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lyssa1985 · February 2013

H and I have been using condoms....I have BOTB and he (unfortunately) does not. I O'd 1 week ago and, while we did put a condom on before he ejaculated, we didn't have one on beforehand. How high of a chance is it that I could get pregnant off of pre-***? I would love a baby right now...but I'm not sure how he would take it. I just need advice! TIA

lyssa1985 · February 2013

We aren't TTC. Just asking a question.

Courtimilk · February 2013

Large enough that we tell teens not to do it, but small enough to not be worth any lack-of-sleep. The biggest factor is if he ''got-off'' within the last 24 hours prior to the incident in question.

Helenahhandbasket · February 2013

It's impossible to answer this, but if you are not TTC, I would be more pro-actively cautious next time. It does not sound like your DH is ready.

lyssa1985 · February 2013

If he did, there would be a smaller chance, right?

lyssa1985 · February 2013

I have told DH many times that there is a possibility of getting pregnant with pre-cvm. But he doesn't think there is..but I've read many places that there is a small chance. I just wanted to get some input.

lyssa1985 · February 2013

Either way, I'll find out Friday...that is when AF is expected to come.

Helenahhandbasket · February 2013

lyssa1985:
I have told DH many times that there is a possibility of getting pregnant with pre-cvm. But he doesn't think there is..but I've read many places that there is a small chance. I just wanted to get some input.

Yes, there is a chance.

brij2006 · February 2013

Yes, there's a chance. My doctor gave me a chart that showed by using a condom that way, there's a 20% chance of getting pregnant. By using it properly (the whole time), then it goes down to something like 2%.

H and I use it the way that you did the other day, and have been for the past 3 months. No pregnancy here yet. But we've also had a long discussion about doing it this way, and he is on board if it happens. We both want to TTC, but would prefer to be married a year before being pregnant.

If your H would freak out about a pregnancy right now, then you take control and grab the condom and tell him that he's wearing it. He needs to be 100% on board first.

Shayliz · February 2013

brij2006:
Yes, there's a chance.nbsp; My doctor gave me a chart that showed by using a condom that way, there's a 20 chance of getting pregnant.nbsp; By using it properly the whole time, then it goes down to something like 2. H and I use it the way that you did the other day, and have been for the past 3 months. No pregnancy here yet.nbsp; But we've also had a long discussion about doing it this way, and he is on board if it happens.nbsp; We both want to TTC, but would prefer to be married a year before being pregnant. If your H would freak out about a pregnancy right now, then you take control and grab the condom and tell him that he's wearing it. He needs to be 100 on board first.

20 percent seems kind of high considering the average couple has a 20 percent chance of conception with no condom usage at all.

geojam224 · February 2013

I know the condom companies claim that they are 98% effective or whatever, but research shows that they are really only 85% effective even when used properly. That's 1 in 6 odds! I read that in a BCP pamphlet, and I learned it in a Developmental Psychology class in college.

brij2006 · February 2013

geojam224:
I know the condom companies claim that they are 98% effective or whatever, but research shows that they are really only 85% effective even when used properly. That's 1 in 6 odds! I read that in a BCP pamphlet, and I learned it in a Developmental Psychology class in college.

That was where I got the information on 20% chance. It was in the pamphlet or my diaphragm, and my Dr was showing me the chances between that and condoms.