Would you be mad? May get long.

ShanJosh777

Background:  Last week DH went into the doctor because he had just been generally feeling like crap.  She found that he had lost like 28 pounds in a little over a year and thought he had a thyroid problem and sent him for labs.  Everything came back normal though, so she ordered some more tests. 

Saturday night we went out to dinner and DH must have eaten something bad, because he was up all night sick, and stayed in bed most of the day Sunday, didn't eat, etc.  Typical behavior when you aren't feeling good or so most would think.

Monday morning he was supposed to go at 8am to get his other tests done.  He slept in.  Big deal, right?  Well somehow MIL found out about this, and knew that he had been sick on Sunday.  So she takes it upon HERSELF to go to DH's doctor's office to meet with the doctor.  Lord only knows what she told the doctor, because next thing I know I am getting a call at work from DH saying he is going into the hospital for observation and testing.  WTF??  He had to stay the night last night.

Do you think MIL completely overstepped her boundaries??  Also, isn't it illegal for the doctor to be discussing a grown man's health with his mommy?  Ugh, I am so livid. 

On another note, DH is feeling fine and so far everything is normal.  

Indychic1022

Yep.  Totally overstepped boundaries.  My concern is that his doctor spoke w/ her and totally disregarded HIPAA. 

 I hope he feels better!

chalmette

Um, HIPAA anyone?

vanillacourage

You need to get a new doctor.  It is super illegal (and unethical) for them to discuss your DH's medical treatment with anyone else.  They should not even have confirmed if your DH was a patient.

CandyIsGood

That's totally bizarre.  Who's this doctor?  What kind of doc talks with a grown man's mom about his health (putting the legal issue aside, even).

OUMedBride

Agree with PP... I would report this dr.  He could easily lose his license for so blatantly violating HIPAA.

goillini823

Glad dh is doing good. What the dr. did sounds completely illegal. I think dh needs to give consent fo dr. to even discuss his issues with you. Unless he is unconcious doesnt he have to give consent for any dr. to talk about his info?

n&bcarlson

I would be livid.  More importantly, my husband would be livid!  Unfortunately, you probably need to step back from this one and let your husband deal with it, but he needs to have a long talk with his mother, and with his doctor.  If the doctor discussed anything with his mom, I would be finding another doctor.  I'm uncertain why your husband even agreed to go to the hospital for testing and observation, unless he talked to the doctor himself and was convinced it was a good idea.  I hope it wasn't just because his mom told him to- if so, you have big issues ahead of you!

JRsquared

I would be very upset. yes she over stepped.  DH's mother does this type of thing  all the time. Have they checked him for Chrones/Colitis? That's what my DH has and it sounds similar to what your DH is going through.

GRKaters

They shouldn't discuss his health with anyone unless that person is specified on some form he should've had to sign. And yes, she way overstepped.

 

radiokate

Sounds like the mom from Everybody Loves Raymond! SCARY!

mrs.h0507

wow! she way overstepped and that dr totally violated hippa. I had to sign 3 firms stating who they could release medical information to in the event of an emergency. I wold report the dr

JustMarried2005

I don't think she overstepped boundaries at all - that's her son.  Just because he's grown doesn't mean that you stop caring - wouldn't you take your son to the doctor too in that situation?  I always feel like a mothers intuition is right and from the facts that you stated, something is probably going on with your hubby.  I hope he either gets better or the doctors figure out what's going on.

JustMarried2005

Also, I don't think it was a hipaa violation.  From the department of health's website it says that a doctor can discuss care with your family, friends or others involved in your care if the doctor knows (via verbal or written consent) or thinks in their professional judgement that the patient would not object.  It sounds like your husband didn't object, so unless he expressly tells his dcotor not to discuss care with his mother, the doctor did nothing wrong.

https://www.hhs.gov/ocr/hipaa/consumer_ffg.pdf

jmarie238

JustMarried2005:

I don't think she overstepped boundaries at all - that's her son.  Just because he's grown doesn't mean that you stop caring - wouldn't you take your son to the doctor too in that situation?  I always feel like a mothers intuition is right and from the facts that you stated, something is probably going on with your hubby.  I hope he either gets better or the doctors figure out what's going on.

I don't think she took him to the doctors. I think she went on her own and talked to his doctor.