advice please

1+twins=ohmy

DH and I are expecting a boy in 6 weeks. The only name DH likes is Joey (Joseph), I like it but there are others I like more. Every time we talk about names he says "no, how about Joey". Im getting really annoyed, how do I get him to at least consider other names?

kayjay10

Maybe each of you make a list of 5 names?  At least then maybe you can get 4 more to consider.

Murphie82

It's in my nature to try to make light of everything so if I was in the same situation, I would jokingly threaten to name him Joey (Joseph) but only if he could have my maiden name as his last name...  I'm pretty sure my fiance would start taking other name suggestions a little more seriously at that point.

Anyway, good luck!

EastCoastBride

Have you TOLD him that this is annoying you and you want to have an adult conversation about names, and you need for him to be open minded?

That being said- what if he does consider other names and what if he STILL really can't get past Joey?  What if that really is THE name he wants?

 

526SadieSadie

We were the same way with Olivia.  Every time I brought up names he'd say he still liked Olivia more than anything.  I did find it annoying but in the end, I didn't love anything more than he loved Olivia and now I can't imagine her name being anything else.

1+twins=ohmy

Yes I have told him that we need to act like adults and really discuss it. Ive asked him if he's ok with naming the baby something Im not really happy about and he says Ill learn to like it. I have also had him make a list of names he likes and the only names on his list are Joey and Joseph. Im just at a loss as to what to do. Looks like I might have to be the bigger person and just go with Joey even though I don't want to.

kayjay10

I'm not sure what to tell you then.  My DH and I decided early on that we would not name our LO anything that the other didn't like.  We respect each other enough to know that we both have a say in the name.  FWIW, I do like Joseph.  But if you do not, then your DH needs to take it off the table.  Your son will have his surname I'm guessing?

TheWop

kayjay10:

I'm not sure what to tell you then.  My DH and I decided early on that we would not name our LO anything that the other didn't like.  We respect each other enough to know that we both have a say in the name.  FWIW, I do like Joseph.  But if you do not, then your DH needs to take it off the table.  Your son will have his surname I'm guessing?

mdesmond2320

My husband is doing the same with the name Samantha.  While I like the name I just can't go with it for some reason.  We discussed it and since I feel strongly about other names I'm picking for this one (he has veto power though) and he'll pick for the next one.  Not sure how this will work out for us as we have a while to go, but we'll see.

MrsJ723

TheWop:

kayjay10:

I'm not sure what to tell you then.  My DH and I decided early on that we would not name our LO anything that the other didn't like.  We respect each other enough to know that we both have a say in the name.  FWIW, I do like Joseph.  But if you do not, then your DH needs to take it off the table.  Your son will have his surname I'm guessing?

+2.  Frankly, I feel your husband is being disrespectful of your opinion and feelings. I understand he really likes the name, but it should be a decision the two of you make together, not something one person decides and the other "learns to like". 

danabsd

What about suggesting Joesph as a MN.

blaa27

I agree with the bit about him being disrespectful. Your little boy is getting his last name, you should get some say. I'd compromise, give it as a middle name. And when he gives you grief, do what I do: say 'are we forgetting whose doing all the hard work to get him here? YOU push him out of your body, then you get to decide everything.'