Birthing coach

BbyCarter13

I'm young and single, I basically feel like I'm going through this pregnancy alone. I do have the support of my parents and my few friends but there are lots of pregnancy things that you just can't talk about with anyone. So many aspects of pregnancy are personal and I just don't feel comfortable talking about them with most people.

So that being said, single ladies: who are you planning on having as your birthing coach? Who is going to your birthing classes with you? Who will be in the delivery room with you?

I just really have no clue. The baby's father will not be there because he is hopefully moving out of state before I'm due. And even if he is still in state, I don't think I want him in the room with me. We are not on good terms.  

mel1987

My mom and my friends. Would you be comfortable with any of your friends? or your mother? 

bripratt2

I had my mom. I was nineteen when I had my little girl. It was absolutely the best thing I could have done. You want someone who you have a strong bond with and who is nothing but supportive. Support has ahuge part in an ideal birth. The thing with a mom being there, if she is supportive, is that she's been there she understands, she's not some man attempting to understand something he never fully will. I highly suggest Lamaze for you not so much for a natural birth idk what you're planning but I wouldn't reccomend it any other way but because throne I went to was really focused on creating a strong bond between mom and coach and I think that's what im interpretting as what you want. Your birth will be wonderful I really hope you find someone who meets your needs.

bripratt2

O and by not reccomendong any other way im not trying to belittle other births but I personally don't run around reccomending interventions.if they're not necessary its your choice and all so I wouldn't judge that its just not my style and shiiiiit happens sometimes emergencies rewire interventions. Sorry I just want to make sure I Dont sound judgy.

BbyCarter13

I'm sure my mom will want to be in the room but I not sure if she's the person I want. I guess part of me feels weird about having my mother watch me give birth to her grandchild because I've always have the "normal" picture in my head of that being something you share with they father of the child and no one else.  My mother and I can have a very strained relationship at times and I don't want that day to have any unnessacary stress. I really don't have many friends that have had kids so I don't feel that they would be any help at all in the delivery room. I know there are people I definitely do not want in the room, or possibly not even at the hospital until after the birth. I don't want my room to be overrun with visitors because that would stress me out greatly. I already plan on posting my best friend outside the door and giving her a list of people allowed in and when because she can be fierce about not letting some go where they are not wanted. (She would be a great bouncer if she wasn't 5 foot nothing! LOL)

 

bripratt2

How far along are you? I wish I knew how you feel! I was so disgusted with bd after everything he put me through I couldn't picture sharing the experience with him s that was easy for me. If you have the money for a doula maybe that would b your best option. I still def rexcomend normal birthing classes but other than that I would try to find the person who could be the most supportive of all of my decisions and someone who would over all make my birthing experience a positive one. You don't want someone there being all negative and stressing you out so remember positive and supportive! Good luck :

kaybee9489

I hired a doula... It was a little bit pricey but will be worth it in my mind.  My BD is around, and may be there, but I am not counting on it.  I am living in Germany so family can not make it over it to be there.

For the peace of mind that I have knowing I will A) Not be alone and be accompanied by someone very experienced at this, it was well worth the $600.  Most will work with you if you are on a budget and explain your situation.  No one deserves to be alone during those hours!