If I invited 80 people to my baby shower, how many can I plan on showing up

nmpg15235

Obviously my mom is doing RSVP regrets only and it also depends on the guests, but Im asking as far as ratio goes. Any estimated idea?

I just want to be able to say ok I know at least these many people will be there etc. 

 My moms planning it but having an idea before rsvps will at least help. My husband and I have a lot of close friends and family otherwise this list would be wayyyy shorter. It seems overwhelming but the people on our list are very important to us. I would never want any of them to feel left out!

Not to mention, my mom keeps adding to the list

BelhurstBride

I believe the general rule of thumb is about 20% no shows, but honestly? You're asking internet strangers to predict the future. Look at your list and see if you have any idea on which guests won't make it. You're going to have more of a clue than anyone here. 

nmpg15235

You just told me the "rule of thumb is usually 20%"... and thats all I was asking for. That simple! Thanks

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PrimRoseMama

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

Absolutely agree with this. It sounds like "let me invite every person I've ever talked to in my life so I can get as many gifts as humanly possible".

Also, wouldn't 80 be fecking expensive?! Did you even ask your host about inviting so many?

ghostof5letters

PrimRoseMama:

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

Absolutely agree with this. It sounds like "let me invite every person I've ever talked to in my life so I can get as many gifts as humanly possible". Also, wouldn't 80 be fecking expensive?! Did you even ask your host about inviting so many?

Depends on how big her family is. My mom's side is HUGE, so the majority of my shower was family with a few friends (maybe 15). 

ariaforte8

ghostof5letters:

PrimRoseMama:

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

Absolutely agree with this. It sounds like "let me invite every person I've ever talked to in my life so I can get as many gifts as humanly possible".

Also, wouldn't 80 be fecking expensive?! Did you even ask your host about inviting so many?

Depends on how big her family is. My mom's side is HUGE, so the majority of my shower was family with a few friends (maybe 15). 

I don't think 80 is excessive. My Mom and MIL are doing a combined shower. Add in ladies from both sides and my friends, there will be around 80 invited. I think it really depends on your family size and circle of friends.

ladybugpjb

For my big church shower back home, I invited 75, and that was on the low end for those showers. There were about 10 hostesses. It turned out there was another church event that day - I had between 25 and 30 attend, but closer to 50 gifts (because a lot of ladies dropped off a gift before since they couldn't attend). The showers done by my church ladies are come-and-go, informal showers, so people sometimes come and sometimes don't.

I only know the numbers because I had an Excel spreadsheet for the guestlist on which I also recorded the gifts for TY note purposes, plus the list of people who attended.

So basically, taking my response and other responses into account, you'll have somewhere between 30% and 90%. Basically, it depends on your list of invitees and on what is going on that weekend. Are baby showers a really big deal for the people on the guest list? Do they all always show up for showers? Are there other big events on that day? Those are all things that will factor into how many actually show up.

babystoli

ghostof5letters:

PrimRoseMama:

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

Absolutely agree with this. It sounds like "let me invite every person I've ever talked to in my life so I can get as many gifts as humanly possible".

Also, wouldn't 80 be fecking expensive?! Did you even ask your host about inviting so many?

Depends on how big her family is. My mom's side is HUGE, so the majority of my shower was family with a few friends (maybe 15). 

Same here. I had two friends at my bridal shower, my mom's best friend, and the rest were relatives. There were around 50 or 60. I'm the youngest of all my cousins 35 on my mom's side. And am closer in age to many of my cousins kids than my actual first cousins!

StrikeGirl

Let's not judge on the number of people invited. It's her shower. Totally possible to have that many! Honestly, I had a big shower too. I think my guest list was about 50. I know a lot of people from my work as a trainer and instructor at the gym.  People knew my story about me TTC for 2 years so when I finally got pregnant, it was a big deal to them (and me!) and my friends were so generous.  Yes, there are gifts but isn't that what a shower is for? To celebrate the mother and the baby! Live it up, girlfriend! If your guest list is as close to you as mine was, count on a majority of them showing. People love babies, love to give to babies, and it's totally not greedy. Just don't invite them to more than one shower and expect more of course 

CitrusSwallowtail

I find it humorous that you are being told 80 is excessive when they know nothing about you and that's not even what you were asking in the first place.

I have no answer to your question as I have a fairly small family, so most that we're invited did attend. So alas, no help from me, but 80 sounds fun and you are lucky to have so many that care about you!

thisiseverything

ghostof5letters:

PrimRoseMama:

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

Absolutely agree with this. It sounds like "let me invite every person I've ever talked to in my life so I can get as many gifts as humanly possible".Also, wouldn't 80 be fecking expensive?! Did you even ask your host about inviting so many?

Depends on how big her family is. My mom's side is HUGE, so the majority of my shower was family with a few friends (maybe 15). 

She noted that the people on her list are close to her.  It's easy for a list to get large.  I have a big family as well with my mom being one of eight and my dad one of twelve.  As is my husband's family.  Between aunts and cousins - I could easily have 60 + people. Add in a few close friends and the numbers quickly rise.  It's not fair to assume that people are being greedy when inviting larger numbers.  

As for regrets, I always assume somewhere between 20-30%.  Have a great shower! 

RileighsMom1224

Yeah 80 isnt that many.  Snooki had like 200 people at her shower.

lnlaveque

BlissBerry:

I don't know why it would be obvious that your mom would be doing RSVP regrets only.nbsp; Also, it's a shower, not a wedding.nbsp; A guest list of 80 seems excessive, it's not something you need to invite everyone you've ever met to.nbsp; It really should only be those nearest and dearest.

80 isn't excessive if you have a big family. We invited 120 to our wedding shower. About 90 showed up. Expecting the same turn out for our baby shower.

mben1119

RileighsMom1224:

Yeah 80 isnt that many.nbsp; Snooki had like 200 people at her shower.

Because we should all base what we do in life on what Snooki does...

Liz4444

mabenner1:

RileighsMom1224:

Yeah 80 isnt that many.nbsp; Snooki had like 200 people at her shower.

Because we should all base what we do in life on what Snooki does...

Come on Benner, whenever you have a question, the answer is always WWSD?

(What would Snooki do?)

mben1119

Liz4444:

mabenner1:

RileighsMom1224:

Yeah 80 isnt that many.nbsp; Snooki had like 200 people at her shower.

Because we should all base what we do in life on what Snooki does...

Come on Benner, whenever you have a question, the answer is always WWSD?

Well Sh!t, I've been doing it all wrong then. Time to reprioritize.

Liz4444

mabenner1:

Liz4444:

mabenner1:

RileighsMom1224:

Yeah 80 isnt that many.nbsp; Snooki had like 200 people at her shower.

Because we should all base what we do in life on what Snooki does...

Come on Benner, whenever you have a question, the answer is always WWSD?

Well Sh!t, I've been doing it all wrong then. Time to reprioritize.

I'm glad I could help get you on the right path.

eco+ri

I don't think 80 is a lot if you have a big family. I do think if someone is planning you a shower, you should just relax and let them handle it, unless it was agreed you were to help or something. My parents planned my shower, and I just showed up. A lot less stress that way lol. If you can help it, don't get involved. 

transcriber87

Just a guess, but probably 50? 

caladpi02

I have always been told the attendance rate is half to two thirds, but higher for a wedding. I had 65 invitees at mine, my family, DHs family and close friends. Having an 80 person list isn't necessarily a bad thing if that's your entire universe of people.

coryjanine

My guest list is at 60 currently and thats only 15 friends. My family is huge and my mom said invite whoever I wanted. The more the merrier were her exact words. This is the first baby in my family in 15 years so I totally understand the excitement and huge guest list. If you and your host are comfortable with it, go for it. Some of us just have a lot of family/important people. No way around it. So enjoy it!

Btw, at our wedding, EVERYONE showed up so I never expect the list to dwindle down much.

rooftop

When I did at home sales parties I was trained to tell the host to expect 2/3 show up so thats roughly 30% cancels. I was told the same statistic when I was planning a wedding so I would leap to the conclusion that it applies to any invitation list. -good luck

kt012885

Id say 20 to 30 percent wont show. I know what ya mean, my list is 75 and I still have to check w mil. This is for both sides of family and I only invited 6 friends!

kileyjean

I've heard the 20% statistic for weddings, but not sure if it applies to all events. I think it just really depends and could be hit or miss. Invite who ever you want, good lord people are rude. Like others said, you might have a huge family and alot of good friends! There's no right or wrong and these "internet strangers" have no room to judge. Hope it all works out well!!