Parent time question

missyishere

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids?

Do you have a regular sitter or just family?

Have you yet to spend an overnight away?

mamaZbo

We haven't...so sad. We have hung out in the afternoon while DD was at daycare a couple of times. Our work schedules make evenings together difficult.

missyishere

mamaZbo:

We haven't...so sad. We have hung out in the afternoon while DD was at daycare a couple of times. Our work schedules make evenings together difficult.

That makes me sad for you. Although I don't desire going out much, I appreciate and look forward to the few times we've gotten out. I hope you are capable of having some alone time out soon!

wilsontl19191

We went to dinner for DH's birthday when P was a few weeks old.  I was a nervous wreck!!  Any time we go out, he stays with my Mom.  She is wonderful.  Our first night away is at the end of this month!!  I'm ready!

mamaZbo

missyleaferg:

mamaZbo:

We haven't...so sad. We have hung out in the afternoon while DD was at daycare a couple of times. Our work schedules make evenings together difficult.

That makes me sad for you. Although I don't desire going out much, I appreciate and look forward to the few times we've gotten out. I hope you are capable of having some alone time out soon!

Thanks, me too.

Elsa1984

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids?

Gator was five months old. We went to Vegas for five days for a wedding. A week before we left, she ha a "trial stay" for one night...we went to a concert.

Do you have a regular sitter or just family?

We have both. If we are doing something with family, then we use our sitter.

Have you yet to spend an overnight away?

No. We had the one night at the concert and the five days in Vegas when she was 5 months. The night of my high school reunion, she stayed the night at my parents she was 9mo. She will be staying with IL's next month when we go to Mt Bachelor to snowboard for a weekend.

Edited to add: I read that first question wrong and thought you meant like vacation or whole night away. When Gator was 3 weeks old, we left her with IL's and went for pizza down the street. Currently, we try and get out every other week without her. It's good for us, an it's good for her to have fun with my parents or SO's parents.

kagl08

1st time away from DS was about 2 months. He had lots of issues otherwise it would have been much sooner. We try to do monthly date night. 

My mom watches our kids whenever we need her to. No regular sitter, and no one else watches them. 

Overnight? We have not been away from our kids since DS was born. I will be away from both of them for the 1st time Monday night when Im in the hospital after my surgery. I'm actually more excited than sad (about leaving them).  

 

Ms.Jade

I think E was 7 months old when we went on our first night out for our birthdays (we're 6 days apart). 

We use family mostly but we have a young lady who works with DH part time and is a nanny part time. She's amazing!

No overnights away yet.  

 

Stewartandmaura

Our first night out was when E was about 2 months. We went to a Christmas party.

We go out at least once a month. My nieces babysit for us. 

We are supposed to go to Hawaii in April for 4 nights without E and the thought of it makes me sick right now. We haven't left her overnight yet and she doesn't sleep well right now. My sister (the one with the nieces that babysit) is going to keep her for us.

jwls84

Our first night away was our anniversary, he was about 8 weeks and we just went for dinner. Our first over night away was my birthday and he was just over a year. We live in the same neighborhood as our family, so we have a lot of family to watch him regularly for dinners out and such. I don't care to spend over nights away, but having a dinner free every now and again is nice. I think it has been good for us to have some time just the two of us. We are looking for a regular babysitter though so we don't depend on family too much, but they love watching him so it's All good!

missyishere

I am hoping to plan some time away with DH this year, but both of us being away from DD scares me.  We only have my MIL to watch her at any time.  She's all we've got.  I don't think we went out together until she was 8 months old, but she was so colic for the first several months, I didn't want to put that on anyone. 

morsey2011

missyleaferg:

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids?

She was probably about 10 weeks old and we dropped her off at my parents house and had dinner, then went Christmas shopping for about an hour.  

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? All but one time it was my mom. The only time we hired a sitter (a teenager from our church) my mom got so upset, she cried because according to her, "that's her job" to be the sitter. 

Have you yet to spend an overnight away?

no. I am totally not ready. DH jokingly said the other day that he could take her with him when he goes to help his parents move so I could have a weekend to myself and I started crying. 

blu-eyedwife

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids? About 6 weeks?  We went out for DH's birthday the November following LBB's birth.

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? Just family.  We've been totally dragging on finding a sitter.

Have you yet to spend an overnight away? I have, and he has, but we haven't together.

lkm2006

We had our first night out when he was about two weeks old. This was also the first, and only, time we have ever left him overnight.

My mom is really the only one that baby sits so we don't have date night frequently. Maybe one in the past couple of months. I'm hoping to squeeze one more in before the baby.

stardust317

We probably go out to dinner once every 2-3 weeks without kids. We,ve had a fair amount of overnight trips and one 3 day trip. We also were in the hospital for 4 nights when I had DD2. We have a lot of family in the area and have never needed a sitter.

thefeetles

missyleaferg:

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids? It was months after he was born. We have no family within 3 hours of us and I didn't want to trust anyone else.  

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? Just family, especially now with 2u2.  

Have you yet to spend an overnight away? We did a trial overnight away in November in prep for when we had DS2. Then we were away for DS2 birth. I would really love a night away at this point!

Scramblersmom

missyleaferg:

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids? It has yet to happen. Our daycare have parent's night out but they usually let us know at the last minute before DH and I can think of something to do. We don't really have anyone around here that can watch him for us or that we want to impose on. We may utilize PNO this month.

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? Only family and the closest is 1.5 hrs away.

Have you yet to spend an overnight away? No.

My brother and SIL are notorious for leaving their kids with the Grandparents. They often just assume it is OK and often don't even really ask. I think that has made me super-sensitive to making my parent's watch DS. My Mom will come in Feb to watch DS for 3 days but we will be here in the evenings. Also, my couple of friends are really super busy with their own kids who are much older than DS so I feel uncomfortable asking them for favors.

Shannon526

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids?  I can't remember when we had our first "evening" out, but I remember our first "day" date out lol. We were still living in FL, so L was less than 3 months old. We went out to an Italian restaurant down the street, we were probably only out for less than 2 hours, but it felt like much longer I was so anxious leaving her.

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? We have my mom or dad (or sometimes my brothers) watch her if we need to run an errand/go to work/have adult time/etc.

Have you yet to spend an overnight away?  No and I have no idea when I will be ready for that... L didn't STTN until very recently (maybe 13 months?), so I was always nervous leaving her with my mom/dad for that reason.  I guess I've just never had a reason to leave her overnight either... I lead a boring life haha

joolz17

]When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids?

we left him for a few hours when he was 3 weeks old because we had tickets to the Michael Jackson Cirque show that we bought before I was pregnant.

Our first date after that was probably when he was around 6 weeks.  

Do you have a regular sitter or just family?

 Almost always family, but we do have a sitter to call in a pinch. 

Have you yet to spend an overnight away?

we have spent lots of overnights away, and two weekends.

joolz17

After reading the replies, I've also been away on a few girls weekends while my husband was home. I meant we've been away together for two weekends and left G with family. 

colliebabe

I would've never admitted this on here back then, but at 5 weeks H and I went away overnight. We had the plans even before we got pregnant, so we kept them. I'm sure if I admitted that at the time I would've been flamed to high hell! Maybe I still will be.

We go out fairly regularly on our own, like a girls night out or he goes out with the guys. The other one stays home. We go out together maybe every 2 or 3 weeks?

The first time I left DD alone for a night out was probably when she was two weeks or so. I've had a few nights away by myself and so has H, and we've been away together a bunch of times. We're going to Vegas in two weeks and leaving her with my mom for 5 nights.

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colleenb262:

I would've never admitted this on here back then, but at 5 weeks H and I went away overnight. We had the plans even before we got pregnant, so we kept them. I'm sure if I admitted that at the time I would've been flamed to high hell! Maybe I still will be.

::sideeyes the people who imaginary flamed you::

We went out to a friend's birthday party in early December, so she was like 6 weeks-ish old.  We've only been out together a handful of times.  Usually its one of us going out with friends while the other stays with the baby.

My mom watches DD when I'm at school.  Which is why we've only been out a handful of times...I don't want to ask her to watch her in the evening too.  I don't have a sitter, but I have plenty of friends I would trust in a pinch.

We have not been away overnight yet.  I don't think it would be a big deal for DD to have my mom come spend the night with her, but we haven't done it yet.  Maybe we'll make plans for our 10th anniversary coming up. 

KrisM86

DH and I went for our first evening out when DD was a few weeks old. However, we were just down the street out to dinner and were only gone 2 hours or so. MIL stayed with DD. We have yet to leave her with anyone but family, as we are lucky enough to have lots of family around.

Our first night away was when DD was 8 months old. My mom lives down the street and she stayed overnight with her as a test run before the wedding. When DH and I got married, we spent 3 nights away. DD was 9 months old then.

adge629

My situation is different since I am a single mom, with a worthless baby daddy. I probably get out w/o my daughter once every other week for a few hours if I am lucky. and then it is just to do some running around or something, nothing special. At that time it is normally my parents that watch her. On the occasion that her father takes her, I am normally at work, but if I am off I get a few hours to myself then too.

My parents and sister are the main sitters. I also have two girlfriends that watch her when need be.

I use to spend one night away a week with my parents having my daughter since I work two jobs. I don't get off one until 11pm, so I get home around 1130 then have to be up and out the door by 4am to get to my second job.  I would spend the night at a friends house. I have since stopped this and I am always home at night, unfortunately this means my daughter gets woken up most nights either when I come home or when I leave.

BeesMomma00

When did you and your SO, DH, or DW first have an evening out away from kids? About 2-3 weeks after B was born, we went out for dinner.

Do you have a regular sitter or just family? Family only. 

Have you yet to spend an overnight away? We have not spent the night away together but have spent the night away individually.  MH more so than I.