MK

Bemyselfandi

How ya doing? Haven't seen you the last few days........

stoneycakes

MK, I'm so sorry for your loss.

Into+the+Kitty

I'm so sorry. I know that you guys had been preparing for this for a while, but it doesn't make it any easier. I'm sending so many hugs and positive vibes to you and your whole family.

zaraceligon

I'm sorry for your lost.

tjkdlhb

***hugs***

unaveragejane

Oh gosh! I am so sorry, MK! Will be praying for you and your family!

awenrick

Sorry for your loss. Prayers to you and your family.

CLLDLL

I posted below too, but wanted to extend my condolences.  You and your family will be in my thoughts. 

Also, I lost my dad back in 2007 to cancer & I highly, highly recommend the children's greif counselling.  My little brother was 16 at the time & no one in our family could really get him to open up.  The counsellor was someone safe he could talk to and not feel like he was being a burden or making things tougher on my mom & sisters & I.  I 100% credit her involvement in saving my brother from rebelling or falling into a depression or worse during that time in his life.   

If there's anything I can do don't hesitate to PM.

candlequeen

could you maybe explain to her that papa was sick and it was his time to go, and that if she hurts herself it will make you and DH and L very sad...I'm not sure what to say, but my heart hurts for her. I taught first grade for 2 yrs. and children seem to get stuck on death and dying, so be prepared for her to talk about it for a very long time. Are you taking her to the funeral? sometimes that helps bring closure, but I know some people choose not to take their children. ((hugs for you family))

TJ1979

I'm so sorry for your loss and that S is having a hard time. Huge hugs to you.

Into+the+Kitty

I don't have kids S's age yet, but my niece is 5 and a half, so I imagined as if I were the one who had to have this conversation with her.

I would explain that your dad got to live a long and wonderful life, with lots of amazing people and memories. Since you guys talk about heaven, I would tell her how he wants her to come to heaven with the same kind of memories.

I would talk about some memories that your dad had, like when you had your babies and he got to meet them, and other memories you've had together that she would remember, like holidays or special events. Tell her funny stories that you have from when you were a kid that you got to share with your dad. Talk about all the people that he met through his life who were important to him -- you, your mom, your kids.

Then I would talk about things that she may be excited for in the near future, like a field trip or someone's birthday party coming up, and extend it farther into the future -- her next birthday, a trip you guys have scheduled, or even farther how one day she may want to be a mom and grandmother herself. Her memories aren't done being made yet. She's not done meeting important people yet and she's got many, many happy years ahead of her until she goes to heaven. 

It's ok to be sad and to miss her grandfather, but we have our memories of him to keep him alive until we get to see him again in heaven. And we get to create new memories to share with him once we get to heaven.

Those are my rambling thoughts about it.

I'm so sorry, MK.

Bemyselfandi

Oh my gosh I am so sorry. I had no idea...

I hope S starts to understand a little better. The only thing *and I'm sure others have told you this* I would make sure she'd understand is she can see him when HER time comes. It was Papa's time. 

Again, I'm so sorry. I hope you use us as an outlet and know we're all here for you. 

*hugs*

moosebaby2011

I'm very sorry for your loss.