I am at a crossroads with my family. I have a younger sister who is special needs so I kind of thought my parents would understand. Since we got the official diagnosis my mom has basically said she will not listen to any autism talk. Today she said when you have a special needs child you just suck it up and know there is no improvement, no therapies, no help.
My mom of course is bipolar and has bad and good days. I feel at this point trying to have a relationship with her is not going to be good for me. FYI - I don't even really mention DD's therapies, progress, autism, etc that much. Just kind of mentioned she was officially diagnosed. Before that my mom basically said she didn't believe in autism.
My mom also seems resentful she didn't have the options we have with regards to therapies, respite care, etc. Then in the same breath she said she never researched what my sister was entitled to.
Am I awful for cutting her out of my life. She will not get help. When I suggested it today she said that I am evil and just want her to admit she neess help so my sister gets taken away. I feel so sad and numb and angry with her right now. I know I need to pull up my big girl panties and get on with my life but ugh.
I don't think I have to ask if this is more than a generational thing. I know alot of grandparents have some issues with the diagnosis, etc but my mom seems alot more severe than that. We left on bad terms and I feel bad but am tired of her ups and downs. Am I horrible if I just take a few months away from our relationship? I worry about not seeing my sister too. UGh, family sucks sometimes! No point really just venting!