Unexpected Let Down

smashley922

So me and my husband got married 10/12 and immediately he has had babies on the brain.  He is 6 years older than me so I kinda expected it.  So I told him after New Years we could start trying.  Well my period is a little weird and usually comes a couple days earlier than it did the previous month. So I'm supposed to start on the 10th and today is the 8th and nothing.  Not even a single cramp (which is unusual for me).  Well the thought popped into my head that maybe I just so happen to be pregnant.  Now I'm not really the one who was pushing to start a family.  I am in school with another year and a half left and I just didn't think I was ready, but knew my husband really wanted to start trying.  Well on my way to Walgreen to get a test I caught myself thinking about what if I actually was and actually started to get excited, but told myself not to get my hopes up.  Well long story short it was negative and all I felt was a complete unexpected let down.  I mean I didn't even really want to start trying and I didn't feel ready to have a baby, but there I was hoping that maybe it happened.  To be honest it's really bummed me out.  I didn't tell my husband that there might have been a possibility because I didn't want him to get his hopes up, but I told him after I took the test.  I want to talk to someone else about it (I would talk to my husband but he's at work) but no one knows we're really even trying and I don't want people to start asking me every month how the baby making is going.  I don't know I just didn't think it would bother me this much. 

Sorry for the long rant but like I said I don't really have anybody to vent to about it. 

Twinkie0612

smashley922:

So me and my husband got married 10/12 and immediately he has had babies on the brain.  He is 6 years older than me so I kinda expected it.  So I told him after New Years we could start trying.  Well my period is a little weird and usually comes a couple days earlier than it did the previous month. So I'm supposed to start on the 10th and today is the 8th and nothing.  Not even a single cramp (which is unusual for me).  Well the thought popped into my head that maybe I just so happen to be pregnant.  Now I'm not really the one who was pushing to start a family.  I am in school with another year and a half left and I just didn't think I was ready, but knew my husband really wanted to start trying.  Well on my way to Walgreen to get a test I caught myself thinking about what if I actually was and actually started to get excited, but told myself not to get my hopes up.  Well long story short it was negative and all I felt was a complete unexpected let down.  I mean I didn't even really want to start trying and I didn't feel ready to have a baby, but there I was hoping that maybe it happened.  To be honest it's really bummed me out.  I didn't tell my husband that there might have been a possibility because I didn't want him to get his hopes up, but I told him after I took the test.  I want to talk to someone else about it (I would talk to my husband but he's at work) but no one knows we're really even trying and I don't want people to start asking me every month how the baby making is going.  I don't know I just didn't think it would bother me this much. 

Sorry for the long rant but like I said I don't really have anybody to vent to about it. 

Why is the bolded weird? 

I recommend getting a copy of the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.  Learning about how your body works may help you be less frustrated if a cycle is a bust.  The book is also a great source for learning about charting your BBT (basal body temperature) which confirms ovulation.  A lot of women on the bump use Fertility Friend to chart their BBT.  You can check it out by clicking on my ticker (it's free to sign up).

Helenahhandbasket

Your feelings are very normal, but I would also suggest taking the time to learn a little bit more about how your body actually works.

The way your post is worded, it sounds like you think that if you get your period on the 1st of the month, it should always come on the 1st of the month.  It does not work that way.

TCOYF is an excellent read. 

Good luck on your journey!

quidditchcapn1120

Agree with PP's on reading TCOYF.

Besides that, I can completely empathize with your feelings. I tested too early with DS, and got a negative. I thought previously that I didn't care how long it took to get pregnant. Well, when I got that negative I realized I had gotten my hopes up. It was then that I decided I would be more conscientious in my TTC journey.

I hope things work out for you!

VeniVidiScripsi

I know what you mean. We haven't been trying.. but haven't been avoiding. We're just letting it happen when it happens. I test every month (still BF and haven't got AF yet). But this month I really thought I might be pregnant and took a test and it was negative. It really bummed me out.

MrsMommyofDom

My hubby and I tried to concieve 2 for 6 months before success. I bought FertileAid for women, the Fertilitea and FertileCM and was on it for 1 month and finally got a BFP!!!! They are all natural and vitamins, so they cant hurt. You should check out the site ...I hope this helps.
Ps...when you get your BFP, stop taking all those...its not good for the baby. Start your prenatal.