How did your H feel about TTC?

slaughter182

I feel like overall my H has been so neutral on the baby front. He keeps saying that we can financially do it and that it's my body and if I'm ready, he's ready, but I kind of want more excitement about it! I don't want to feel like the only one who is jumping up and down to have kids.

 

How did your H react/approach the TTC talk? 

PugMum

We are giddy and super excited to be sharing this journey together. When we had the intial talk to go over BCP we couldn't stop smiling.

Bebuh

This is how my DH reacts to just about everything. He never gets "excited", he stays very logical and objective. Its his way of not getting his hopes up if something doesnt work out. When we got the call from our realtor saying that we had bought our first house, his reaction was "Ok, thanks." Not even a smile, lol. Mr. Calm and Collected. But I know him well enought to understand that he IS excited, so I do all the jumping up and down. Good Luck to you!

magdalina.h

Kinda the same way as your H. He is the most amazing father so the fact that he didn't do cartwheels about TTC doesn't bother me.

quidditchcapn1120

My H is the opposite. He is ridiculously excited and ready to have another NOW, while I am more reserved and think analytically about the possible issues with having another baby right now.

I, like your husband I am sure, will be excited once I am actually pregnant and see the ultrasound.

KenziK

DH is definitely not jumping up and down with excitement like I am and I don't really expect him to be. I think that as long as he is telling you he is ready to have a baby, his excitement will come with time!

weelass24

he's the one who is all into it.

Twinkie0612

My husband was ready to TTC before I was, he's been naming our future children since before we were married.  I think he was excited when I was finally ready, but there was definitely no jumping up and down.  He showed his excitement by talking more about children and being parents.

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slaughter182

I think I'm expecting more out of him because he generally gets excited about things, and he gets excited about talking about our future kids, just not the baby part. I know he'll be a great dad, I just don't think he won't be that into babies until it's his own. Thanks for the input though! If I asked my sister she'd assume I was pregnant right now lol.

joshandpanda

fredalina:

Guys tend not to get excited until it becomes "real" to them, at least seeing a positive HPT if not an ultrasound or even the birth itself.

my H wasn't into it until he saw the ultrasound and the HB... not even the digi I took that popped up "pregnant" got him overly excited...  

quidditchcapn1120

slaughter182:

I think I'm expecting more out of him because he generally gets excited about things, and he gets excited about talking about our future kids, just not the baby part. I know he'll be a great dad, I just don't think he won't be that into babies until it's his own. Thanks for the input though! If I asked my sister she'd assume I was pregnant right now lol.

My H thought he wouldn't like the newborn stage. He was really excited about being a dad but worried about that part if life. He ended up being fantastic at it and now admits he liked it way more than he thought.

Shayliz

He knew I wanted to try and that I would wait for him to be ready. He stopped using condoms and said he was ready. No jumping up and down. I think the most excitement came after our anatomy scan when we finally did conceive, and much more after birth.

szkarz08

Every time my H and I talk about it, he's giddy as can be. I just went off the pill, and although we aren't TTC quiet yet, he can't wait till we are. Sometimes, when we talk about it, he just starts laughing like an excited school girl...its kind of cute

pmarie33

This time it was more him than me.  I was hopeless.  He was all into it being the positive one.  

weelass24

fredalina:

weelass24:

he's the one who is all into it.

Hold the phone. This appears to be present tense??????

oh helllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll no

I'm firmly in the "no more ever" camp and he is hovering between "no more right now" and "no more ever".

Kristinmo

fredalina:

Guys tend not to get excited until it becomes "real" to them, at least seeing a positive HPT if not an ultrasound or even the birth itself.

This.  DH and I talked about TTC and he was on board but by no means jumping up and down.  Then when I got a BFP he was excited but still not really that into it.  It was at the first u/s with DS that he got this ridiculous grin on his face and was very excited.

secretsout

I never got any excitement about it.  We talked about it, and I gave him my reasons for why I thought the timing was right.  One day soon after our talk, he said, "ok" and that was that.  He was never jump-up-and-down excited about it.  He wasn't unhappy or opposed to having a baby, it just wasn't something he was that in to.  If I had waited for that reaction, we would probably never have kids.  Most men I know were never that excited about it.

He's a great father, though, and that's all that really matters.

kelle017

MandJS:

fredalina:

Guys tend not to get excited until it becomes "real" to them, at least seeing a positive HPT if not an ultrasound or even the birth itself.

This has been my experience as well.

OP - if your H says he's on board, then trust that he's telling you the truth. If you're ready, go for it. 

even having seen the ultrasound last week it's still not completely real to him. 

Liz4444

quidditchcapn1120:

My H is the opposite. He is ridiculously excited and ready to have another NOW, while I am more reserved and think analytically about the possible issues with having another baby right now. I, like your husband I am sure, will be excited once I am actually pregnant and see the ultrasound.

This is us as well.  He was all about OPKs and knowing when my period was.

huskymomma94

I wouldn't say DH was excited about TTC. He wanted to, obviously, but I think to him it was more like "okay cool, this is what we're doing now." I dont think the pregnancy really felt real to him until our A/S, and it helped when he could feel the baby kicking and moving.

Now, however, he's made a couple comments about TTC#2 so I can tell its on his mind.

magpie87

H said that if I was ready, then he was, too. He didn't get all excited or anything about it when we talked, though he does like to discuss our future children and what we'll do with them, etc. The only part he really got excited about was the prospect of my breasts swelling with the pregnancy, lol!

laurenmae1228

huskymomma94:

I wouldn't say DH was excited about TTC. He wanted to, obviously, but I think to him it was more like "okay cool, this is what we're doing now." I dont think the pregnancy really felt real to him until our A/S, and it helped when he could feel the baby kicking and moving.

Now, however, he's made a couple comments about TTC#2 so I can tell its on his mind.

This, exactly!!! My DH has also made a few remarks about TTC#2, and I've totally had BOTB, but I had a bad recovery from an unexpected C-sec (had to have a 2nd corrective surgery at 14 wks postpartum and incision wasnt healed until 20 weeks postpartum), so we need to wait a bit more for my body to be ready. As well as figure out how we can afford a 2nd! lol!  

shotzie

pmarie33:

This time it was more him than me.  I was hopeless.  He was all into it being the positive one.  

P! Congratulations, you sneak!! Hope you're doing well! 

slaughter182

I could see him getting excited over the BFP. I guess we'll have to wait until the fall and see!

little_bren

DH was ready long before I was. He will literally most likely cry when I tell him I am pregnant (when and if), and he refers to our non-existent baby by the name we like. That sounds beyond dorky, but DH is a very masculine and a large guy so it makes it super sweet.

huskymomma94

laurenmae1228:

huskymomma94:

I wouldn't say DH was excited about TTC. He wanted to, obviously, but I think to him it was more like "okay cool, this is what we're doing now." I dont think the pregnancy really felt real to him until our A/S, and it helped when he could feel the baby kicking and moving.

Now, however, he's made a couple comments about TTC#2 so I can tell its on his mind.

This, exactly!!! My DH has also made a few remarks about TTC#2, and I've totally had BOTB, but I had a bad recovery from an unexpected C-sec (had to have a 2nd corrective surgery at 14 wks postpartum and incision wasnt healed until 20 weeks postpartum), so we need to wait a bit more for my body to be ready. As well as figure out how we can afford a 2nd! lol!  

You are really close to me (I'm in Annapolis) and I see our babies are almost exactly the same age! 

sweetpea2003

With DD we were all giddy at first, then as we had been trying for months and months and had a loss then more months then IF treatments we started to get a bit sad about the whole thing.  It was a bummer until we finally conceived our daughter (IVF/ICSI).  So early on he was excited, then it just became frustrating and clouded the whole experience.

DS was a surprise.  We weren't trying but weren't preventing either since DD was such a challenge. 

He now has major baby fever and is so so so ready to TTC #3.  I'm getting there, but don't want to even think about it until June or July.  So he is the one who is always talking about babies and I am the one moving to the other side of the couch. 

Nea2009

My hubs says he's ready to start but he can't get excited until We are actually pregnant. That's his personality though. He doesn't get his hopes up or get excited about anything until its for certain.