Need help deciding on the spelling

MichelleM1224

Hi ladies! We have decided on a name for our son but are unsure of how we want to spell it. Trystan or Tristan Thoughts? TIA!

Milagros315

Joy2611:

Tristan.nbsp; I love this name, by the way!Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

Exactly. Definitely go with Tristan.

maple1422

Tristan. Have you decided on a middle name?

Courtney217

Joy2611:

Tristan.  I love this name, by the way!

Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

I agree. You will be constantly correcting people on how to say his name.

brooksidebride

Joy2611:

Tristan.  I love this name, by the way!

Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

Exactly my thoughts! Great name, as long as spelled Tristan.

MichelleM1224

Yes his middle name will be Mack. Trystan Mack or Tristan Mack

caramia582

Just to save you some time reading the responses, everyone is going to say Tristan.

EastCoastBride

Please do NOT do the "y".  PLEASE.

Tristan. 

animalcrckr

Easy peasy!  Tristan.  No need for the "y". 

FakeFinn

Milagros315:

Joy2611:

Tristan.nbsp; I love this name, by the way!Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

Exactly. Definitely go with Tristan.

+1 

DSMLove

Step 1. Look up the word "Tryst" in the dictionary.

Step 2. Have a little giggle to yourself about considering the name Trystan.

Step 3. Name your son Tristan.

plunderb

Everyone on this board will say Tristan.

But I'm curious ? why are you even considering the y? It seems like such an obviously terrible idea to me that I can't really guess why someone would consider it. Why do you like it? I'm not trying to be snotty. I am honestly baffled and would be interested in hearing about a perspective that I have trouble imagining.

Zimger

Tristan...hands down.

gutsymama

DSMLove:

Step 1. Look up the word "Tryst" in the dictionary. Step 2. Have a little giggle to yourself about considering the name Trystan. Step 3. Name your son Tristan.

Lol, this.  

Phalaenopsis

DSMLove:

Step 1. Look up the word "Tryst" in the dictionary.

Step 2. Have a little giggle to yourself about considering the name Trystan.

Step 3. Name your son Tristan.

This!!

monaclemere

EastCoastBride:

Please do NOT do the "y".  PLEASE.

Tristan. 

This exactly

MichelleM1224

We are considering the y because we like that it is a different spelling. It clearly is not a obviously terrible idea to us, that would be a matter of opinion. Thank for you opinion and then some.

526SadieSadie

Milagros315:

Joy2611:

Tristan.nbsp; I love this name, by the way!Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

Exactly. Definitely go with Tristan.

Yup.  The "Y" doesn't make it look feminine, it looks like a typo.

DSMLove

Please don't get offended, people are trying to help.

The word tryst was the first thing I noticed in your alternate spelling. Add that to the fact that "Mack" is slang for flirt or seduce.

Trystan Mack makes me think "tryst and mack." As in, to meet up secretly for a sexual encounter and seduce.

BlueRidge8

DSMLove:

Please don't get offended, people are trying to help. The word tryst was the first thing I noticed in your alternate spelling. Add that to the fact that "Mack" is slang for flirt or seduce. Trystan Mack makes me think "tryst and mack."

This. 

Tristan is a fine name.

capulet

MichelleM1224:

We are considering the y because we like that it is a different spelling. It clearly is not a obviously terrible idea to us, that would be a matter of opinion. Thank for you opinion and then some.

Why does it need to be different? What benefit does that give your child that would be worth the headache of having to spell his name for people all the time?

rpalen29

tristan. trystan is improper spelling.. and it looks weird. 

MichelleM1224

It's hard not to get offended when some people are pretty much calling me an idiot for even considering using the y. I want honest opinions but I wasn't expecting some people to be so rude.

MichelleM1224

capulet:

MichelleM1224:

We are considering the y because we like that it is a different spelling. It clearly is not a obviously terrible idea to us, that would be a matter of opinion. Thank for you opinion and then some.

Why does it need to be different? What benefit does that give your child that would be worth the headache of having to spell his name for people all the time?

That's a good point, thank you

guilletskichuk

Tristan

BabyMayinMarch

Tristan

catahoulatte

In the event that you need more opinions:

Tristan. He'll thank you later.

I really love the name!

trudibell

Joy2611:

Tristan.  I love this name, by the way!

Always say no to random, unnecessary Ys.

my thoughts exactly, except the name itself is not my style.  if you must go with it, just spell it normal. 

Corleyrae

DSMLove:

Please don't get offended, people are trying to help. The word tryst was the first thing I noticed in your alternate spelling. Add that to the fact that "Mack" is slang for flirt or seduce. Trystan Mack makes me think "tryst and mack." As in, to meet up secretly for a sexual encounter and seduce.

Well if she is going to pick a name based on meaning, this might be the best combo I've ever read.

MichelleM1224

Joy2611:

MichelleM1224:

It's hard not to get offended when some people are pretty much calling me an idiot for even considering using the y. I want honest opinions but I wasn't expecting some people to be so rude.

I know it's a bit jarring to hear that we all have strong opinions on Ys, but many of us are on this board a lot and see a lot of names go by.  The "substitute Y for an I (or A, or E)" trend over and over is just making parents look like they don't know how to spell. 

I used to want to spell my name Kym.  I thought it was awesome and different.  And then I realized that the Y doesn't do anything but misspell the name and a name is word just like any other word - it has a history and a correct spelling.

Aside from that, your kid will have to spell his name every. time. someone  writes it down because no one will know "Oh, his parents replaced an I with a Y."  Many times adding the Y changes the pronunciation of the name, but people just look beyond that, which again is making those of us that see names all the time get frustrated with this not well thought-out trend.  Happily, that is not the case here, but whether you spell it Tristan or Trystan, yelling his name across the playground will sound just like every other Tristan out there.

Just think about it.  Don't let your anger at us cloud which spelling you choose - think objectively about what we have said.

 

Thank you very much, I appreciate this and will definitely take all of this into consideration. I appreciate you taking the time to explain this to me.

etoussa

I prefer Tristan.

gnomemom

Tristan. Trystan is awful.

Crispity

I agree with pp that Tristan is the way to go. I know it's hard to hear harsh opinions of the name you're considering, but I actually think that's one of the biggest benefits of this board. Posters here will tell you what friends, family, and co-workers will be thinking but will be too polite to say. I think it's good to know how a name will really impact other's perceptions of you and your child, before it's too late to do anything about it.

WashingtonQueen

That's not even a question, Tristan.

TristaD81

Tristan hands down.

Kmommy91

Tristan. The 'y' looks feminine.

Notwifezilla7

caramia582:

Just to save you some time reading the responses, everyone is going to say Tristan.

AMEN! 

MrsJ723

Corleyrae:

DSMLove:

Please don't get offended, people are trying to help. The word tryst was the first thing I noticed in your alternate spelling. Add that to the fact that "Mack" is slang for flirt or seduce. Trystan Mack makes me think "tryst and mack." As in, to meet up secretly for a sexual encounter and seduce.

Well if she is going to pick a name based on meaning, this might be the best combo I've ever read.

Mrs.G123

DSMLove:

Step 1. Look up the word "Tryst" in the dictionary.

Step 2. Have a little giggle to yourself about considering the name Trystan.

Step 3. Name your son Tristan.

Yup.

plunderb

MichelleM1224:

We are considering the y because we like that it is a different spelling. It clearly is not a obviously terrible idea to us, that would be a matter of opinion. Thank for you opinion and then some.

Thanks for taking the time to respond. Clearly, it is a matter of opinion, which is why I asked, since using the Y would never even occur to me.

Is having an unusual name important to you? If so, have you considered using something less common than Tristan? There's a great link in mjreilly's siggy that gives rankings for about 15,000 boys' names. It may provide some inspiration if finding a "different" name is important to you.

Kurimja1210

Tristan, definitely. And I love the mn you guys have chosen too! This is definitely on my short list of favorite boy names.

The main reason I don't like the "y" spelling is because of the word "tryst", but it doesn't look half as bad as Tristyn, which I think I have seen come through this board before.