a lot!

RunningGal900

His comment is odd to me a d I have had two early losses. Everyone tells on their own schedule. I've told people, though it is with trepidation and not the excitement that i wish it was. I had to tell people about the pregnancy and the m/c the last two times, so for me, if I would tell you if I lost the baby, then I'm at a point where I will tell you I'm pregnant. So it's not his place to decide whether you are a nut. It's not as though telling this early is going to jinx you. 

Luckymomma4

I have to say that not very many of our family members are excited about our pregnancy. This is our 4th child and it's not like anyone offers to help watch the kids or anything. Most people respond with, you know what causes that, right?!? Which I hate.  I'm sorry and I can kind of relate. Don't let it ruin your excitement.

katiebenes

I'm with PPs, there's probably a loss you don't know about. relish the other responses and don't let people get you down