S/O Formal Names...

sharrison88

What do you call your ILs? I have a hard time with this and always feel so awkward. DH and I have been together for almost 8 years, married for 2.5. I still call my ILs Mr and Mrs first names. I rarely call them anything to their face. My MIL normally calls her MIL Nana, her grandma name. I feel like this is a habit I will fall into. So, what do you ladies call your ILs or SO's parents.

Sketchipyro

First name only, no Mr or Mrs

KatFCo

I always call them by their first names, like I do my stepdad. They sign cards "Mom and Dad," but because I started out calling them by their first names and they never actually asked me to call them Mom and Dad, I just call them what I always have. DH's grandparents I call Grandma and Grandpa.

SteelCity44

Blech. My IL's where "those" parents that insisted everyone call them "Mama" and "Papa." I loathe calling them by those names, but that's what they asked to be called when I was dating DH. That's what all of DH's friends called them when he was growing up. I hate it. I'm hoping to fade into "grandma" and "grandpa."

FWIW, my parents were straightforward with DH when we got engaged. Feel free to call us by our first names, Mr & Mrs ___ or Mom and Dad. Whatever you're comfortable with, we are, too. DH just avoids referring to their names. When he has to call them, he'll refer to their first name.

In all honestly, I think names are weird. I hardly ever call DH by his real name, and he rarely uses my name. It's weird to say my own name. Names are weird.

Peepp79

I think it's weird calling them by their first name and also by Mom or Dad. I already have a Mom and Dad.  I think it's weird when my brother calls his ILs Mom and Dad. I feel it's disrespectful to my parents. I'm weird, I know. Anyways, for my ILs I would just get their attention by looking at them and then talking to them so I could avoid saying any kind of name. When talking about them, I just refer to them as DH's mom or DH's Dad. My FIL says I can call him Dad and my MIL signs everything "MIL" but at some point told me I could call her by her first name. Now I call everyone by their new titles...Nonni and Poppy. And I just call their SOs Peepaw and the other one just by her first name. It's just easier this way and not so weird. Anyways, sorry for the long response.

LolaBelle515

I grew up in a more formal family, and when I met my ILs for the very first time (a few months into dating), I said, "Nice to meet you, Mr. Last Name..."

They laughed at me...so I call them by their first names.

 

My dad called my grandparents Mr and Mrs. Last Name.  My mom called my dad's parents by their first names.

I guess it's just up to the family!   

KatFCo

SteelCity44:

FWIW, my parents were straightforward with DH when we got engaged. Feel free to call us by our first names, Mr & Mrs ___ or Mom and Dad. Whatever you're comfortable with, we are, too. DH just avoids referring to their names. When he has to call them, he'll refer to their first name.

Ha! This is my DH and my mom to a tee. She even once commented on it. We've been married ten years, so he's gotten used to it, but it's still odd for him.

jcsntms06

I use their first names.

Torani

I call them by their first names, but around my toddler I call them Nonnie and Nonno.  DH call my mom "Mom" but that feels weird to me.  I have one mom, and that's the one that raised me. 

Sclines2595

I call them by their first name......but try my best to avoid them at all costs

kmh1203

I don't call them anything.
When I talk to them, I don't call them by name, I just talk to them. I'm like this with most people I'm not extremely comfortable with. I don't know if that makes sense.
I also think I'll end up being one of those people who just calls them Grandma and Grandpa.