My husband and I have always talked about adopting. Originally, we talked about having children biologically first, and then adopting our youngest, or adopting an older child close in age to our biological children. In December, our daughter passed away, and we've started talking about moving up our adoption time-table. Obviously, we're in no emotional state to adopt right now, but the process is so involved I thought I'd start looking in to it now so that I'd know what to do when we are ready.
We're interested in a domestic adoption. I've been searching online, but most of what I find seems highly slanted toward whatever agency is posting it, and I'm having trouble finding objective information on what actually needs to happen to adopt.
Most of what I'm finding online is in regards to newborn adoption; it seems that you can only adopt older babies/toddlers/children through the foster care system? While I originally thought I'd be fine fostering, after losing my daughter I don't think I could handle having a child taken away after years of care. I know the goal of foster is to reunite children with their birth families; are there other resources to adopt older children where adoption is the priority? We'd be willing to adopt a newborn; I'd just like to be able to look into older adoption.
Sorry for the ramble. In summary, I'm a newb to adoption, and I'm looking for any objective resources you may have that could help me get a handle on the process. Thank you.