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Open Letters
socloudy99
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Dear SD17,
Please check all your options for post high school education. You are looking into a good option but there are tons more out there. We want to help you make an informed choice. Also quit mothering your younger siblings. They are tired of it.
Hoping you don't short change yourself!
SD14 and SD12,
GL at your last cheer comp! Give your older sis another chance and be honest with her about your feelings.
Know you will miss her when she is in college!
SS,
Being cool isn't cool if you spend your whole 8th grade year grounded.
Know you are a good kid just adjusting to being a young man!
Add you own!
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Re: Open Letters
A screaming baby is not my idea of a good time. Hurry up and grow already.
Frazzled mom.
Dear DS,
You have been such a huge help this week while Daddy is away. Thank you!
Mommy.
Dear window guys,
I'm wondering if you can do your job sans boots? I really don't want snow and crap all over my house. I'm having a hard enough time keeping up with regular chores due to the child who wants to be held ALL THE TIME. Here's hoping.
The lady who's windows you're replacing on Friday.
Dear DH,
I really, really hope you don't forget valentine's day. I know you're going away for work, but even a token would be awesome what with the last couple weeks I've had. A massage would be better.
Your stressed out wife
Dear BM,
You have four kids and SD is one of them. So please stop missing all of her events. And please quit giving up your visitation time just because another one of your kids isn't feeling well. My other child isn't feeling well either, but I would never say SD couldn't be in our home. SD is really starting to question whether or not you want her, and I can't make excuses for you any more.
Sincerely,
Trying-so-hard-to-save-you-and-your-daughter's-relationship
Dear ILs,
You have ruined everything, and I will never forgive you for it. Go away. Stop pretending you give a flying f#ck about my kids.
Sincerely,
No-daughter-of-yours
Dear Self,
I know things are really difficult right now. But stop eating your feelings. Not having pants that fit isn't going to help your crappy mood.
Love,
Me
Dear BM,
Grow up. Seriously. Your daughter is failing at school and you are not doing a thing about it. And damn it - answer DH's questions! He has a right to know!
Very worried SM
Dear SD,
You need to grow up too. You are 13 years old. Please start taking initiative and handling things yourself, because you will learn soon enough that noone else will handle things for you. No more whining, no more excuses, no more not taking responsibility. I care about you, but I can only do so much.
Love,
Very worried SM
Wow! Again I was giving you the benefit of the doubt over and over and you continuously abuse it. You are a sneaky, manipulative person. I'm done being a peace maker between you and Dh. He was right about you. Please continue to spend your weekends with Bm. You must get along amazingly because you're cut from the same cloth...it's not a good one. Good luck to you, hope you work things out with dh bc I'm done with your texts and manipulation.
Dear Dh,
How did we get through this past year? I love you very much and if anything all we have gone through has just proven we can get through it all. We've dealt with your hateful family, court dates upon court dates, your lying ex, our baby being sick, SS acting out.
Sorry if I'm snappy sometimes, I do love you very much and think you're the best dad and husband I know
Dear Baby,
Please sleep in your own crib! Mom and Dad are exhausted and you can't be held all the time. Love you little guy
Dear SS,
You don't need a phone, you don't need an iPod touch. You do need to be grateful and gracious when people keep you in their thoughts. We love you and are proud of you. Please don't forget you are very blessed and it's not the things you have but the person you are that matters in the end
Dear 11yo,
You know I love you in your own special way, but you're killing me here. You told us 5 times you want a big birthday party/summer party at your Mimi's pool this summer. Don't now give me the pout-you-are-so-mean face because you suddenly decided that you want to take 20 kids in your class to LaserTag instead of just the 4 of us and I say no. We can't afford it, kid, plus their parents won't drive an hour away for a party. It's not my fault! We're adding tubing after LaserTag...does that make it any better? I'm trying...
Sincerely, not a mean evil stepmom
Dear 15yo,
Telling your brother he can just beg mom for something isn't going to work. Your mom has less money then we do and you're setting him up for disappointment. Please don't be so mean!
Love, ginger hunter #2
Dear SO,
Please remember that you promised to take me to pick up the stuff to fix the back tire on my car. The garage won't fix it if they can't get paid and the check is at my uncle's. I want my car back and I know you're tired of us being a one-car-family. Let's work together and fix this.
XOXOXOXO, Grungie
Please quit aggravating all the animals so much! Mommy works to make animals better all day. It would be really embarrassing for Mommy to have to take one of them to the clinic for a serious injury caused by your "overzealous love."
Love, Mommy
Dear SD,
I am so proud of how well you are doing in school. You are so smart that it's hard to believe you're only in first grade. But PLEASE quit whining and arguing with me about everything. I don't waste my breath because I enjoy hearing myself talk.
Love, A
Dear DH,
Thank you so much for being so helpful lately. I wasn't handling your lack of work very well at first, but you have really stepped up. You have done wonderful with the kids, and the house is always in good shape. I don't feel nearly so pressured. And you are doing so well in school. I am so proud of you for finally going after your dream.
Love, your forever wife
Dear Myself,
TAKE A CHILL PILL! Your family loves you, and you love your family. Just take time to relax. Enjoy the time you have with them. You already know the kids are growing up way too fast. Enjoy the opportunities to make memories now, before you lose them.
Good freakin' question! Last weekend we discovered that SS11 hadn't taken a shower in almost a week! He still wets the bed on a very regular basis and, when that happens, he showers (so he usually showers every day to every other day). Well, last week he happened to have 6 or so days straight of dry nights (thanks to me waking him up to go every night...but still). We figure he's old enough to bathe himself and he knows we expect him to take care of his hygiene so we don't keep track of his showers. I keep track of my own and my SD7's...and pretty soon will be adding a baby to that as well. So, we expect SS to shower when he has to. But since he hadn't wet himself in a freakin' week, he didn't shower that WHOLE TIME! GROSS!!!
BFP #1 09/02/11 M/C 09/12/11 8w6days
BFP #2 07/18/12 Baby S born on his EDD 03/23/13
SS - age 12...SD - age 8...DS - 13 mos.
SS was like that, but at 12 going on 13. It was gross and smelly. DH's view was to let him feel the natural conseuqences of school shame/humilitation (mind you, he was already being teased and bullied - so how is that going to help?)
I could not get DH to change his mind.
But I WAS NOT GOING TO BE THE ONE TO HANDLE THE NASTINESS THAT WAS SS'S THREE DAY WORN UNDERWEAR AND SOCKS.
So I laid down the law, SS or DH had to do SS's laundry. DH declined that one too. So as soon as SS had to actually DO his own laundry or go in dirty clothes, his hygeine improved by 100% - like in 2weeks.
Dear DS,
Mommy is so proud of you! 2 1/2 years old and you can count to ten and say the alphabet A-G....so proud! Keep up the good work goof! But please get a handle on the whining. Your feelings can't truly be that hurt when you are told no more peanuts. And yes you have to take a bath every night. Sorry, it is what it is.
Love, Mommy
Dear FH,
Thank you for all you do for us. I appreciate it more than you know. But when we talk wedding planning and you jokingly say "I don't care, I'm just showing up" it does not make mke happy. I swear one of these times I will lose my cool. Knock it off.
Love, you soon to be wifey
Dear BD,
You will be getting a letter from my lawyer soon. Act like an adult and work with him. You don't want to be held in contempt and have to pay MORE of my lawyer's fees for court appearances. Good luck.
Signed, not playing around anymore
Dear SS,
No, I don't believe you anymore when you tell me you don't have any homework or that you finished it in school. You have the same story every day and when it comes report card time your teachers say you're not handing in your homework. Yes, I do believe your teachers! Next year you'll be in high school and your grades are important. If you want to be a "rich video game designer" you better start playing less games and trying harder in school. You won't get into any school with the grades you've been getting.
Love, your SM
DH,
I'm sick of being the bad guy and asking about homework all.the.time. Ball's in your court. I have enough on my plate. Also, your right, I have zero sex drive right now. Between m/s, Progesterone suppositories (yuck) & being super tired all of the time, sex is the last thing on my mind. You would think by the 3rd kid you'd at least kind of get it.... I love you and I really hope I get my drive back soon. For now, don't make me feel bad about it.
Your loving wife
Mother Nature,
THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!! We really need a good storm and it looks like you are bringing one this weekend! Ignore all of my friends & co-workers who are complaining. They don't rely on you to put food on the table and a roof over their childrens heads. It has been a tough winter and we could really use some white gold. Bring it!
Thank you, thank you again,
Plow Guys Wife
See, when SS lived with BM (his guardian, whatever, I really don't know what to refer to her as :S ), he was always dirty and stinky. BM didn't take care of his laundry or bedding or care much about his hygiene and I think that's why he doesn't think about it as much. I'm sure he was probably teased about it in school but I'm not sure.
When SKs started living with us, DH took care of SS's laundry etc. when he wet himself. However, a couple months in, we decided to let SS take care of it himself. He's certainly capable of doing so. So now, when SS has a wet night, he is to put his own bedding, pj pants, and underwear in the wash in the morning. Then he is to have a shower. He has this routine down pat. It has taken a lot of pressure off of DH and I to be scrambling around to do it in the morning (plus, I do NOT feel like dealing with an 11 year old's pee-soaked stuff).
I couldn't imagine sending SS to school in stinky, wet, or dirty clothing. Yuck! I'm a teacher at SS's school and I actually taught him a few classes until I went on sick leave a few weeks ago. I would not be able to handle him being shamed by his peers nor would I be able to handle the looks or comments I'm sure I would get from my colleagues. And, really, that doesn't have to happen since SS is fine with taking care of his laundry etc. when he has a wet night. It's when he is dry that he doesn't seem to get that he still needs to shower! :S Boys!
BFP #1 09/02/11 M/C 09/12/11 8w6days
BFP #2 07/18/12 Baby S born on his EDD 03/23/13
SS - age 12...SD - age 8...DS - 13 mos.