Oooh..I started all sorts of drama on 3rd trimester...

kertybird

I was talking about my shower and how it was low key and I wanted something comfy to wear since I am on bed rest. It is a family shower for about 30 ladies. Apparently I am the anti-christ because my family is insting that they throw me a second shower.  There are spin-off posts with all sorts of wrong info.  I was quoted as beggin for a shower...umm not even close!  I guess they never got my earlier posts that I kept complaing about trying to turn down the shower for the last few months.

daveshell1

There's nothing wrong with a second shower. ?Enjoy!

Air_Force_Wife

Gotta love it!  Apparently second kids should royally get the shaft!  "Second"  showers that I have attended or participated in have been more of a celebrating the new baby than giving all the essential baby items.  I just know that is all the stress of preterm labor you have been chasing down your loved ones to demand a shower (hope you are noting the sarcasm!)  lol

How are you feeling?

butterbeansmama

I don't see anything wrong with a second "shower"/celebration. Why shouldn't the second, third, fourth, etc. child be celebrated as well as the first. It's only fair!

amanda&rob

Whateves.  Second showers are fine.  Many people just want to give a second shower.  And it will be great for you to have some company and give you something to do since you are on bed rest. 

berry25

I don't agree with second showers unless there are specific reasons (like a long time difference between the births), but that being said, it seems like you did the right thing.  Sometimes etiquette conflicts with itself - here etiquette says no second shower, but that's trumped by being rude to and disappointing people who really want to throw you one!  At the end of the day, what a bunch of people who don't know you say on a message board (including me - ha!) shouldn't matter to you as much as what the people who know and care about you think.

stacynikki

WHy shouldn't there be second or third showers?  A friend of mine has 3 girls all pretty close in age and she was thrown showers for all 3.  I think it's a great way to celebrate a friend's new baby. 

KellyMichelle

I think that second showers are fine.  A shower is to celebrate a baby and every baby should be celebrated.  (Just my opinion)

LittleMamaB

I did not have a second shower, I had a "Come over and help with the nursery" party. There is absolutely nothing wrong with second showers. Sometimes I look at some of the expecting mothers (first timers, especially) and wonder if I was ever like that. I just think that a lot of women calm down after the kids are actually here and stupid little shit like flaming someone over a second shower doesn't seem so important.

Anyway, have fun at your shower : )

RCH151

lol--there is so much drama on 1st,2nd,and 3rd trimester boards...I love how people who haven't had their babies yet are passing judgement on you.  I'm sure you are not gift grubbing, just being polite to some nice people who WANT to throw you a shower.